Guys, does it turn you off if a girl grew up privileged?

[Itsok2behapp-e]

In a reply to another post I asked a fellow GAG member to do this:


I want you to create an online profile as a test for 1x woman


Your test woman attributes are as follows


"My Mama told me to be a honest woman so here I am boys!"


[Choose any age, maybe not someone in their prime]


[Choose any height, maybe not the most attractive of heights]


Morbidly obese


Unemployed


Homeless (actually resident in a local shelter which has a rat infestation)


5 children still at home (in the shelter with me)


Don't drive.


Can accommodate (at the shelter) with a urine stained mattress on the floor (weak bladder and the toilet in the shelter is broken so I just wet the bed!)


Long dark hair (with a lice infestation)


Multiple sexually transmitted diseases


Multiple mental health problems


Atrociously bad breath!


Black teeth and riddled with gum disease


Unkempt nails/not cut for two decades!


Blind in right eye


Deaf in left ear


Environmentally friendly as I minimize water usage so only bathe once every three months (subject to the water bill being paid... Can you help with that please?)


Heavy smoker


Frequent drug user


Drink daily so bring me a bottle or three!


Now someone out there, will think the above is the one, their dream girl and another will think you're the one.


Take both of you into a neutral environment and strip you both naked of all your possessions and clothes... You're just left with skin and bones.


Two human beings all the same.


Whatever you have in this materialistic world when the Grim Reaper (example below of what he looks likes) ...... comes knocking at your door (he may not as I've not experienced his politeness) he doesn't differentiate between the two.


Be grateful for what you have and never


#1 Think you're better than anyone else.
#2 Ever forget that at any moment in time you could become the woman in the description up above.
#3 Take anything for granted.


Stay grounded. Stay humble.

[Searlas]

In life, its human to relate to a good desire, when we watch a romantic movie or read a novel, we wish and tend to relate ourselves to the good part emotionally. We are able to recreate and feel the romantic connection between the actors, since the story is mainly centered on the romance but not the real life on the ground, the bills to be paid, the hunger, the pain, etc. So, when we are young growing, we grow up focused on the love, romance and happiness part and turn a blind eye to the real life till we start to earn and stand by ourselves, that's is when we realize, life is not entirely about love but there bills too to be paid. Any young person can claim love matters more than finances, but in real life, there is no love without money, you can't eat love.

Now back to your question, it not a matter of a turn off but technicalities, it wouldn't work if you had someone less privileged, it will be hard to maintain your lifestyle (whatever you might consider ordinary doesn't mean its ordinary to him), unless you maintain it yourself and complain he doesn't do anything for you or you are using your money to 'feed' him, and you start pushing him around and will loose his self esteem. All women hate it when they are getting bills paid even if they can afford it, truth be told.
You would be what is considered a rich girl, if you choose to continue with this privilege by either joining family business, and family money, then you need a guy in your class. If you meet a serious guy who grew less privileged, then you must leave your parents money, get a job, hustle with him and build your lives together, understand a different angle of life, understand why someone would go for the cheapest and not the best and it will be practical, there will be respect between you two because you worked hard for it.

[RingOfFire]

I feel pity for you. You are a victim of the stupidest cultural sickness in American history. Instead of feeling ashamed and apologetic about your family's success, you should feel proud and unapologetic. That kind of success is what America is all about.

Somewhere in your family's background, someone came to America from another country with nothing but the clothes on their back. And America gave them the opportunity that it gives all such immigrants and citizens of every race and nationality to become successful. There is no nation in the world which has given more opportunity for success to more people of every race and nationality than the United States of America.

Don't be ashamed of your family's success. CELEBRATE IT. The question you should be asking is why would you be interested in anyone who thinks you are undesirable because of your success in life. Is that really the kind of guy you want?

A guy like that should be worried that YOU will reject HIM, not the other way around.

I hate how your generation has been brainwashed into thinking success is something bad. It isn't bad. It is the American dream and your family had the talent and did the hard work needed to achieve it. You should be very proud! It is what EVERY American should admire and aspire to achieve.

[connythebaker]

All depends on you. The very first minutes of interaction already reveal a lot of your personality. The other person will have an impression of you before they even know about your privileged upbringing.
Best is to challenge yourself and set reasonably high goals. This way you will not be in danger of letting yourself down just because you may not be required to work as hard as others. In a way most people from western nations are privileged compared to those who grew up in poorer countries, so picking your own challenges in life is actually good advice for most of us.

[Oigit]

I'd give you a chance. Simply because I live by the rule of treat people the way you want to be treated. Since I would want you to get me a chance it would wrong for me to not give you one. Though in a way it will probably be a shock on both of our ends. Simply due to our different life experiences.

Though we both could cover come it. If people are willing to put differences and assumptions aside, have simple, honest conversations, they can overcome a lot. The vast majority of them they quickly find out they are not that different.

[ArrowheadSW]

It just depends on the person really. I grew up with a guy who married a woman from a more privileged area and she came from an affluent family. She expected the same lifestyle as an adult. He makes A LOT of money but she acts like it isn't enough. We're talking near $200,000 a year, and they are still broke.

