Why would a girl always say she's too busy to go out but then get jealous when you go to other women?

Question

Just wondering what goes through a girl's mind when she does. I asked her out she said she's busy so I assumed not interested but we are still friends so I went with another girl. She's the first one to open my snapchat and then gets angry at me for even brining the other girl up she called her a whore pretty much.

Answer 1

btbc92 | 2K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

It really makes me question is anybody really dense. Just because she's very busy that doesn't give you the right to disrespect the person that way. Why else would she be very jealous? If you say you want to invest in her and she wants to invest with you, would you not get jealous if she starts speaking to other men? Of course you would. If you're only intent is just to get whatever it is that you want out of her then your best to just cut her off immediately and just say you want something out of a person instead of saying oh I want to be with you but then you get upset when a person is busy. That's part of life. Just because a person doesn't have time to spend time with you just yet that doesn't mean that they don't take you seriously. Cuz what you're saying is that she's not as important or specialized you want her to be made to see. If you really have heart for a person stick with that person. But don't tell me how you want to be invested in an individual but then you stopped speaking to other people at the same time. Not only does it show that you have bad for Min character, but it will be seen as disrespectful. At that point you would do best for her to find someone else and cut you off immediately. That way you can speak to those other women but then you won't have any dealings with her. You shown yourself to be very selfish. And that is very unattractive in a man.

btbc92

22 d
Start speaking to other people*

Your assumptions is why you people don't have relationships. If you wanted to date her just say you want to date her. Don't say you want to go out because now it'll be seen as going out as friends or just hanging out.

If you want to have a sex partner just simply tell a person that. Don't be wasting another person's time and then wonder why women get frustrated with men. This is why when people ask me how come I never dated your reactions and how you choose to treat her is exactly why. It's better to tell the person the truth and say your window shopping and to pretend like you really care about individual when you don't even know her that well. She does not owe you specifically her time. And neither do you. Any and you're hurting her feelings just because you felt that you wasn't getting the attention that you want. Allow me to remind you that you are being tested every single day and any time you can be disqualified. If you already disqualified her just remove her immediately. Don't string a person along and they want to know why a woman is pissed. If you felt that disrespected you should have told her what you wanted instead of making assumptions. That shows right there that you lack communication skills and that's a strike on you. Either you tell her what you want immediately or she's going to walk. That move is highly tasteless. I have no respect for people who can't even tell me what they want to my face. That's a cowards move and it's not attractive. You better be thankful to God she was honest and told you she was busy. Because if she was one of those needy girls who don't have emotional attention from men then you be swearing up and down how she's clingy. Make up your freaking mind. Either you want to try to get to know her or you want to get involved with these other women. One or the other. A woman never wants her feelings being toyed with.
Asker

22 d
I asked her out 3 times and all three times she said she was busy. I didn't know I was suppose to wait for her forever. Im not even rubbing the relationship in her face she chose to open my snapchat and send me a message saying the other girl is a whore.

As far as I thought she didn't have feelings.
btbc92

22 d
My question is to you what is your intention of dating? The real issue has to do with you and less to do with her. You picked up for whatever reason you picked her and if you don't know the reason why you picked her then don't you at least think that anybody is not going to be offended by that? I don't know what issue it is with this woman, but I'm just saying this to you especially to a lot of you men who don't understand this. A woman wants to be chosen and wants to be chosen by one man who was going to love her, cherish her, and do all the things that he said he's going to do. You cannot just pick one woman and then you try to court them all. You said you asked her out three times and all three times you said she was busy. I think it is very clear that she just doesn't trust to date you at all because she doesn't know what your intentions is. And I think it's has proven to be a fact. Because you come off as a player. And it also sounds like you may be a bit too aggressive. It sounds like to me you just looking to just hook up with any person that pays attention to you and again that becomes like a red flag know whatever her reasons this was calling the other person a whore, that's on her. However if it's proven to be true about the other individual in that says a lot about you. But at that point I don't know why would she want to hang on to someone like you in the first place who chase after such women. That's why I said a lot of you men don't even know what the heck you want but then you start screaming about what women don't want either. If you're not a friend and she's not somebody you known for over the years she is a stranger and she again doesn't trust your tent or know who you are as a person. At the same time you dragged her into that mess and who's the one who's going to get hurt? She's the one is going to get hurt. I think it's very clear that she has trust issues. And I know because I have them myself. And one thing I don't like is pushy men.
Show All Show Less
btbc92

