Does it look bad if a woman talks openly about how cheap she is with money?

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

You know I heard a long time ago that if you helped enough people get what they want then eventually you will get what you want well I helped people all my life and I never had a thing to show for all the work I've done all the money was just pissed away and I was homeless and I had nowhere to go I had caught the flu then I caught pneumonia and then it snowed 4 in on the ground as I was sleeping in my truck I was evicted from the house I was renting because I didn't have no money for the rent 8 months later I had an SSI check coming just shy of $800 a month with the eight months back time I bought a small place in South Carolina and now I'm doing all right just 2 years later so we never know what's ahead of us just around the corner but it helps to be prepared always

[caring__1]

There's nothing wrong with picking pennies off the floor, but people will question if they hear you bragging that you do it. You go to the bathroom everyday, yet do you find the urge to brag about this fact to others? If you want people to not see you as expecting a handout, you can share how you do research before buying anything, as you like to buy things that will be functional over time rather than just while it is in style or new. You can talk of making the most of, maintaining or fixing what you have rather than being quick to replace everything. You can talk about valuing things that have remained functional over time. You can talk about goals you are saving for in the future. These statements won't make you look cheap and penny-pinching and stingy.

[GlitterFairy16]

My boyfriend gets really annoyed about it sometimes. Sometimes he wants to go fancy places to eat or go on a nice holiday in a posh hotel and i will always being looking at how much it costs and look for the cheapest prices. One time we ended up in a disgusting hotel because of my cheapness and now im not allowed to pick her hotels when we go on holiday.

[HowAwkwardToBeAlive]

I’ve been homeless before, I get it. But I wouldn’t talk about it to guys, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. I am very cheap now too because it’s scary being out on the street especially for women. Pinch your penny’s without telling anyone why. It’s not their business, it’s hard out here sometimes and anything helps.

[BeMuse]

A women that is frugal is more appealing than a spendthrift. You’ll only look selfish if you expect men to spend money on you, and especially so if you don’t return the favor evenly. When it comes to money the problem arises when you want what a man has and feel entitled to it. The more expensive your taste the more you have to prove you can afford your own lifestyle and you are otherwise financially responsible and think about the future. Otherwise money isn’t going to be much of an issue with most men in general. It’s about fairness. Men aren’t looking to be showered in material gifts, they are more interested in spending quality time with you in a good loving relationship, having a physical bond and good sex, and knowing that you’ll put in the elbow grease to show you care about and will look after them by helping them with every day tasks that normal arise in long term relationships.

[Reaperbot666]

• many people would do better in life if they learn. to live within their own monthly means. because if a persons monthly bills are more then 75% of their monthly income. they should consider cutting back on monthly expenses and/or increasing their monthly income.
• if that means shopping at bargain or budget stores to save money. then that is a much wiser thing to do. ideally people should use the other 25% of their monthly income. to invest in their future and/or save for a rainy day.
• I come from a low income family myself. so I know a small bit of how being a penny pincher can safe your life. also picking up money or bottle/cans off ground can get you extra money. for things you want but don't really need.

[KennethNoisewater]

Yes and no. Yes because it sounds like a sympathy request in a way. It's all about moderation. If you can say what you got to say and leave it at that, it's all good. And that's part of my 'yes" answer. The other part is people give money far too much power. It's extremely sad. But for some reason you are some kind of "boss" if you have a lot of it. Here is a little secret. Money is absolutely worthless. If you really think about it, it's kind of worse than worthless. The world is in debt as a whole. Which means there is no actual value on money (even before the debt). Money only has a value that people attach to it. If everyone in the world decided that seashells are now the new currency, all of a sudden people are getting killed over seashells and paper money is now toilet paper. It's that easy. People won't lose anything by wiping their butts with $100 bill because magically seashells is what the rappers are rapping about.

[Anonymous]

i envy you. i truly do. my life is a living hell. i have psycho neighbors who break in my apartment making threats, strangers running around my parking lot carrying swords ready to hurt people, neighbors who are chainsmokers, neighbors who blast the music and tv all crazy hours of the night, neighbors who throw wild parties. i truly envy you. when i was 19 i was homeless for a really long time as well bouncing around from relatives to friends to live with and i do the same thing as you pick change up off the ground and streets. you'd be surprised how fast that shit adds up. and you could also recycle cans and bottles to make a few extra bucks then invest that money into cd's or bonds and make more money when the interest adds up later on.

[Ellie-V]

Girl who cares? There are plenty of men with the same mindset as you🤣 I can’t relate but I can sympathize and you shouldn’t let the perception of men have influence over your behavior. If being that way is what gives you peace then DO IT. Fuck everyone else. Male or female.

[Unit1]

It's only problematic if you're financially irresponsible like say you aren't building a career.
at least trying your best to be stable in the financial sector counts.

i grew up penniless myself, so i know what I'm talking about because money is proven over and over again to be literally everything.

[Massageman]

You don't have to make a habit of explaining to people what you are doing ICW money. Just spend wisely and save wisely.

Hey, I pick up pennies too. No harm in that as long as no cars are coming!

You are not alone in this struggle. You might want to look up MoneyWise. org They have plenty of free helps and planning concepts that you are free to use. They have books for sale too, but most of the concepts are covered in at least a basic manner without buying the book. Good luck.

[Posterboy56]

Well there's being frugal which is good because it just means you don't waste money on bullshit you don't need, and then there's being cheap which is more of a negative, because you don't want to pay for anything, ever, including things that are worth spending money on. But I can sympathize with your financial situation, good luck out there.

[thegirlfromthething]

It’s fine to be frugal and save a lot but I wouldn’t talk about it often if I were you. Constantly bringing up your financial situation could make it look like you’re asking for pity or for a guy to provide for you.

[Darcia]

If you can’t handle money and is cheap some men like it maybe homeless men. But they’ll all pretty nice sometimes.

[triff]

That's nothing to be a shamed of You should be proud and that's why you tell them I myself became in need of housing Lucky enough to be by the sea

[Pete671]

It looks good to me, and I might learn some money saving tips!,,,

I also pick up pennies, but don't spend them, I keep for 24 hours then leave somewhere for someone else to find, it's good luck thing,,,

[slatyb]

It's fine if she isn't irrational about it. Some things just don't matter.

[jamesgoldman]

No, I'm financially focused and made a lot of wealthy friends and associates from that but the key is to spend wisely to order make money

[Liam_Hayden]

You sound more frugal than cheap. You also probably get shamed by people who waste most of their money instead of taking a portion and investing it towards eventual financial freedom.

[mrgspoter]

I've been there it's not nice there's so many people without homes in UK it's crazy. I think it's even worse when they allow in refugees and these people to have a home when British people are homeless it's sad

[anon1903]

Being a miser usually reflects bad on you regardless of gender

[jestergent]

It's fine. Just make sure you pay your half on dates etc and it's balanced.

[Jamie05rhs]

Not at all! It's a very attractive quality! I myself am that way, and have nothing but respect and admiration for anyone who can get a good deal!

[Ryfyle]

No. Thrift is a virtue. These are not the times to aimlessly blow money on stupid shit. Why feel guilty about good habits?