How can I stop comparing myself to other females?

[Reaperbot666]

[Mystic_Nova]

Self awareness of what you possess and why your originality is special. There is always someone better than someone else. The girls you want to be, there will be someone they themselves, want be, because nobody is perfect.

You are you, and to many, you will be beautiful, just as you are.

"It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to" - W. C Fields

If someone has some shit to through your way, dont let it bother you. The love you give yourself, is the most important, because when those haters come hating, you'll laugh, because you know how awesome you are and their opinions are poop!

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I agree with the practicing self-love.

Also, see if you can retrain your mind to genuinely celebrate and appreciate their successes. Then apply the same thinking to your successes.

I found when I started gratitude journalling (3 things/day I'm glad I experienced/did/saw/etc), this became much easier to do.

[Rizwan_khan]

Make your mind to love yourself and always appreciate the qualities wheather it is personality or physically cuz every one have some qualities it just you have to give attention on that qualities. And do some meditation it gives you a mental peace then you never compare yourself to other. 🙂🙂 and keep always simle cuz it's cheap but rare quality in today world

[aWes0MeNeSs]

This was something that was very hard for me. I think doing things to improve my life (everything from getting my body in shape to accomplishing career goals) really helped me build confidence, which in turn helped me learn to love myself. It is amazing what simply working to improve certain things will do for how you feel about yourself. I also had to learn to quit being so hard on myself and to acknowledge my good qualities rather than focusing on my flaws. Now, I feel satisfied with myself and simply don't feel the need to compare myself to or compete with anyone.

Also, I'm sorry you've been called ugly. People can be very cruel. Honestly though, I think a lot of people who say things like that do it mostly because they are insecure and/or miserable, and not because they actually believe it. I have been called ugly as well, and it was usually by someone trying to take away my happiness because they were miserable and couldn't stand to see anyone else happy, or because they had a weird jealousy problem. Even if they do think I'm ugly, I really don't care. Getting to the point to where you simply don't care what other people think is hard, but feels great! What did this for me is like I said above, simply worrying towards improving multiple aspects of my life, which in turn built my confidence. I know it doesn't sound like much, but it really works.

[mistixs]

Everyone has been called ugly, even people widely seen as sex symbols. For example, there are guys who are totally attracted to Nicki Minaj, while I've heard other guys say they think of Nicki Minaj to get rid of unwanted boners. You'll never be seen as attractive by everyone, and if you hold yourself to that standard then you'll never be happy with yourself, and neither would any woman.

"Flowers don't compare themselves to other flowers, they just bloom." "You are gold, and if they prefer silver, then so be it."

[Knighted2170]

I would say the best thing to do is define who you are. Get specific with it. This will help in finding what value you bring to any relationship (friend, romantic, professional, etc.).
Then look at yourself in the mirror. There may be some things you don't like. But in all honesty, most people won't notice them unless you point them out. Instead of focusing on the negatives, look for things you do like.
Sounds crazy, but try standing in front of a full length mirror naked and see what you like. Hips, thighs, butt, breasts arms, neck, lips, etc. You can accentuate these and minimize other areas.
The way to do that is through fashion. Learn what types of colors, fabrics, and how they fit your body to bring out what you want to show.

Hope that helps.

[Freddy78361]

The popular theory is that women derive self esteem from external validation where men get it by internal validation?
I don't know if that is true or not but give it a shot: be a dude.

Try new things. Alone.
Start a new hobby.
Set a task and goal for yourself. Then do it.
Learn something new.

Then say to yourself "I did this."
But don't tell anyone else because it's not their business.

See how you feel.

[Anonymous]

I've also been called ugly because of my glasses and had teeths like Spongebob.

But still I was confident about myself, I did clown activities and enjoyed myself and actually I really changed with time.
The only thing that matters is to be happy from the heart.

[Anonymous]

I struggled with this and still struggling at times. Self-affirmations are the best to do! You can stop comparing yourself by self-acceptance. Be accepting of the person you are today. Be accepting of everything you have gone through or are going through. No matter how much the next person have in their life vs what you don't have in your life, always remember there is something much better planned for you. I had to learn this after I befriended a jealous person. Don't compare yourself to anyone because their happiness could be fake. Always be you and be grateful for you. Appreciate who you are right now at this moment

[Physics-Man]

Focus on improving yourself and amassing achievements. Before you know it, you'll realize that you're above and beyond most women.

That's how I did it. I used to have the same problem back in the way. My caliber of achievements and their number is far above those of the overwhelming majority of men in the world.

[Itsmeh2002]

in this day of age everyone compares themselves to other people but if you want to stop this which is leading to identity crisis you will first need to work on yourself see what you need to change in order to become a better woman for yourself... because the real reason why you are comparing yourself is because you are missing something or you trying to figure out what you need to change.. so first change your image forget about other females and think about yourself

[EssenceDawson]

You can’t, but what you can do, is love yourself. Admire other people’s beauty, but never forget your own. I think Megan fox is super pretty, and it makes me insecure sometimes because I compare myself, why don’t I have blue eyes like hers, why don’t I have this, why don’t I have that? But instead, I rewired my brain and would think “wow she’s pretty, but I am pretty too even if I don’t have this”

[nonratracereality]

You just stood and take care of you. Do you think they care what you wear? No so why are you giving and wasting energy ehwre it's not needed. Love you!!

[Brian___1731]

By realising you are unique. No matter where you are, there will always people who're better and people who're worse. What one must do is just try to be their best self and never give up

[haha_hammad]

Comparing ain't that bad nd it can lead to self betterment sometimes. But compare things you can change about ys. Like dressing better, being more nice or a little bad ass at places. If you're comparing that she has more stuff , money or nature's gifts. You're doomed. You should learn some base features of self respect psychology.

[Luna1998]

I can't lol, and it always bother me when it comes to a relationship, i started to ask myself everytime someone seem to be interested in me, why would he likes me?, Those girls are a lot prettier, smarter and sexier than i am so why bother choose me?

Those kind of questions were put on replayed in my head all the time. Its not that I dont like myself or i feel bad about being me, its just that i need the answers, i want to know why? Prove it to me that im worth your time and efford.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Just remember to tell yourself that your not better than any other female, but they are not better than you. You equal to every other young woman In the world, you may have different strengths, but all women are unique, don't forget that.

[Anonymous]

Mental discipline. Accept yourself (body) as you are, and stop looking. And if you catch yourself doing it, recognize it and make the mental decision and conscious effort to stop yourself (no, I'm not going to do this and do/focus on something else).

[certifiedalphafemale]

Don't get jealous, know your worth. Always tell yourself that you are the most beautiful woman you are and never settle for any disparaging people that will bruise your self-esteem. Sending you hugs my darling! ❤️

[CaptainLonleyPants]

Realize that you need to accept yourself for who are to be happy. You do not need anyone to approve of what makes you happy. It is not possible to please everyone. You are only responsible for yourself.

[TheLawAroundHere]

Just remember, dear. The race is long. And in the end, its only with yourself.

[nicholas25]

You just need to find yourself and be confindent about who you are thats all. It's a phase everyone goes through in life so don't think about it too much.

[jace13]

Compare your self to who you were yesterday, last month, a year ago. You be your own yard stick