22 d
Picked her*

Do you people actually think is all about you? It's about the other individual. Making sure you have opportunities to meet other potential mate is not the issue. The issue comes in when you say hey I pick you, I want you, now we're going to do about each other? So again. What is your intention? Because you can bet is primarily sexual in nature and that is a woman's worst nightmare. It's all the women is offering sex and that's what you want because there's a hearing to your sexual advances then you go to those women. But don't play games with her. Because in the end she's avoiding trying to get hurt. And I think it's very clear that you have no business with this woman at all and you are better off cutting it Loose now. Because she's now too invested emotionally and feels wronged. This is why you start off as friends and you communicate these things before you even thinking about dating a person. Because it's not only cause miscommunication, it causes problems and uncertainty for another person. And I think it's very clear that you two are just not compatible for each other. She moves at a way slower Pace than you do and you moving way too fast. You're too fast for her.
btbc92

22 d
If you don't trust a woman's loyalty then don't complain about what kind of woman you got because she's the one that you picked. If you would not like it if someone done that to you then the least have the common courtesy to not do it to someone else. You will not win a woman's respect that way. She will quickly lose all respect for you and will find someone else. Instead of asking for dates. Instead of assuming she is not interested, which by the way communicates that you accusing her of wrongdoing and that is not proper communication. Anybody will grow offended. What you should be asking her if she is okay? Is there anything she wish to talk about? Ask her if she has any time off to at least talk 101. Not a date. But to actually talk. Thats communication. Thats showing you care and that you actually give a damn about people. People will open up to you more and will actually go to like you because you put them first. All you care about is putting you first. Please tell me how a successful relationship is going to start off that way? And you want to know why so many people have broken relationships and marriages and then can't fix them. It starts what you choose to do now. And you're not off to a good start.
btbc92

22 d
Would you be willing to do with a set of concerned so much about dating, sex, and finding a mate to have sex with basically. You need to learn proper communication. Learn how to talk to people. Some of you don't even know how to say please and thank you anymore.

Answer 2

btbc92

Start speaking to other people*

Your assumptions is why you people don't have relationships. If you wanted to date her just say you want to date her. Don't say you want to go out because now it'll be seen as going out as friends or just hanging out.

If you want to have a sex partner just simply tell a person that. Don't be wasting another person's time and then wonder why women get frustrated with men. This is why when people ask me how come I never dated your reactions and how you choose to treat her is exactly why. It's better to tell the person the truth and say your window shopping and to pretend like you really care about individual when you don't even know her that well. She does not owe you specifically her time. And neither do you. Any and you're hurting her feelings just because you felt that you wasn't getting the attention that you want. Allow me to remind you that you are being tested every single day and any time you can be disqualified. If you already disqualified her just remove her immediately. Don't string a person along and they want to know why a woman is pissed. If you felt that disrespected you should have told her what you wanted instead of making assumptions. That shows right there that you lack communication skills and that's a strike on you. Either you tell her what you want immediately or she's going to walk. That move is highly tasteless. I have no respect for people who can't even tell me what they want to my face. That's a cowards move and it's not attractive. You better be thankful to God she was honest and told you she was busy. Because if she was one of those needy girls who don't have emotional attention from men then you be swearing up and down how she's clingy. Make up your freaking mind. Either you want to try to get to know her or you want to get involved with these other women. One or the other. A woman never wants her feelings being toyed with.

Answer 3

Asker

I asked her out 3 times and all three times she said she was busy. I didn't know I was suppose to wait for her forever. Im not even rubbing the relationship in her face she chose to open my snapchat and send me a message saying the other girl is a whore.

