Some of my female friends are very touchy feely with me. When I do the same back to them, they get really uncomfortable. Why?

[Anonymous]

My boss did this.. well at least when we were in the office before all this junk. We had a meeting with some higher level folks and she sat right beside me and when I said my piece she would immediately follow up and or add something to what I said and saying that was a good suggestion and nodding her head and everything, while at the same time lean in my direction and explain her thought the entire time with her hand resting on my shoulder for at least a good 10 seconds. Then later we had a employee lunch and we were all in line and she had already got her plate and in the office. Out of all people standing there she cuts right in front of me leans over to get whatever it was close enough where I could see details on her skin and a slight fragrance. Or when I get up from my desk make eye contact with me even its way on the other end of the floor. But yeah we are both married. So nothing going on there is it? I'm like ok then in meetings and when this stuff happens. But at the same time I kinda like it. Is that wrong?

[RingOfFire]

There have been studies that show that men tend to think that women are coming on to them far more than they actually do. I think it's just wishful thinking. Men are horndogs and they HOPE that women are doing that. But they're not. That's why it seems strange. When men do that it's a come on. When women do it it isn't because they don't see it that way. So men think that because when they do it it means they are into the girl that women think they same way. But they don't. Women don't get why men see that as a sexual interest move because to them it isn't.

[not_a_twinkie]

Try talking to them about it, as dumb as that sounds.
Something I have found is that women touch unconsciously, it's natural to touch those around you and be very hands on. However on the same note they're very aware of being touched, especially by men and if it's unexpected they may get uncomfortable. It may be they're honestly unaware of the double standard. I know I've been called out by a few of my guy friends and I adjusted my behaviour after I realised.

[flamiE]

Because we hate people we’re not close with invading our personal space but we don’t mind doing it. Double standards. Also it’s more socially acceptable for women to be affectionate so when we do it it’s not as weird as when men do it.

[Gedaria]

Some women I don't think they know when they are doing it. I was talking to s woman about a work related issue. And she could not understand what I was saying and she grabbed the top of my leg and said you are wrong, to what I was saying..
I was more distracted with her hand being only about a inch from my penis.
I touched her arm and she backed off. And said don't touch me.
I could only laugh..

[hi_it_is_me123]

It depends on where you touch them and i think they dont that on purpose. Someof them even dont realize it when they touched you. Talk to them that they should not touch you ifyou are uncomfortable with it

[wittymilf]

Because girls are always touchy feely with their friends and guys are not 🤷‍♀️

[killerboots]

Because they're asserting dominance against you. You're the territory and they're looking for some territories to mark.

[Don-__-Don]

I wonder is it because that they actually didn't think they would get that far, lmao.

[Thatasianlove16]

I agree with @not_a_twinkie women are naturally a little more physical when showing they trust someone. Some aren’t but some of the things you stated definitely passing boundaries of just being friends. But they my not be concious of that

[Alpha09]

They lack maturity, and clearly don't understand personal space until it's thiers. I never understood that particular way of thinking. Don't touch people like that. Especially if you don't want a similar reaction.

[Hangry22]

Maybe they touch you as a friend and don't see you as a guy but when you do it, they sense the touch of a man?

[Anonymous]

Social conditioning. A man doing something is bad, selfish, patriarchal, abusive, predatory. A woman doing something is completely the opposite.

[Unit1]

Yeah, that is strange. I suggest you mention that and ask them why it's OK if they do it but not if you do it.

[DiscomfortZone]

Because they are hypocrites of the female filth kind and you're a loser for keeping them around.

[Yuuibtony]

Hyper masculinity and hyper feminity, society view men who touchy creepy so therefore she will be creept by you being touchy.

[Wise4myage]

That would annoy me to no end, and you should tell them to knock it off.

[Anonymous]

Yeah lol. Females behave like that. I a female kiss a male without permission it would be love. If a male kiss a female without her permission, it would be rape

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about it. It's just women being dumb as usual.

[Shiver]

Poor understanding of how personal space works.

[Wowboi]

#wewantequalitybutwepracticeotherwise 😂

[imfreeze95]

It’s a double standard in a nutshell

[Anonymous]

Entitlement