Is it rude to tell a guy he doesn't deserve to have sex with me?

[SueShe]

It sounds a little conceited to me as it does probably to a lot of people.

You make it sound as if you are so much better that you don't want to lower yourself to do with somebody that is out of your league. That is how the message comes across.

Unless it is the way you intend to make the message get through, I would recommend that you phrase it in a different way and less "uppish". You risk to get yourself a reputation and that is not really what you want.

You may of course your reasons for saying it this way but it sounds really harsh. There are more diplomatic ways to phrase your rejection.

[alexsa]

Why would you put it like that?
It's there a competition and he didn't win?
"Deserve" is a strong word. You can explain to him nicely: you are not interested.

[Ceasar97]

It is ok to tell him that you don't want to have sex with him, but don't phrase it that he doesn't deserve to have sex with you. The only reason you should tell a guy that he doesn't deserve you, is if he is a terrible person.
It is ok to tell him you don't want sex, but saying he doesn't deserve you infers that you are better than him.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

"deserve" is a tenuous word that says more about you than it says about him. It would be more accurate to say that YOU just aren't interested in him. Rather than taking it upon yourself to arrogantly assume you know his entire value as a man.

[batonrude]

You could also tell him why. I think that'll help keep him from feeling too hurt and also offer a problem to fix.

[Anonymous]

Why do you need to tell him something that will probably hurt his feelings.

And why doesn't he deserve to have sex with you? Do you have a golden pussy?

[AmandaYVR]

It depends on what the guy said and did leading up to this.

[Luvme66]

Well you are being straight forward but there are other kinder phrases to say No... I guess if he gets on your nerves just tell him to go fuck himself

[Avicenna]

I don’t know why you’re worried about whether it’s rude

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If he's making a fair trade then of course. That's just like telling his girlfriend "You don't deserve a gift from me"

[wankiam]

might be better to just say you dont want sex with him because you dont like him in that way..

[Anonymous]

Putting it that way shows a lot of arrogance, even if that is the way you feel. You're better to simply say that you're not interested.

[IlluminatiExposed0]

Yeah that's pretty fucking rude. Just tell him you don't date losers.

[JosyJosy]

It sounds like you think you're superior or something

[Anonymous]

I'd have to see you first.
You may not be hot enough to be saying stuff like that.
Some women think they're hot, but not really.

[Alyssa11]

Tell him how it is!!!

[MzAsh]

No, but strategize in how you say it.

[Keble]

It's your wording that makes it rude.

[mindNsoul]

I think it is. Goes without saying.

[Gedaria]

Yes , but could be true...

[KrakenAttackin]

Why? He only had $20 and you normally get $30?

[AlexanderAnttila]

Deserve is a weird way to put it.

[Anonymous]

Neah not really... if it's fair it's fair.

[REDHOTLINE]

I think no

[Anonymous]

No, Not Rude