Why do we guys feel bad when we react to women spitefulness but not the other way around?

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Us men feel bad to mistreat women when they're being spiteful to us. But they never feel bad after they've been spiteful to us...

I met lot of women and they've hurt and put their ex's through so much but you ask the women and they still curse their ex's and wish them more hardship.

I am not trying to antagonize women. I genuinely just wanna understand why women can be so heartless and how can one wish bad on someone. They're someone son, brother etc.

Most of us guy do actually admit when we've mistreated a women and feel bad...

Answer 1

razelove

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Well, most do. I don't care if it's a man, woman, trap, or what have you, after being a passive little bitch because of those useless feelings in the past, not letting that get to me again. If they hit you, throw them into a wall. If they try to scam you with false accusations, install cameras, microphones, and blackmail them. If they threaten suicide to try to control you, put a bullet in a gun and tell them to do it.

It is unhealthy to let people hurt you, no matter who you are, or who they are. You aren't a toy to be taken apart and left behind at whim. Let go of bad programming that says "this is bad because..." Women are not helpless, as you've stated above. I've met plenty who are physically stronger than I am, some who can shoot better, and many who are smarter and more determined.

Push back and don't feel like anyone who condemns you for it is worth your time.

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17 d
Very well said man.

Answer 2

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Very well said man.

Answer 3

Napoli | 68 opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

I can't bear the feeling of hurting someone. I've never done it on purpose, but sometimes it's just the way things go... but it doesn't make the guilt any better.
I've lost sleep over things that I've got wrong. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes, but I've never been sadder than when I've ended up hurting someone.

Guilt is a natural human reaction.

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17 d
I'm glad girls like you still exist
razelove

17 d
That's sweet, what do you do with the guilt though? Asking seriously, not trying to set you up for anything.
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17 d
From what I've learnt in life what haven't i learnt lol somethings i can't control but what i can control is my energy and I use my guilt to react better without ruining the nice person i have inside. So in stead of reacting badly to a spitful person, i let them expres how bad their day and life is and i express nothing but happiness. The person burns with their own bad energy and goes away. But if they don't then i move onto stage two of my psychology and i leave stage three as the last resort. But the person i am remains the same without being influenced by energy vampires which i called them.
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Napoli

17 d
@razelove well, if I can fix what I have done, I will.
All we can ever do -either way- with the mistakes that we make is learn from them.
If I'm lucky enough to have been forgiven, I know what to never do again, and I've messed up too badly, I still know what to never do with anyone else.
I've had times where guilt has been all consuming.. I've torn myself apart over it... but you have to get to a point where you think "ok, well that's done now, I can't do anything about it" if the situation resolves in time, great. If not, you have to accept it, own what you have done and go from there.
razelove

17 d
Sounds well thought out and practical... more rounded than how I viewed things 6 years ago I think lol
Napoli

17 d
@razelove Are any of us who we were six years ago?
Everyone's situation is unique, and however you choose to deal with it is your right.
razelove

17 d
True that... my biggest obstacle to overcome was my anger and need to be "right" Honestly that never changed from when I was, hell, 13? Until I had kids, they change everything.

Answer 4

Asker

I'm glad girls like you still exist

Answer 5

razelove

That's sweet, what do you do with the guilt though? Asking seriously, not trying to set you up for anything.

Answer 6

Asker

From what I've learnt in life what haven't i learnt lol somethings i can't control but what i can control is my energy and I use my guilt to react better without ruining the nice person i have inside. So in stead of reacting badly to a spitful person, i let them expres how bad their day and life is and i express nothing but happiness. The person burns with their own bad energy and goes away. But if they don't then i move onto stage two of my psychology and i leave stage three as the last resort. But the person i am remains the same without being influenced by energy vampires which i called them.

Answer 7

Napoli

@razelove well, if I can fix what I have done, I will.
All we can ever do -either way- with the mistakes that we make is learn from them.
If I'm lucky enough to have been forgiven, I know what to never do again, and I've messed up too badly, I still know what to never do with anyone else.
I've had times where guilt has been all consuming.. I've torn myself apart over it... but you have to get to a point where you think "ok, well that's done now, I can't do anything about it" if the situation resolves in time, great. If not, you have to accept it, own what you have done and go from there.

Answer 8

razelove

Sounds well thought out and practical... more rounded than how I viewed things 6 years ago I think lol

Answer 9

Napoli

@razelove Are any of us who we were six years ago?
Everyone's situation is unique, and however you choose to deal with it is your right.

Answer 10

razelove

True that... my biggest obstacle to overcome was my anger and need to be "right" Honestly that never changed from when I was, hell, 13? Until I had kids, they change everything.

Answer 11

Hmmmbetternothere

Xper 5

Valid question, why?

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17 d
I'll tell you when i find answer to my question lol

Answer 12

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I'll tell you when i find answer to my question lol

Why do we guys feel bad when we react to women spitefulness but not the other way around?

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