Why is a female friend going after a guy who’s completely incompatible with her & rejecting a guy who is more compatible with shared values etc?

Question

The guy she’s going after have very different values, personalities etc and can’t see them working in the long term and even he doesn’t feel it completely/is unsure, yet she continues to pursue. On the other hand, she rejects a guy who is clearly more compatible with similar values etc. And he clearly likes her.

Answer 1

Bruhbois

Xper 4

Values or personality traits? They aren't the same thing. Are they similar in terms of looks? Is one smarter than the other? People go after the people they want, if they aren't going after that guy, that means they don't want that kind of guy, it's very simple.

Answer 2

Dave31989 | 91 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Explorer

why do you care what she does

if she's

"just a friend"

Asker

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Because I want what’s best for her in the long term.
Dave31989

26 d
that's the point

if you care about her so much.. why don't you just go after her, yourself
Asker

26 d
Because we’ve been friends for too long and she won’t like me in that way
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Asker

26 d
I am firmly in friend zone.
Dave31989

26 d
you never know unless you try
Asker

26 d
I’m also more like the opposite person. I won’t be compatible with her.
Dave31989

26 d
again, you won't know until you try

you're friends, right?

FRIENDS GET ALONG BECAUSE OF COMMONALITIES

Answer 3

Asker

Because I want what’s best for her in the long term.

Answer 4

Dave31989

that's the point

if you care about her so much.. why don't you just go after her, yourself

Answer 5

Asker

Because we’ve been friends for too long and she won’t like me in that way

Answer 6

Asker

I am firmly in friend zone.

Answer 7

Dave31989

you never know unless you try

Answer 8

Asker

I’m also more like the opposite person. I won’t be compatible with her.

Answer 9

Dave31989

again, you won't know until you try

you're friends, right?

FRIENDS GET ALONG BECAUSE OF COMMONALITIES

Answer 10

Anonymous

Let her decide who she wants. Don’t force or you will push her away.

Answer 11

Anonymous

Communication is the key

Asker

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What do you mean?
Opinion Owner

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Have you communicated this with her?
Asker

26 d
Yes but she won’t listen.
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Opinion Owner

26 d
When the last time you talked with her? She probably confused or have a lot going on with her. In person talk and a breakdown can be better. Have you pointed out the key obvious facts?
Opinion Owner

26 d
Try talking with her and basically let her know the difference in between this guy and you. I don’t think you’re in the friend zone but it sounds like she’s confused
Asker

26 d
Confused how?
Opinion Owner

26 d
Maybe you aren’t being clear to where she can understand you?
Opinion Owner

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If this was my friend I would ask her why is she confused between both guys which is leading her to chase
Asker

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Is she confused? She seems pretty clear she likes one and not the other?
Opinion Owner

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How does she make it pretty clear?
Asker

26 d
She’s clearly pursuing one and likes him. And she rejects the other one. As in clearly says no when he asks her out.
Opinion Owner

26 d
Could it possibly be that this was the man that made himself more known to her than the last guy which can create confusion? If she is chasing this one man that’s because she’s unaware the other is there.
Asker

26 d
Interesting. Do you think opposites attract too?
Opinion Owner

26 d
They always do
Asker

26 d
Why?

Answer 12

Asker

What do you mean?

Answer 13

Opinion Owner

Have you communicated this with her?

Answer 14

Asker

Yes but she won’t listen.

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

When the last time you talked with her? She probably confused or have a lot going on with her. In person talk and a breakdown can be better. Have you pointed out the key obvious facts?

Answer 16

Opinion Owner

Try talking with her and basically let her know the difference in between this guy and you. I don’t think you’re in the friend zone but it sounds like she’s confused

Answer 17

Asker

Confused how?

Answer 18

Opinion Owner

Maybe you aren’t being clear to where she can understand you?

Answer 19

Opinion Owner

If this was my friend I would ask her why is she confused between both guys which is leading her to chase

Answer 20

Asker

Is she confused? She seems pretty clear she likes one and not the other?

Answer 21

Opinion Owner

How does she make it pretty clear?

Answer 22

Asker

She’s clearly pursuing one and likes him. And she rejects the other one. As in clearly says no when he asks her out.

Answer 23

Opinion Owner

Could it possibly be that this was the man that made himself more known to her than the last guy which can create confusion? If she is chasing this one man that’s because she’s unaware the other is there.

Answer 24

Asker

Interesting. Do you think opposites attract too?

Answer 25

Opinion Owner

They always do

Answer 26

Anonymous

Because she isn’t interested in you

Answer 27

Hangry22 | 258 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Opposites attract

Asker

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Why?
Hangry22

26 d
Opposite charges attract while same charges repel. Its simple physics although there are exceptions
Hangry22

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When you're with an opposite kinda person, you feel completion. What you don't have is met by your partner.

Answer 28

Hangry22

Opposite charges attract while same charges repel. Its simple physics although there are exceptions

Answer 29

Hangry22

When you're with an opposite kinda person, you feel completion. What you don't have is met by your partner.

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