What to do if a girl doesn’t have no intentions of anything with you and you are just a time killer when she is bored or lonely?

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Answer 1

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Well, do you like this girl?
I wouldn't tolerate any friendship/relationship with someone that only comes to me when they have nothing better to do. (Unless of course, you're okay with that kind of relationship)

If that girl only comes to you when she is bored, that shows she doesn't really like you much as a person.

Asker

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I do like her. It’s clear she is just bored because she keeps everything to text and isn’t interested in anything beyond that
Alluga95

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If you haven't already, I'd let her know you're interested in her.

If she already knows you like her and you don't like being used in that way, I'd just sever ties with her and try to move on. She most likely won't change her mind. It seems she's made it clear that she isn't interested in developing your relationship any further than what it currently is.
Asker

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I already told her so she knows. I wouldn’t say it is using because like you said she isn’t interested in developing a friendship or anything. I find it strange when she tries to convince me we are friends when clearly we aren’t. I don’t know what are we. To me it makes no sense that she isn’t interested in anything but would send me midnight text saying I’m thinking about you. Sounds like mixed signals
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Alluga95

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If you are certain she is only with you when she has nothing better to do, then her saying sweet things to you is just getting you to stay with her so she'll always have someone to fall back on when she gets bored. I know quite a few people like this but it's up to you whether or not you want to walk away. Because you said she only spends time with you when she's bored, you need to make the decision on whether to walk away or not. She will not do it.
Asker

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Wow I didn’t think about this. I think you’re right that she is just keeping me hooked so she can have someone to fall back on. It makes sense because I’ll try to make something happen like hanging out and she always pushes it aside or flakes. She already made it up in her mind that I’m just the guy she comes to when she is bored. My plan was to ask her what is up and then walk away but it turned into an argument. I made myself look weak, entitled and I said stuff I really regret
Alluga95

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Sorry to hear that man. What's done is done. Like I said, the ball is in your court. Just know that if you make a decision to walk away, you better not go back to her if she begins saying nice things again. I'm a big advocate of actions speak louder than words. She'd have to make a big grand gesture to get me to even consider coming back. Wishing you the best of luck.
Asker

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I don’t have to worry about that. She is done with me. I apologized and moved on. Sometimes I sit there and blame myself wholeheartedly

Answer 2

Asker

I do like her. It’s clear she is just bored because she keeps everything to text and isn’t interested in anything beyond that

Answer 3

Alluga95

If you haven't already, I'd let her know you're interested in her.

If she already knows you like her and you don't like being used in that way, I'd just sever ties with her and try to move on. She most likely won't change her mind. It seems she's made it clear that she isn't interested in developing your relationship any further than what it currently is.

Answer 4

Asker

I already told her so she knows. I wouldn’t say it is using because like you said she isn’t interested in developing a friendship or anything. I find it strange when she tries to convince me we are friends when clearly we aren’t. I don’t know what are we. To me it makes no sense that she isn’t interested in anything but would send me midnight text saying I’m thinking about you. Sounds like mixed signals

Answer 5

Alluga95

If you are certain she is only with you when she has nothing better to do, then her saying sweet things to you is just getting you to stay with her so she'll always have someone to fall back on when she gets bored. I know quite a few people like this but it's up to you whether or not you want to walk away. Because you said she only spends time with you when she's bored, you need to make the decision on whether to walk away or not. She will not do it.

Answer 6

Asker

Wow I didn’t think about this. I think you’re right that she is just keeping me hooked so she can have someone to fall back on. It makes sense because I’ll try to make something happen like hanging out and she always pushes it aside or flakes. She already made it up in her mind that I’m just the guy she comes to when she is bored. My plan was to ask her what is up and then walk away but it turned into an argument. I made myself look weak, entitled and I said stuff I really regret

Answer 7

Alluga95

Sorry to hear that man. What's done is done. Like I said, the ball is in your court. Just know that if you make a decision to walk away, you better not go back to her if she begins saying nice things again. I'm a big advocate of actions speak louder than words. She'd have to make a big grand gesture to get me to even consider coming back. Wishing you the best of luck.

Answer 8

Asker

I don’t have to worry about that. She is done with me. I apologized and moved on. Sometimes I sit there and blame myself wholeheartedly

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