Why can't most women read between the lines? When a man shows you from the start they don't want you why do majority of women ignore these clues?

[Dongtai]

Women aren’t usually raised and taught how to deal with rejection. How common is it for a woman to make the first move and risk rejection? More than likely, a woman will never hear a guy come out and say “I’m not into you”. They’ll be use to a guy coming and saying “I’m into you”.


If a guy is into her he’s going to go up to her and shoot his shot. If he’s not, he won’t bother. She’s been rejected during her life but she was never told about it. Even if she’s dated few men, they all told her they liked her. Now if it’s a woman who’s dated a lot of men the denial will be worse.


Being cheated on and seeing red flags isn’t the same as blatant rejection. Being told straight to your face “No. I don’t want you,” after you’ve shown interest. Being cheated on implies the guy showed initial interest

[Jjpayne]

I'd say that there is a hope and a desire. Blind hope and passionate desire. They want more than what there is and choose to ignore the signs. They hope they can simply ride the storm out. That if they can simply show them how passionate they are that somehow the person will wake up and finally accept them as their partner. You just have to try and push and maybe you can earn their love.

But I believe you are right though, both have to want it and desire connection with each other. If there is no desire or connection, then it's a loss cause

[Alyssa11]

We women like to fantasies our lives and some of us try to see the good in things - that's a good thing but it's unhealthy to turn a blind eye to all the toxic traits.

I agree with you though, I think it's a matter of self esteem and just learning your lesson. A man will always show his intentions from the very beginning - if you ever have to question a man's intentions with or values around you then you are not with a good man and he is going to break your heart. With men, what you see if what you get PERIODTTT.

[Walamagicc]

I’ve been in this position a few times. It’s mostly because women fall in love with words instead of actions. Or mostly it’s because she has low self esteem and settles for less.

[menina]

I've seen that happening many times, especially with women I know. It's sad and ridiculous at the same time.
I guess they want to be with these men so bad that they ignore every red flag. Sometimes I think it's because they believe that the man will change, so they keep forgiving and forgiving until their self-esteem and their respect for themselves is destroyed. Perhaps they're afraid of being alone or they think that being single is horrible.

[Hangry22]

Well i can't tell when a guy actually likes me. I ignore all the signs of interest he shows and think of them as friendly or just nice. It's only later i know about it or when my friends point it out.
So it must be the same way

[Giggletr0nn]

Huh, I have heard this same argument but from dudes. I guess the less aware of people amongst us need a push in the right direction; some of us also need to mess up before we learn.

[bklynbadboy1]

Cause there in love and love is blind the see what they want to see

[AFellowWeeb]

They see them, they just choose to ignore because they are sexually/physically attracted to the guy, i even commented that today on another girls answer

[In_Trance]

that's not true. I've had women peruse me and it's worked out

[jasco]

Ok yea i agree a lot of people in general are stupid. There are signs and lots of things could have been avoided

[genericname85]

i disagree with that statement... dating is a pushing and pulling. if a girl doesn't show me that she's pursuing me, THAT is what makes me not interested.

[COMMODOREII]

Good question. And yet the guys that would treat them right are thrown away like trash.

[MyBigMystery]

I really don't know they use words like love and romance but the guy acts like a troll. I've no idea why they so dumb.