I know another lady who is a MUCH nicer person than that one, but she grew up having everything she wanted and she even had her dad RETURN the car that he bought her when she graduated from high school. Now, decades later, she doesn't know how to manage her finances and never really got a decent job.

So to me it depends on what her life expectations are and if she can take a "step down" if need be. Because in reality it would be hard to keep up with that sort of lifestyle.

[ohshee]

Most of the time yes but every once in awhile I meet one that's lives in the real world,, for me i want to meet the girl. Who had nothing in a way because she loves life looks at life from her heart she has felt the pain and knows what it is like not to have or to struggle or what it's like to work grass if to get very little that girl I will take anyway over someone who has never felt thst pain before because she is real and is a giver of self to help others become the best to me that person it the most beautiful in the world

[Rexos]

A lot of guys might assume stuff but at the end of the day your personality is what matters. If your more privileged life hasn't negatively affected how you behave and view other people, especially less fortunate ones, then it doesn't matter.
I would expect you to be ignorant about people who's perspectives you just don't have, but that's not an issue if you're aware of that and open to being corrected if you get something wrong.
The other issue is that a lot of men still believe that it's the men's role to provide and wouldn't feel comfortable around a wealthier woman, I think that way of thinking is outdated.

[thehorriblesheikh]

I think there's a general idea that women can be demanding, act like a diva at times. People assume that a rich woman will be even more demanding, but I think it all comes down to the person. Wether rich or poor, it's what one's parents, friends, other important people taught the person in question that matters. I used to be poor enough that we couldn't even afford 3 meals a day, but now I am considered middle class to upper middle class in my country.

There are people in my extended family that were no better when they were poor, and being rich hasn't had a good effect on them, they are what they always were.

I think you should worry about how you come across to others as that can be very useful for someone who is relatively rich. But don't let that make you feel guilty all the time.

[JSmuve]

The fact that you describe all that and still don't consider yourself rich just shows how out of touch with reality you are, which is characteristic of high-maintenance, self-centered, rich girls and isn't attractive. Those girls are typically snobbish to any guy they feel is not on her level because they're so used to a certain lifestyle that they feel entitled to only the best. So if a guy doesn't measure up to her lavish expectations then he's discarded, which is also very unattractive behavior.

[BeyondCuriosity]

I wouldn't say it's a turn off so much as a red flag. It's not like a deal breaker, but I need a sign that she's not the typical rich girl like you mentioned. I will admit that, yes, it would be my initial assumption that those things are true, but I also would not force a person into that box if they showed me that they were better than that and that we had enough common ground to be compatible.

Rich people in general can sometimes make me uncomfortable, because I feel like my typical behavior and appearance might be somehow offensive to them. It makes me nervous. I'm not so oblivious to think that the same couldn't be true in reverse though.

[Anonymous]

I won't assume you're snobby just because you come from a well to do background. Its not a turn off at all. I'm also from a well to do background and I don't consider myself snobbish. I just try to look out and try to see if people are really my friends or after my privileged background and would know i might come in handy for them in that manner some day. The plus side for me is if i get on with a girl who grew up priviliged, we both would understand each other better and chances are neither of us will be after each other for their assets and if things go well, being with someone of a rather equal status means we both would be familiar with the similar lifestyle and adjustments would also be reasonable.

[jgokgotit]

The things I look for in a woman has less to do with her background and more to do with who she is now and how she acts. I look for women who can bring something to my life and I can bring something to their lives. Growing up privileged would not bother me unless she is unable to understand my struggles. For example, I grew up in the ghetto, moved around a lot as a child and had to join the military to make a better life for myself. That makes me a very tough person mentally and how I conduct myself and treat others. A woman who has not had to struggle to survive like me is ok to date if I do not feel judged by her and if we can use our backgrounds to create something better rather than the relationship bending towards one or the other of our backgrounds. Hope that made sense.

[Dongtai]

It depends on how you carry yourself. If you treat people well and with a basic level of respect you wouldn’t turn guys off. But if you were stuck up and rude depending on who you spoke to, most guys won’t be into you.


You can’t usually tell if a person is privileged just by looking at them. Your character speaks more about you than what the eyes can see.

[jshm2]

Don't be silly. You've the same pussy, tits, blood and emotional baggage as any other female.

Wealth is not any sort of judge of competency or character.
If you try and hide behind it, then it will smother you and any chance of a worthwhile relationship you have. It will end up your parents will choose your partner, and you'll be miserable with them as you want to protect the "family name" and "assets".

[Erobos412]

Yes as moist snowplowed adults who have not encountered hardships tend to be inconsiderate and immature and they have a degree of child mentality in older age and it is not sexy at all.

It is also no stable foundation to build a therapeutic relationship that do not drag you down to misery.

[MrNameless]

A lot of people come from hard upbringings and will hold resentment for people that get financially helped by their parents (especially if they live with their parents). Not much you can do about it, besides showing that you are self competent and empathetic and not snobby or anything.

