How to stop psyching myself out?

[PrudentGuy]

The ways i do it is

1) tell myself: the worst case when I approach is a rejection. But I stand a 50% chance she will say yes.

However, if I walk away (ya I did that too), then I'll NEVER get a date.

Hence I summon my courage to approach and speak.

2) get prepared. No, not those cliche "what's a beautiful girl like you doing in a place like this?". No not such lines.

Principles: Casual is best. Show no desperation, and be yourself.

Yes, I'm myself when I speak like how I write here. Its me. Fake it if you must, show confidence. This is the #1 attraction.

So bearing a glass of drink, walk to her and say "have a drink with me". Yes, as easy as that. If she accepts uou got her. If she rejects, then too bad. Try another.

(Interestingly, if you dress nicely and speaks confidently, she will say yes.)

3) acquire "girls skills". Somehiw girls like guy who know how to work in the kitchen.

So a plus is: if you could work in the kitchen for like 6 months and know how to cut and cook.

Trust me, if you have the speed to shred 10 peeled onions in under a minute, she will be impressed. When in a Indian restaurant, shred a cucumber or onion in front of her. Hearts are won this way.

4) be a man. Speak like one. No, not the arrogant type that dispel friendship.

Instead, learn to take responsibility over what you say, and learn to speak by principle. And when comes to certain topic, political or otherwise, take a stand and tell her why its good and she should consider your point. Don't force.

5) learn the skill to touch. No, not sexually, but for the purpose of emphasising your presence in her life.

Example, "this is important..." (put your hand on top of hers) "i think..." (when finish sentence, move hor hands back).

Or sit beside her the moment she accepts your drink. Shake her hands (that's the entry point to touching).

Then "what is your favorite food/song?" ( hold her forearm with your hand and look into her eyes) "mine is Chinese steam chicken rice" (release your hand).

Got it? Non sexual. But touches that show you are in control. And make sure you won't be regarded as molesting her, hence arms and hands only.

There are many more ways but ill stop here. Hope the points help.

[Exotic_Insinuations]

You're great, you are able to smile to a girl. That's really something.

Try talking to men first and than use same types of questions when talking to women. But at start don't talk to women for flirting with them, but just to talk.

If you have at least one good, honest friend, whether it's male or female (even better if it's a woman) - open up, tell them your problem and ask them to help you to get over this together.

[CoolGuyJoe]

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