Why should a girl be independant if most guys expect submission and wanna do everything for her already?

[Reaperbot666]

• it is fine for a girl to work on her career path and/or go to college. to better herself and learn new things. so she can one day hopefully get a good job or career path.
• but truthfully majority of guys don't expect or want a girl. who is only focused on her job/career. since most guys are typically the main provider in a relationship.
• majority of guy just want a girl with a decent income. who can help with the bills and be self sufficient most of the time. so she is not always asking the guy for money to buy things.
• guys version Guys, do you care if a person your looking to date has a higher education or not?
• girls version Girls, do you care if a person your looking to date has a higher education or not?

[GingerGuy]

It's often 2 different types of guys here. But independent can be different things as well. For me, financial independence is very attractive. She can take care of herself and doesn't need me for that. Things like a job, her own place, etc. That's the independence I like.

[laurieluvsit]

There is a time for both for some of us.

I think that is one situation where a girl can enjoy the best of both worlds :)

[tartaarsaus]

If we accept that hypothesis that guys expect that (which I doubt), why would you care?


There are very real, legitimate reasons to strive to be more independent than just “guys like it”. Case in point, financial independence is important if your relationship doesn’t last forever. Just because some guys don’t like independence (to differing degrees) does not mean a woman shouldn’t strive for it because being completely dependent is a super risky, reckless strategy.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure I understand. Why do people yearn to be free, even though someone will always want to have power over them? You want to be free because people want to have power over you. Women want to be independent and strong because there are men who want to control them. To have them be powerless and weak.

[ColHathi]

Hey, if you don't want to be independent, don't be independent. I really don't think most guys expect what you're describing though.

[bklynbadboy1]

Look you should be able to do for yourself but if you find a guy that willing to take care of you and do everything for you let him you deserve the best right

[Dave31989]

Sexually?

Or in life, in general?

I think most guys want girls to be sexually submissive

thats it

[OddBeMe]

What pussy guys are you dating at the bottom of the barrel?

[Anonymous]

no requirement of women to be independent. They can if they want to.

[guitarnovice]

Cuz that's most guys, not all guys.

[whatdoyouwantt]

They dont

[Anonymous]

You've convinced me