[Angelo75]

Well it's more the "current attitude" that would turn a guy off.
I don't care too much about how many things you've seen or owned.
As long as you make me feel that I'm your everything and that I'm interesting enough to have your UNDIVIDED attention, i'd be melting all over you.

[hahahmm]

#1. When I was younger I would never consider a serious relationship with a woman who has more money than me because I would neverr want to live off a woman & that’s what would happen if we need to live the lifestyle you’re used to and I can’t afford it.
#2 outside of that as long as you aren’t an a-hole it doesn’t matter

[Anonymous]

Pretty Entitled Attention-whores (PEAs)
are a dime a dozen. Most western females seem to have the spoiled brat mentality even if they don’t actually come from money.
It’s almost impossible to find a girl who doesn’t have slutty insta, vsco, tiktok account... or dress like a hooker in public.

So... actually coming from privilege doesn’t make you any different than most other ”pretty” girls, you can toss a rock and hit half a dozen.
It’s the attitude that will make you stand out. If you act like an entitled snot... you will be just like the rest. But be humble and have some class and you will be worth keeping.

[Kaneki05]

No not at all. I would judge them personally as i get to know them. And if they were to do the same thing to me who isn't fortunate then i could easy guess right away they ain't a nasty person who just assumes people lower down in class are beneath them.

[jamesgoldman]

No, i'm friends with millionaires, I've tried on a £120,000 Patek Philippe and been in a Koenigsegg and soon will get to sample a Carrera GT thanks to those friends

N. b. My ex was somewhat obsessed with Chanel from wearing Mademoiselle everyday (that sweet Turkish delight scent) to owning a Boy bag and a J12, add to that the time she tried to buy me a £5,000 watch

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say it’s a turn off but it can definitely cause friction in the relationship, coming from 2 completely different backgrounds. Your ideas of how to raise and discipline kids will most likely be different. Coming from a shitty upbringing (like a lot of people are) I’m perceived as heartless by those who don’t know me when in fact I’m trying to teach my little sister that life isn’t all pretty and nothing gets handed for free. When something occurs it sucks but it can always be worse. I’m called a pessimist for expecting the worse. I call it being realistic while hoping for the best.

[chriscdi]

no i give women chances, i would give her a chance, if im talking to her and she seems like a bitch then i wouldn't like her like that, supposely my ex had a good amount of money but i never really cared, i was still gonna pay for dates and gifts, money is good but its not important, i liked her cause she was so different than other girls

[EssenceOfLight]

"Guys, does it turn you off if a girl grew up privileged?"

Nope.

"But would any men assume my upbringing makes me snobby, high maintenance, or otherwise unattractive? "

Not necessarily. Snobbism and bragging with wealth is new rich phenomenon. "High maintenance" means spoiled princess/prince and this behavior appears in people from different social backgrounds

[Anonymous]

It depends. If she's kind, humble, selfless and caring despite her rich background, no. If she can adjust to normal conditions and if she uses her money productively, it will be a bonus. If she is responsible and isn't dependent always on her family for everything, it'll be better. But if she's selfish, cruel, arrogant I wouldn't trust her completely.

[vlx-na]

It isn't a turn off per se and can even be a plus, if it came with good education, proper upbringing, etc. You had a lot of free time to invest into yourself growing up. If you didn't waste it all on stupid things and became a skilled and educated person, able to sustain your level of wealth - it's something I'd respect and happy to be dating such girl.

If you're just used to being given everything for free and don't seek to make something out of your fantastic start - then it's bad.

[YHL6965]

Honestly, a bit for me. I know it's stereotypical but I would expect her to be kind of snob or not know the values of things, being unaware of poorer people's struggle and not caring about them. However, I'm aware that all of that is just stereotypes and, ultimately, it will not matter at all once I get to know her as a person.

[Torari]

All women in the western world are the most privileged group of people in the history of the world. Life as a white woman is life on easy mode compared to anyone else, especially any male group.

It doesn't turn me on, but it doesn't turn me off either.

[Twenty2]

If you're sweet, you'll be sweet to me. If you're a bitch, you'll be a bitch to me. I don't care about background because I am not going to be with your background but you (or whomsoever it may be). Would it turn you off if the guy grew up unprivileged? And still is unprivileged?

[jgibsonian1986]

For me at least when I see a woman who has the appearance of being well off it makes me feel really bad about the clothes I wear and my own financial position. It makes me feel like I should have accomplished more and that I should be better well off than I am now. And I never want to make it out like I want a person's wealth, which also makes me feel bad when people spend money on me.

It doesn't turn me off that a girl grew up privileged, it makes me wish I had more of myself to offer.

[keddesh]

I don't hold anyone's upbringing against them, I hold their treatment of me against them. So long as you try to be understanding of their situation or point of view I don't see any reason why they shouldn't treat you with the same courtesy. I would probably feel an internal expectation to try to measure up, but don't think that's got anything to do with you necessarily, for me it would be a matter of personal pride.