Guys, does it turn you off if a girl grew up privileged?

[Itsok2behapp-e]

In a reply to another post I asked a fellow GAG member to do this:


I want you to create an online profile as a test for 1x woman


Your test woman attributes are as follows


"My Mama told me to be a honest woman so here I am boys!"


[Choose any age, maybe not someone in their prime]


[Choose any height, maybe not the most attractive of heights]


Morbidly obese


Unemployed


Homeless (actually resident in a local shelter which has a rat infestation)


5 children still at home (in the shelter with me)


Don't drive.


Can accommodate (at the shelter) with a urine stained mattress on the floor (weak bladder and the toilet in the shelter is broken so I just wet the bed!)


Long dark hair (with a lice infestation)


Multiple sexually transmitted diseases


Multiple mental health problems


Atrociously bad breath!


Black teeth and riddled with gum disease


Unkempt nails/not cut for two decades!


Blind in right eye


Deaf in left ear


Environmentally friendly as I minimize water usage so only bathe once every three months (subject to the water bill being paid... Can you help with that please?)


Heavy smoker


Frequent drug user


Drink daily so bring me a bottle or three!


Now someone out there, will think the above is the one, their dream girl and another will think you're the one.


Take both of you into a neutral environment and strip you both naked of all your possessions and clothes... You're just left with skin and bones.


Two human beings all the same.


Whatever you have in this materialistic world when the Grim Reaper (example below of what he looks likes) ...... comes knocking at your door (he may not as I've not experienced his politeness) he doesn't differentiate between the two.


Be grateful for what you have and never


#1 Think you're better than anyone else.
#2 Ever forget that at any moment in time you could become the woman in the description up above.
#3 Take anything for granted.


Stay grounded. Stay humble.

[Searlas]

In life, its human to relate to a good desire, when we watch a romantic movie or read a novel, we wish and tend to relate ourselves to the good part emotionally. We are able to recreate and feel the romantic connection between the actors, since the story is mainly centered on the romance but not the real life on the ground, the bills to be paid, the hunger, the pain, etc. So, when we are young growing, we grow up focused on the love, romance and happiness part and turn a blind eye to the real life till we start to earn and stand by ourselves, that's is when we realize, life is not entirely about love but there bills too to be paid. Any young person can claim love matters more than finances, but in real life, there is no love without money, you can't eat love.

Now back to your question, it not a matter of a turn off but technicalities, it wouldn't work if you had someone less privileged, it will be hard to maintain your lifestyle (whatever you might consider ordinary doesn't mean its ordinary to him), unless you maintain it yourself and complain he doesn't do anything for you or you are using your money to 'feed' him, and you start pushing him around and will loose his self esteem. All women hate it when they are getting bills paid even if they can afford it, truth be told.
You would be what is considered a rich girl, if you choose to continue with this privilege by either joining family business, and family money, then you need a guy in your class. If you meet a serious guy who grew less privileged, then you must leave your parents money, get a job, hustle with him and build your lives together, understand a different angle of life, understand why someone would go for the cheapest and not the best and it will be practical, there will be respect between you two because you worked hard for it.

[RingOfFire]

I feel pity for you. You are a victim of the stupidest cultural sickness in American history. Instead of feeling ashamed and apologetic about your family's success, you should feel proud and unapologetic. That kind of success is what America is all about.

Somewhere in your family's background, someone came to America from another country with nothing but the clothes on their back. And America gave them the opportunity that it gives all such immigrants and citizens of every race and nationality to become successful. There is no nation in the world which has given more opportunity for success to more people of every race and nationality than the United States of America.

Don't be ashamed of your family's success. CELEBRATE IT. The question you should be asking is why would you be interested in anyone who thinks you are undesirable because of your success in life. Is that really the kind of guy you want?

A guy like that should be worried that YOU will reject HIM, not the other way around.

I hate how your generation has been brainwashed into thinking success is something bad. It isn't bad. It is the American dream and your family had the talent and did the hard work needed to achieve it. You should be very proud! It is what EVERY American should admire and aspire to achieve.

