How do you gain confidence?

[WhiteSteve]

Confidence is best found within yourself. And honestly, a little bit of well-reasoned arrogance doesn’t hurt, lmao. Like if you feel down on your looks, go to Walmart, see how far above average a lot of us compared to the worst out there, haha. You can’t spit without hitting an idiot, so you can find intellectual confidence there, almost anywhere. Don’t obsess over being “the best”, just know that you’re being the best that you can be, as corny as that sounds. I was a football player most of my life, and I’m certainly not the greatest player who ever played the game. I made semipro team as an adult but it’s not like I even had a chance at playing in the NFL. Sometimes you just get dummied by someone with superior athleticism or speed or size and strength. You look like an asshole on that particular play, lmao, but you pick yourself up, get back in the huddle and try again. You work on your weaknesses the best you can in practice and the off-season. Unfortunately there’s no cure for being a slow white kid😂, but I made myself the best player I could reasonably be, and I carved out a career for myself that I wouldn’t expect a soul to care about, but I take a lot of personal pride in it. Most people play their last game in high school at 17, I played into my 30s. That’s a win in my book. And now I’m learning to play hockey from Level 1 with my best athletic years in the rear view, so that’s my new challenge. It’s for sure embarrassing sometimes to be slipping and sliding around when you’re out there against guys who have been playing since they were in kindergarten. I have moments where I think “man, I started too late, I’ll never get this.” But I was talking to some guy who’s 50 who started around my age now, and he said he could tell I was a beginner, he figured I was only playing a year or two so far. But he was surprised to learn that I’ve really only been doing this a few months, since I started in January and everything shut down in March, so I’m like “whoa... maybe I’m actually kinda good at this and developing faster than I thought!”

But the bottom line is, I don’t ultimately care what anyone thinks, because I’m doing this for me, not for anyone else. I don’t care if the whole
world is laughing, if I’M proud of myself, that’s what counts.

On the other side of the coin though, I’m kind of vain lmao, so looking good is another thing I concern myself with, whether that’s my clothes, working out and improving my physique, or just working with the face they gave me, obviously that’s got some tones of “caring what others think.” But I try to just look my best, however others take that in, that’s up to them. I could look presumably perfect and some women might still be like “I don’t like blonde guys”, “I’m not into white dudes”, “you’re 15-20 years too old”, or just plain “bruh... you ain’t that cute”, lmao. But I know I’m not for everyone, and that’s ok. I mean, I can’t even date everyone if I wanted to, so what’s really to trip about? As long as I look in the mirror before I leave the house and can say “nice... you look fly”, that’s all I can hope for, everything after that is a matter of personal taste. And at the end of the day, who tf are these people anyway that I should even care?

So yeah, just be you, do you, and try to make yourself the person you ultimately impress, not people you see on the street or Instagram followers or whoever.

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

Do you know how books serve us a man can work his entire life and only do one thing and learn everything there is to learn about that one thing write a book and I can learn everything it took him a lifetime to learn in one week or less

What I'm saying is read a lot of books and remember what you read read books that teach you how to do something like how to build an engine or change the brakes that way you will know a lot about a lot of things and you will be able to carry on a conversation with anyone about anything books will give you confidence KNOWLEDGE IS POWER you heard that before... IS CONFIDENCE

[xLyndseeyx]

Part of me is just questioning myself on this too. Confidence is key! Confidence is important in relationships, including yourself. How to gain it? I take mine a day-to-day process. Go shopping. Be with friends and family. Accept the fact that this is you. We're all unique human beings on this Earth. Some guy/girl is gonna look at you, and they're going to find you attractive. Accept that fact! Upon myself, my confidence isn't that high at the moment due to having some guy really take advantage of me incorrectly.
I am taking a few steps into accepting the fact that there are negative people in this world. There is going to be people that are going to take you down. There will be the ones who will absolutely do ANYTHING for you!
Girl, I think you are pretty and beautiful. :) Coming from myself. Take that as a compliment.

[DevikaButts95]

Make out with people? Always waiting for you. ;) :*
I honestly don't understand how you lack confidence, you're so jaw-droppingly gorgeous. Like you're literally a model. You need better hype men/women in your life, including yourself.

