Why does loving constructive criticism make people like my coworkers and daughters so crazy or in my sister's case suicidal?

[supermom1969]

I mean well. I am serial fault finder. That is why I am financially successful. I don't get how you could not want to do everything perfectly and right. I go to great lengths to do everything correctly to look perfect to be perfect. I like to rehash everything I did or they did and pinpoint mistakes made over and over and over. My daughter went postal when I mentioned how she lives her life and my sister gets suicidal and crying when I made a comment how her dirty her house is and what a mess her entire life is. I say it in a totally calm way i am the one usually getting yelled at so why am I seen as a mean girl.

Updates:

1 y

my coworkers my voice is like a constant faucet of negativity. My sister says I torture her my ex husband said that to I am just trying to assess the situation by constantly asking the same things over and over. and she her boyfriend and my daughter are getting drunk and eating pizza.

1 y

I am just aware that they are not perfect because a lot of people do not know how flawed they are. I would wanna know.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Not everyone views things the same way. Obviously the people you are trying to help are viewing this is harsh criticism. Are they the problem? Are you the problem? Is it a mixture of both?

Giving criticisms to people who don't want it will only result in their hating you. For the people that want it you should honestly evaluate how you are communicating these criticisms.

1. Don't bother to criticize something that is out of their control to change
2. Don't criticize them when they are emotionally unable to accept your words
3. Try the sandwich approach. Give a compliment on something that they are doing right. Then give a constructive criticism. Then end with another positive compliment
4. Ask them to give you constructive criticism
5. Practice your deliverly on others who are impartial to find out if you are just saying things poorly

[Oigit]

Well it's much easier to point out other people faults, then it is to accept our own. More often then not those who ride a high horse and criticize others, do so in order to make their issues seems smaller then they are. Everything from your post to your user name makes me wonder if your behavior is the result of you trying to avoid dealing with own issues.

[LastQueenOfScotland]

Waiting for you to update the question with "joking" or "lol got you x"

[Cherokeehp]

You honestly just sound like a judgmental bitch.

[Bananaman177]

Poor husband.

Poor kids.