Girls, What would you think if you found out a guy you rejected years back is still single?

Question

What would you think if you found out a guy you rejected years back is still single?

Like what would you say if you he has never really recovered and it kind of shattered his own perception of who he thought he was

Updates:

1 mo

Like it’s still bothers me

1 mo

Thanks for your opinions

Answer 1

silvermoon84 | 110 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Explorer

if I did reject him it was because I wasn’t attracted to him and didn’t want to lead him on. With that being said, if I found out years later he was still hurting I would feel bad.

Asker

1 mo
Yeah a girl rejected me 3 years ago and I honestly thought I was rebuilding my self image I felt comfortable around her and I started to feel good about myself so much where it gave me the confidence to tell her I liked her and then every thing after that is what caused my world to shatter I’ll post the story
Asker

1 mo
I saw a girl who I stopped talking to that I used to work with. When we worked together I developed a crush on her and always found reasons to be near her practically everyone in the store knew I liked her. So one day I put my nerves aside and told her how I felt which she replied she didn’t have feelings like that for me that I reminded her too much of her best friend cause he was also biracial. So I just hung my head and tried to avoid her well she ended up going to everyone in the store asking why I was avoiding her and what she did wrong. Eventually we started talking again and she ended up coming over to my house she told me twice that she felt it was meant for her to be in my life. In that moment my heart felt love I kinda wish that she wouldn’t have said that cause that allowed me to let my love for her completely out. But days later she gave me a ride home and told me she wouldn’t date me if I was the last guy on earth. She actually wanted me to give her contact information to another guy we work with and she told me all the things sexually she wanted to do with him. I was extremely hurt and honestly I still haven’t let it go because it’s one of those traumatic events each time I tried to escape she would reel me back in. After she rejected me for the second time I started avoiding her and not talking to her and she goes I’m not gonna leave you alone until you talk to me. So I talked to her and she told all the managers I was harassing her then she proceeded to turn everyone at work against me. I really have been the same since
silvermoon84

1 mo
She knew how much you liked her and took advantage. I’m sorry you had to deal with that (and that you’re still hurting), but you definitely deserve better. I’m sure you’ll eventually get over it. Some people just take longer than others to get over stuff like that
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Asker

1 mo
But why what did I do to deserve that I had good intentions when she curled up to me and said I feel it was meant for you to be in my life I literally thought this is it I’m finally getting a girlfriend.
Asker

1 mo
No girl had ever said that to me
silvermoon84

1 mo
It’s normal to feel that way, but you didn’t do anything to deserve that. This just the way that she is. Some people are just like that and it’s their problem, not yours. Unfortunately the decent people get hurt because of it. I think sometimes we just choose to love the wrong people - which everyone does otherwise there wouldn’t be so many bitter people of both genders on the Internet bashing men or bashing women (I’m not saying you’re one of them, I’m only generally speaking).
Asker

1 mo
Yeah I’m not bashing but I haven’t recovered
silvermoon84

1 mo
No worries. I know you’re not bashing, but I’ve seen both genders do it a lot, especially here on GAG. You will recover. It might take a while, but you will. I promise
Asker

1 mo
How can I open my heart again because as you read she had me at my most vulnerable point my heart was completely open
silvermoon84

1 mo
Just give it time and work on yourself for the time being. That’s really all you can do. Hang out with friends, spend time with your family, find a hobby that you enjoy, etc. it might take a while but you can do it.
Asker

1 mo
If I post a picture can you tell me if my looks are the issue
silvermoon84

1 mo
I guarantee you the problem is her, not you but if you want me to, sure
Asker

1 mo
https://imgur.com/a/fAwROiY
silvermoon84

30 d
The link didn’t work
Asker

30 d
https://imgur.com/a/LNJaGbf
silvermoon84

30 d
You look fine. Like I said earlier it’s her, not you.
Asker

30 d
You don’t think I have a hideous face
silvermoon84

30 d
No you don’t
Asker

30 d
How I mean look how gross looking it is
silvermoon84

30 d
You’re not gross looking. But if I can be honest you’re beating a dead horse with a stick dwelling on her and that’s not going to help you.
Asker

30 d
Ok so what am i in terms of looks
Asker

30 d
Rating wise

Answer 2

Asker

Yeah a girl rejected me 3 years ago and I honestly thought I was rebuilding my self image I felt comfortable around her and I started to feel good about myself so much where it gave me the confidence to tell her I liked her and then every thing after that is what caused my world to shatter I’ll post the story

Answer 3

Asker

I saw a girl who I stopped talking to that I used to work with. When we worked together I developed a crush on her and always found reasons to be near her practically everyone in the store knew I liked her. So one day I put my nerves aside and told her how I felt which she replied she didn’t have feelings like that for me that I reminded her too much of her best friend cause he was also biracial. So I just hung my head and tried to avoid her well she ended up going to everyone in the store asking why I was avoiding her and what she did wrong. Eventually we started talking again and she ended up coming over to my house she told me twice that she felt it was meant for her to be in my life. In that moment my heart felt love I kinda wish that she wouldn’t have said that cause that allowed me to let my love for her completely out. But days later she gave me a ride home and told me she wouldn’t date me if I was the last guy on earth. She actually wanted me to give her contact information to another guy we work with and she told me all the things sexually she wanted to do with him. I was extremely hurt and honestly I still haven’t let it go because it’s one of those traumatic events each time I tried to escape she would reel me back in. After she rejected me for the second time I started avoiding her and not talking to her and she goes I’m not gonna leave you alone until you talk to me. So I talked to her and she told all the managers I was harassing her then she proceeded to turn everyone at work against me. I really have been the same since

Answer 4

silvermoon84

She knew how much you liked her and took advantage. I’m sorry you had to deal with that (and that you’re still hurting), but you definitely deserve better. I’m sure you’ll eventually get over it. Some people just take longer than others to get over stuff like that

Answer 5

Asker

But why what did I do to deserve that I had good intentions when she curled up to me and said I feel it was meant for you to be in my life I literally thought this is it I’m finally getting a girlfriend.

Answer 6

Asker

No girl had ever said that to me

Answer 7

silvermoon84

It’s normal to feel that way, but you didn’t do anything to deserve that. This just the way that she is. Some people are just like that and it’s their problem, not yours. Unfortunately the decent people get hurt because of it. I think sometimes we just choose to love the wrong people - which everyone does otherwise there wouldn’t be so many bitter people of both genders on the Internet bashing men or bashing women (I’m not saying you’re one of them, I’m only generally speaking).

Answer 8

Asker

Yeah I’m not bashing but I haven’t recovered

Answer 9

silvermoon84

No worries. I know you’re not bashing, but I’ve seen both genders do it a lot, especially here on GAG. You will recover. It might take a while, but you will. I promise

Answer 10

Asker

How can I open my heart again because as you read she had me at my most vulnerable point my heart was completely open

Answer 11

silvermoon84

Just give it time and work on yourself for the time being. That’s really all you can do. Hang out with friends, spend time with your family, find a hobby that you enjoy, etc. it might take a while but you can do it.