[ohshee]

What do you mean confedence is believe in you and knowing no mater what happens ur jumping in with both feet and your going to do ur best no matter what and ur willing to do this because it's how you are and it's who you want to be u will always win just because you are doing it and of course it won't be perfect you don't want to be ,, because it's the little things that didn't go right you have to think about to be come better and remember this to let's say you have mastered something well tomorrow there will be a better way and you start all over and take it on again ,,,

Remember when you were 2 years old how confident were you when you wanted to learn how to walk or did you care all you new is that no matter how many times you fell down you were going to get back up it's the same in life we all go threw it shake it off let it go stand up and do it again you can only get better and some thing if you try only when you stop trying is when you sit still and go no where

[Gravit1]

I have some abilities and some people I've met say I'm handsome, but others say I'm stupid and ugly. I know logically I can't be both, but it eats at you. However, like the quote goes "life is 10% how you act, but 90% how you react". I find my most powerful enemy is myself. I beat myself up over small failures. For a while I strove for perfection in an imperfect world, but I am reminded in Scripture all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Repenting requires you to accept you aren't perfect, but Jesus is. I also must constantly remind myself, it doesn't matter what others think of me, only what God thinks of me. I placed my worth in Christ and he has never failed me, but when I forget that I sink. You have to let go of fear to be confident. Trust in God takes away fears.

[RawIronhide]

Lots of things. It kinda happens over time, especially when you're forced to stand up for yourself when enough people insult you or screw you over and you have to stick up for yourself so many times. Also acquiring new skills and life experience and all that crap everyone says all the time but I figured you've heard those already.

[Levin]

The thing I'd say is that is life is hard, and every person feels down at times. Just remember its all temporal and keep it in a wider context. The thing the chap below me says is true as well. You're valuable of in yourself. You don't need other people to validate your worth, nor should you give them that power. Lest you rise and fall on their arbitrary pronouncements.

On the positive side, least you have boobs. What do I have to fall back on? :O

[Skankhunt]

Work on your self-esteem (self compassion) and do new things. Learn new skills. The more you do it, the less anxious you become.

Self compassion is: mindfulness, self kindness and common humanty.
Read the book Self compassion from Kristin Neff Ph. D.

This might help you too, read the book Feel the fear and do it anyway from Susan Jeffers Ph. D.

[AlexanderAnttila]

Don't care so much about what people think of you. Stop ascribing value and power to random peoples' opinions. Just be yourself and be happy with that.

[Grond21]

First off, you have to start changing your internal language. Do you criticize yourself, call yourself names, or use language that brings you down? If you do you should change that

[Enigma69]

be yourself. dont care what other people think of you. look towards your goals, and go for them, focus on those, and forget what others think, its what YOU think of yourself that matters.

[OddBeMe]

I took creative writing courses and debate courses which helped me take criticism and learn how to think logically. That’s prob helped my confidence more than anything else.

[JosyJosy]

Looking in the mirror, accomplishing stuff, exercise

[Anonymous]

I regrettably don't have a good answer for you, but you honestly shouldn't put yourself down. I am being entirely genuine when I say you are stunningly beautiful, and that's even an understatement. You hage a beautiful face, amazing hair, and a drop dead gorgeous body. I honestly think there are many, many woman out their who are rather envious of what you have. Trust me when I say you are truly exceptional.

[ChefPapiChulo]

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself, and don’t care what people think. That’s a good foundation for confidence.

[bklynbadboy1]

I'm shocked your asking this your a pretty girl. Are you shy why do you feel your confidence is so love

[Anonymous]

Oh just say you want to get gangbanged by all the old perverts in here

[jasco]

simply realize that life is full of bs and then move on and find inner peace

[vj0090]

Talking to people.. Chat as much as u can.. That will remove your shyness..

[Anonymous]

I don't know; but a girl as pretty as you should have all the confidence in the world.

[pizzalovershouse]

Good music you like healthy foods exercise an talking to friends

[TallAnon]

Accepting that no one is perfect, but that you're good enough 😊

[Anonymous]

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