[ohshee]

Most of the time yes but every once in awhile I meet one that's lives in the real world,, for me i want to meet the girl. Who had nothing in a way because she loves life looks at life from her heart she has felt the pain and knows what it is like not to have or to struggle or what it's like to work grass if to get very little that girl I will take anyway over someone who has never felt thst pain before because she is real and is a giver of self to help others become the best to me that person it the most beautiful in the world

[Oigit]

I'd give you a chance. Simply because I live by the rule of treat people the way you want to be treated. Since I would want you to get me a chance it would wrong for me to not give you one. Though in a way it will probably be a shock on both of our ends. Simply due to our different life experiences.

Though we both could cover come it. If people are willing to put differences and assumptions aside, have simple, honest conversations, they can overcome a lot. The vast majority of them they quickly find out they are not that different.

[ArrowheadSW]

It just depends on the person really. I grew up with a guy who married a woman from a more privileged area and she came from an affluent family. She expected the same lifestyle as an adult. He makes A LOT of money but she acts like it isn't enough. We're talking near $200,000 a year, and they are still broke.

I know another lady who is a MUCH nicer person than that one, but she grew up having everything she wanted and she even had her dad RETURN the car that he bought her when she graduated from high school. Now, decades later, she doesn't know how to manage her finances and never really got a decent job.

So to me it depends on what her life expectations are and if she can take a "step down" if need be. Because in reality it would be hard to keep up with that sort of lifestyle.

[Rexos]

A lot of guys might assume stuff but at the end of the day your personality is what matters. If your more privileged life hasn't negatively affected how you behave and view other people, especially less fortunate ones, then it doesn't matter.
I would expect you to be ignorant about people who's perspectives you just don't have, but that's not an issue if you're aware of that and open to being corrected if you get something wrong.
The other issue is that a lot of men still believe that it's the men's role to provide and wouldn't feel comfortable around a wealthier woman, I think that way of thinking is outdated.

[JSmuve]

The fact that you describe all that and still don't consider yourself rich just shows how out of touch with reality you are, which is characteristic of high-maintenance, self-centered, rich girls and isn't attractive. Those girls are typically snobbish to any guy they feel is not on her level because they're so used to a certain lifestyle that they feel entitled to only the best. So if a guy doesn't measure up to her lavish expectations then he's discarded, which is also very unattractive behavior.

[thehorriblesheikh]

I think there's a general idea that women can be demanding, act like a diva at times. People assume that a rich woman will be even more demanding, but I think it all comes down to the person. Wether rich or poor, it's what one's parents, friends, other important people taught the person in question that matters. I used to be poor enough that we couldn't even afford 3 meals a day, but now I am considered middle class to upper middle class in my country.

There are people in my extended family that were no better when they were poor, and being rich hasn't had a good effect on them, they are what they always were.

I think you should worry about how you come across to others as that can be very useful for someone who is relatively rich. But don't let that make you feel guilty all the time.

[Anonymous]

All depends on you. The very first minutes of interaction already reveal a lot of your personality. The other person will have an impression of you before they even know about your privileged upbringing.
Best is to challenge yourself and set reasonably high goals. This way you will not be in danger of letting yourself down just because you may not be required to work as hard as others. In a way most people from western nations are privileged compared to those who grew up in poorer countries, so picking your own challenges in life is actually good advice for most of us.

[BeyondCuriosity]

I wouldn't say it's a turn off so much as a red flag. It's not like a deal breaker, but I need a sign that she's not the typical rich girl like you mentioned. I will admit that, yes, it would be my initial assumption that those things are true, but I also would not force a person into that box if they showed me that they were better than that and that we had enough common ground to be compatible.

Rich people in general can sometimes make me uncomfortable, because I feel like my typical behavior and appearance might be somehow offensive to them. It makes me nervous. I'm not so oblivious to think that the same couldn't be true in reverse though.

[Anonymous]

I won't assume you're snobby just because you come from a well to do background. Its not a turn off at all. I'm also from a well to do background and I don't consider myself snobbish. I just try to look out and try to see if people are really my friends or after my privileged background and would know i might come in handy for them in that manner some day. The plus side for me is if i get on with a girl who grew up priviliged, we both would understand each other better and chances are neither of us will be after each other for their assets and if things go well, being with someone of a rather equal status means we both would be familiar with the similar lifestyle and adjustments would also be reasonable.