My friend is mad at me and now I feel bad?

Question

My friend had been discussing to have a birthday weekend where she would meet up with us on Saturday and Sunday. Anyway on Friday she messaged me saying that she wasn’t gonna do anything on Saturday and just MAYBE on Sunday she would but she would let me know. Anyway turns out she ended up going out with some friends on Saturday evening as she said they booked somewhere for her even though she told them we was gonna meet on Sunday. It’s Sunday today and she calls me at 1:30pm and asked me Her and some friends are going out later on this evening. I told her I was just gonna go home and that we could meet another time, next week. She said arnt you gonna come? And I said well if you had confirmed with me last night I would of come but you didn’t say anything so I’m just gonna go home and we can meet up next week. Automatically I could tell she was pissed off and we ended the convo with okay speak to you later. I called her back and told her I would come and asked her if she was upset with me and she said it’s fine you don’t have to come if you don’t want to, just I did tell you that we were gonna do something on Sunday I just didn’t give you a time. And anyway I wanted to drop it but she is still upset and is being very cold towards me!

Somehow I feel like she is not getting my point at all? Had she had messaged me last night and confirmed plans then it would be different... but calling me expecting I was just gonna jump and get up and go makes me feel a little under appreciated.

I would like to think I’m a self aware person, so I’d like to know what you guys think of this? Am I so wrong to say I’m just gonna go home and we catch up another time because I’m feeling tired and to be fair no plans were set in stone. I mean it is her birthday today which I do feel bad about as now she’s upset on her birthday :(

Answer 1

Nina12346

Xper 7

You're right girl, she didn't even say they are going out, all she said is that MAYBE. so you're not wrong, it is what it is. She's the wrong one. You don't talk like that bruh just come right out and say it, that you'll be booked for Sunday and if you want you can join. Don't say maybe. She has to be straight with you. I can see that your person that wants some time get to the point no small talk, don't sugar coat things to hurt your feelings just say it because you'll understand. I feel like you're that type of person. And its not wrong. Anyways, leave her, in time she will realise what she did, since it's her birthday or late birthday buy her a present or take her out for lunch (if you want) and don't apologize, she will appreciate it and if she wants to talk about it she will. She reminds me of high school me. I'm not that person any more. So I understand, but just like my friend did, you do too, if she rejects you so be it. Leave her, let she come on her own.

Nina12346

1 mo
the ai knows! <3

Answer 2

Nina12346

the ai knows! <3

Answer 3

Zarapeachy | 52 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

If that’s how you feel, you should tell her that. Instead of trying to please her so she won’t get angry. I understand where you’re coming from. Give her time but stand your ground. Boundaries in friendships

Angels12345

1 mo
I have explained it to her but she is saying that I should of definitely knew we were going to meet up today. But then why not tell me that last night when she was out galavanting with her other friends?
Zarapeachy

1 mo
Well you got your answer. She doesn’t want to understand your opinion. So just give her time and let it simmer down.
Angels12345

1 mo
do you think I’m in the wrong from another perspective?
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Zarapeachy

1 mo
Nope. Because it’s the confirmation. Just because you said it doesn’t mean it’s set in stone
Angels12345

1 mo
Exactly, the only sort of confirmation she gave was on Saturday morning, where she sent a voice note saying ‘tomorrow I’m gonna see you and the girls...’ I don’t think that’s particularly letting me know an actual plan?

Answer 4

Angels12345

I have explained it to her but she is saying that I should of definitely knew we were going to meet up today. But then why not tell me that last night when she was out galavanting with her other friends?

Answer 5

Zarapeachy

Well you got your answer. She doesn’t want to understand your opinion. So just give her time and let it simmer down.

Answer 6

Angels12345

do you think I’m in the wrong from another perspective?

Answer 7

Zarapeachy

Nope. Because it’s the confirmation. Just because you said it doesn’t mean it’s set in stone

Answer 8

Angels12345

Exactly, the only sort of confirmation she gave was on Saturday morning, where she sent a voice note saying ‘tomorrow I’m gonna see you and the girls...’ I don’t think that’s particularly letting me know an actual plan?

Answer 9

COMMODOREII | 575 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

You are right in saying what you said. It's not right for someone to expect you to drop everything the last minute without confirming.

Answer 10

PeterCharie1991

Xper 5

She'll get over it don't worry , if she don't that's her problem ain't it

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