As far as I thought she didn't have feelings.

Answer 4

btbc92

My question is to you what is your intention of dating? The real issue has to do with you and less to do with her. You picked up for whatever reason you picked her and if you don't know the reason why you picked her then don't you at least think that anybody is not going to be offended by that? I don't know what issue it is with this woman, but I'm just saying this to you especially to a lot of you men who don't understand this. A woman wants to be chosen and wants to be chosen by one man who was going to love her, cherish her, and do all the things that he said he's going to do. You cannot just pick one woman and then you try to court them all. You said you asked her out three times and all three times you said she was busy. I think it is very clear that she just doesn't trust to date you at all because she doesn't know what your intentions is. And I think it's has proven to be a fact. Because you come off as a player. And it also sounds like you may be a bit too aggressive. It sounds like to me you just looking to just hook up with any person that pays attention to you and again that becomes like a red flag know whatever her reasons this was calling the other person a whore, that's on her. However if it's proven to be true about the other individual in that says a lot about you. But at that point I don't know why would she want to hang on to someone like you in the first place who chase after such women. That's why I said a lot of you men don't even know what the heck you want but then you start screaming about what women don't want either. If you're not a friend and she's not somebody you known for over the years she is a stranger and she again doesn't trust your tent or know who you are as a person. At the same time you dragged her into that mess and who's the one who's going to get hurt? She's the one is going to get hurt. I think it's very clear that she has trust issues. And I know because I have them myself. And one thing I don't like is pushy men.

Answer 5

btbc92

Picked her*

Do you people actually think is all about you? It's about the other individual. Making sure you have opportunities to meet other potential mate is not the issue. The issue comes in when you say hey I pick you, I want you, now we're going to do about each other? So again. What is your intention? Because you can bet is primarily sexual in nature and that is a woman's worst nightmare. It's all the women is offering sex and that's what you want because there's a hearing to your sexual advances then you go to those women. But don't play games with her. Because in the end she's avoiding trying to get hurt. And I think it's very clear that you have no business with this woman at all and you are better off cutting it Loose now. Because she's now too invested emotionally and feels wronged. This is why you start off as friends and you communicate these things before you even thinking about dating a person. Because it's not only cause miscommunication, it causes problems and uncertainty for another person. And I think it's very clear that you two are just not compatible for each other. She moves at a way slower Pace than you do and you moving way too fast. You're too fast for her.

Answer 6

btbc92

If you don't trust a woman's loyalty then don't complain about what kind of woman you got because she's the one that you picked. If you would not like it if someone done that to you then the least have the common courtesy to not do it to someone else. You will not win a woman's respect that way. She will quickly lose all respect for you and will find someone else. Instead of asking for dates. Instead of assuming she is not interested, which by the way communicates that you accusing her of wrongdoing and that is not proper communication. Anybody will grow offended. What you should be asking her if she is okay? Is there anything she wish to talk about? Ask her if she has any time off to at least talk 101. Not a date. But to actually talk. Thats communication. Thats showing you care and that you actually give a damn about people. People will open up to you more and will actually go to like you because you put them first. All you care about is putting you first. Please tell me how a successful relationship is going to start off that way? And you want to know why so many people have broken relationships and marriages and then can't fix them. It starts what you choose to do now. And you're not off to a good start.

Answer 7

btbc92

Would you be willing to do with a set of concerned so much about dating, sex, and finding a mate to have sex with basically. You need to learn proper communication. Learn how to talk to people. Some of you don't even know how to say please and thank you anymore.

Answer 8

Anonymous

She doesn’t want you but also doesn’t want anyone else to have you. You’re the option that’s supposed to sit around and wait until she feels like it.

Asker

22 d
This is what I think as well.

Answer 9

Asker

This is what I think as well.

Answer 10

ValleyofDrakes | 66 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

She knows she missed out and took her anger out on the chick.

She did it because she's not very mature.

Why would a girl always say she's too busy to go out but then get jealous when you go to other women?

AI Bot Choice

Most Helpful Guys

What Girls & Guys Said

Related myTakes