Would u be jealous?

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Would u be jealous if your girlfriend had a girl bestie that gives her long hugs and the bestie is bi/pan and ur girlfriend doesn’t like her like that but the bestie does, how would you feel and what would u say

Answer 1

ThirdEclipse

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I wouldn't be comfortable with that.
It's basically the same as her hanging around a guy that likes her.
I think that that crosses a line and I'd ask her if she'd consider not hanging around her anymore. I'd want her to say the same to me if I was in the same situation with one of my male friends.

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fancan

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So you would make her cut her off
ThirdEclipse

1 y
Not exactly force her too. I'd voice my concerns about it, but that decision is entirely up to her.
Now, if the friend makes a move on her, I'd get upset and then tell her if she wants to stay with me, she'd need to cut her off, but only then.
fancan

1 y
What if the Bestie is just confuse like she has like kinda a girlfriend but like she been trying to kiss me but I kept pushing her away and try to tell her i hav a man but she she don’t believe me and she’s clingy so she gives long hugs but I don’t wanna cut her off bc that’s my bestfriend but I’m scared my man will see it as cheating
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ThirdEclipse

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Well, I'd explain to her that you don't like her like that and that you'd like to be just friends. It may hurt her a little, but if she really enjoys being you friend, she'll come to accept that.
If you don't like her romantically, try to pull away from the hugs if they get too long for your liking and don't let her kiss you or tough you inappropriately.
If she won't stop trying to kiss you when you don't want her to, then you may have to stop being friends with her. There's not really much you can do in that kind of situation.

I've yet to be in a romantic relationship, but was in a somewhat similar situation, a female friend of mine kept trying to kiss me and tough me inappropriately. I told her i wasn't interested in her romantically, and I gave her another chance. She did it again. I told her I'd give her one more chance, and if that if she did it again, we couldn't be friends or talk to each other anymore.
She did it again a few months latter and I quit talking to her and seeing her.
It hurt my feelings too because I really enjoyed her company as a friend, but she refused to respect my boundaries.
Hopefully, your friend will listen to you when you say no.
Best of luck and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask me.

Answer 2

fancan

So you would make her cut her off

Answer 3

ThirdEclipse

Not exactly force her too. I'd voice my concerns about it, but that decision is entirely up to her.
Now, if the friend makes a move on her, I'd get upset and then tell her if she wants to stay with me, she'd need to cut her off, but only then.

Answer 4

fancan

What if the Bestie is just confuse like she has like kinda a girlfriend but like she been trying to kiss me but I kept pushing her away and try to tell her i hav a man but she she don’t believe me and she’s clingy so she gives long hugs but I don’t wanna cut her off bc that’s my bestfriend but I’m scared my man will see it as cheating

Answer 5

ThirdEclipse

Well, I'd explain to her that you don't like her like that and that you'd like to be just friends. It may hurt her a little, but if she really enjoys being you friend, she'll come to accept that.
If you don't like her romantically, try to pull away from the hugs if they get too long for your liking and don't let her kiss you or tough you inappropriately.
If she won't stop trying to kiss you when you don't want her to, then you may have to stop being friends with her. There's not really much you can do in that kind of situation.

I've yet to be in a romantic relationship, but was in a somewhat similar situation, a female friend of mine kept trying to kiss me and tough me inappropriately. I told her i wasn't interested in her romantically, and I gave her another chance. She did it again. I told her I'd give her one more chance, and if that if she did it again, we couldn't be friends or talk to each other anymore.
She did it again a few months latter and I quit talking to her and seeing her.
It hurt my feelings too because I really enjoyed her company as a friend, but she refused to respect my boundaries.
Hopefully, your friend will listen to you when you say no.
Best of luck and if you have any more questions, feel free to ask me.