If we approach you to ask you out, there is a reasonably high chance we don't know you that well. Obviously if we're friends or aquantace's first, it's different. For those of us who aren't, we DO NOT KNOW anything about your personality. We cannot be attracted to it because we don't know it. Through time we will learn it , and that's when we decide if we like it. If you have a lot of short relationships and are hot it's your personality. If you have several long term relationships and you are average, it's your personality. We never approach a stranger girl because of her personality. If you're searching for a guy that only cares about that he is an associate.