A girl I used to like slid in my dms. Can anyone help me?

Question

Hey everybody, so first off, I am 14 years old. When I was in sixth grade, there was a girl that I liked a lot, but she ended up not liking me. The last time we talked was in seventh grade and now I am a freshman in high school. She left my country. Suddenly, a week ago, she texts me on Instagram asking me what I've been up to, and that she wanted to check in on me. She texted me about a week and a half. We texted 3 times I guess. I had a depression a couple of days ago, and she texted me and asked how I'm doing, and I told her that I am depressed and the reason behind it. She was so friendly and helpful, we talked a lot, and she told me that whenever I need help and I feel like I need to take some stuff out, to text her, and that she is always available even though she might not directly answer. I asked my friend to give me his thoughts, and he said that she probably likes me, but I don't want to directly take my hopes that high. So, can anyone of you answer this question and give me his/her thoughts? Thank you, I would really appreciate it.

Answer 1

NathanDavis

Xper 6

hmm, I have a few questions
when you say she rejected you, it sounds a bit negative, how did this happen? would you say she was mean, dismissive? or was she just not on the same page and liked you back?
you also mentioned that you were not friends at all, however, you mentioned working together in group projects, so how often would that be, and how was your interaction one one one, within the group? good? fun? did she talk and you listened? or you would share thoughts and she would listen?

andrew_kk

11 d
First of all, thanks for answering. Well, she never brought the idea up again after she knew that I like her. Also, the teachers used to pick the groups, so I worked with her a couple of times. She is a very sweet and kind girl, so basically when I talked she listened, and when she talked I listened too. So my question is, why would she text me after rejecting me three years ago, and not talking for two years. Some of my friends are telling me she probably likes me, but I don't want to get my hopes up. Also, I watched a couple of youtube video about how to know if a girl likes you over text, and I couldn't figure anything out. By the way she is a sweet girl, and she won't flirt or do any of that stuff, so she's making it harder for me to know what she wants and why she texted me.
NathanDavis

10 d
When I was in middle-school, I had a crush on this girl, it was evident to everyone and also to her. At some point others made sure to point out. I had to confirm that yes, this was the case, I basically just said "yeah". I did not explain why, and I never asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, never asked if she felt in any way similar. So basically she knew it but she did not reject me as I just never asked anything. We were close enough as friends, after these things happened, it got a bit awkward but we were still friends just not as close, we changed schools, so keeping in touch was less and less over the years, but it was still there, and she wanted to make sure I was alright, she did want to know that I was doing better and I was over here, because this was heavy on her, and also because she genuinely wanted me to feel better about myself, and these things. I never got my hopes up. People can care very much about us and be genuine about it, but it is just that, caring.

Even if it has been just two years, you two must have changed some or a lot. I think it would be good for you to forget about whether she likes you or not, It would be good for you to focus on something else, she is in touch with you, so why don't you just allow yourself the chance to actually get to know her, as she is now, and offerr her the same, she will get to know you. And maybe something comes out of it, maybe it does not.

Answer 2

andrew_kk

First of all, thanks for answering. Well, she never brought the idea up again after she knew that I like her. Also, the teachers used to pick the groups, so I worked with her a couple of times. She is a very sweet and kind girl, so basically when I talked she listened, and when she talked I listened too. So my question is, why would she text me after rejecting me three years ago, and not talking for two years. Some of my friends are telling me she probably likes me, but I don't want to get my hopes up. Also, I watched a couple of youtube video about how to know if a girl likes you over text, and I couldn't figure anything out. By the way she is a sweet girl, and she won't flirt or do any of that stuff, so she's making it harder for me to know what she wants and why she texted me.

Answer 3

NathanDavis

When I was in middle-school, I had a crush on this girl, it was evident to everyone and also to her. At some point others made sure to point out. I had to confirm that yes, this was the case, I basically just said "yeah". I did not explain why, and I never asked her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, never asked if she felt in any way similar. So basically she knew it but she did not reject me as I just never asked anything. We were close enough as friends, after these things happened, it got a bit awkward but we were still friends just not as close, we changed schools, so keeping in touch was less and less over the years, but it was still there, and she wanted to make sure I was alright, she did want to know that I was doing better and I was over here, because this was heavy on her, and also because she genuinely wanted me to feel better about myself, and these things. I never got my hopes up. People can care very much about us and be genuine about it, but it is just that, caring.

Even if it has been just two years, you two must have changed some or a lot. I think it would be good for you to forget about whether she likes you or not, It would be good for you to focus on something else, she is in touch with you, so why don't you just allow yourself the chance to actually get to know her, as she is now, and offerr her the same, she will get to know you. And maybe something comes out of it, maybe it does not.

Answer 4

Avicenna | 2.4K opinions shared on Girl's Behavior topic.

Master

She’s in a different country and you have possible issues with depression. I would think she’s just being friendly.

andrew_kk

11 d
Yeah that's what I did, but my question here is why she wanted to text me suddenly after rejecting me and not talking for two years.

Answer 5

andrew_kk

Yeah that's what I did, but my question here is why she wanted to text me suddenly after rejecting me and not talking for two years.

Answer 6

Lexi_Lous

Xper 4

I would thank her for her support and say basically all that praise about her that you've said here. And I would let her know that if there is ANYTHING ON HER MIND, if she's got worries or has to get SOMETHING OFF HER CHEST... That she shouldn't hesitate to talk to you about it

andrew_kk

11 d
Yeah that's what I did, but my question here is why she wanted to text me suddenly after rejecting me and not talking for two years.
Lexi_Lous

11 d
Because you were friends I think, checking up on friends happens
andrew_kk

11 d
We weren't friends at all, and the only time we used to talk to each other is when we had group projects.
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Lexi_Lous

11 d
Oh... Then I do not know either. I wouldn't get my hopes up

Answer 7

andrew_kk

Yeah that's what I did, but my question here is why she wanted to text me suddenly after rejecting me and not talking for two years.

Answer 8

Lexi_Lous

Because you were friends I think, checking up on friends happens

Answer 9

andrew_kk

We weren't friends at all, and the only time we used to talk to each other is when we had group projects.

Answer 10

Lexi_Lous

Oh... Then I do not know either. I wouldn't get my hopes up

Answer 11

Anonymous

Well she definitely seems like she cares about you. But if you lives in another country then maybe you should try to remain friends.

andrew_kk

11 d
Yeah, but all the people around me are telling me that maybe we need to have a relationship, but I don't know. Also, in 3 or 4 years I might be going to the country she lives in.
Opinion Owner

10 d
Ok well try again in 3 or 4 years

Answer 12

andrew_kk

Yeah, but all the people around me are telling me that maybe we need to have a relationship, but I don't know. Also, in 3 or 4 years I might be going to the country she lives in.

Answer 13

Opinion Owner

Ok well try again in 3 or 4 years

Answer 14

novian

Xper 3

How do you "have depression for a coupe of days"

andrew_kk

11 d
I had for like 2 weeks, but I was starting to get better when I told her
Alex_15938

10 d
@andrew_kk did you actually go to a therapist or did you self diagnose, because if it’s the latter then you didn’t have depression you were just sad for a week and then got over with it.

Answer 15

andrew_kk

I had for like 2 weeks, but I was starting to get better when I told her

Answer 16

Alex_15938

@andrew_kk did you actually go to a therapist or did you self diagnose, because if it’s the latter then you didn’t have depression you were just sad for a week and then got over with it.

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