Is it normal to think when you get rejected it’s not the girl there’s clearly something wrong with you?

[TemptedTerry]

There is a phrase I remember Jordan Peterson said:

"If all the women keep rejecting you, than the problem does not lay with all the women".

It is very apt. Look man, everyone is competing with everyone for a long term mate. I read the conversation you have going with someone else. You don't believe you are attractive to the other sex. Fortunately, being a guy, looks is only one component women assess a guy on.

The best advice is this: be the best man you can be. Do everything with honor and good intentions, and embrace responsibilities. Look at what you are not happy with in life and work on those areas. Your life will improve and it will show to others.

For example, men who are feeling low, tend to eat worse, perhaps smoke, and don't exercise. Start by changing them aspects. Making yourself into the best man you can be takes time and effort, but the rewards can be astounding.

eg of chain reaction: You quit smoking. You cut out junk food, and eat right. You join a gym, or run in the park daily. That change there will change you both physically and mentally. You will be more healthy, have more energy, and generally feel much better. It will get noticed by others. Perhaps with your extra energy, you can do some overtime at work.

All of a sudden, you are earning extra money, you look and feel better, and a consequence of that is people will notice, and opportunities for social engagements start to open up. Perhaps even a date, or you meet someone at one of these social engagements?

Women assess men on several aspects: wealth, status, strength (mental and physical), looks, virility, confidence and nature (a good moral compass).

If you work on yourself, you will start to tick the boxes that women assess a man on. And the more you tick, the more females will take notice.

Good luck man. Your life is in your own hands ;)

[BunOwl]

I believe its normal to think like that at least mostly. People tend to search problems on them selves not only in this regard but I see why its particularly bad, since for most people a realtionship is a really big deal in life. But the only thing I can tell you is that no matter how good you look or how many qualities you have there is always someone who doesn't like you and just like that there is certainly someone who does like you just the way you are and will not reject you, the best thing to do is just live your life and you will be happy in a relationship some day if you want one, Im pretty sure about that. Dont be to hard on yourself.