So knowing that men are buying them drinks to have sex with them, and accepting the drinks knowing they will not have sex with them, what does this say about women accepting drinks?
Women, why do you think men buy drinks for you at a bar?

So knowing that men are buying them drinks to have sex with them, and accepting the drinks knowing they will not have sex with them, what does this say about women accepting drinks?
- Anonymous1 moWell it is a stranger at a bar you have not even had a conversation with, so all the man is judging from are looks. Makes most sense that he will only decide if it is someone he wants to fuck, not see if things evolve into more by starting a conversation.
I will only say yes to a drink if I at least find the guy good looking as well. I can't tell if I want sex so quickly anyway, but I sometimes like to have some fun and flirt a bit when out, so why not take that drink and talk a little. If we hit it off I normally pay the next one ;)0|00|0Is this still revelant?- Opinion Owner1 mo
none.. I prefer sober sex, alcohol makes me physically less sensitive, so if I get more than a few drinks I do not want sex that night. In general I also go out to party, not to get sex, so I'd rather stay at the bar and go home to sleep when I get tired :D.. if I like someone in that way we exchange numbers instead and may have a nice relaxing time in a bed another day.
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- Usually his ultimate goal is to have sex with me. First:
1. He wants to get my attention
2. He wants to be nice to me
3. He wants to start a conversion
4. He wants to get my number.
5. He wants to take me home for sex or at the very least get a few dates.
Anyway no sensible girl accepts a drink from a guy anymore, its too risky.0|10|0Is this still revelant?Fair enough if you jump to your lady entry "He wants to take me home for sex". Everything else you wrote is hyperbole.
I dont believe I made any exaggerated statements or claims not meant to be taken literally. I merely speak from my personal experience of why I think men buy women drinks at a bar.
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- Some dudes are just being nice and its like a bar tradition to buy a drink for other bar goers.
I've been offered a drink some bar goers were going to buy me but I don't drink alcohol.
Other men buy drinks for women because they have a hidden agenda they are trying to smash.
A drunk or intoxicated woman is easy to get sex from.0|10|0Is this still revelant?Ok, but do you often see women buying drinks for men? If so, why do you think a woman would buy a drink for man?
Never seen it. I don't go to bars, just restaurants that serve liquor. Most women won't buy men a damn thing unless she's a very good friend of the dude and she has money to blow.
- If I buy a drink for a lady, it is because I hope to engage her in conversation.1|20|0Is this still revelant?
@OlderAndWiser. Would you buy a man a drink hoping to engage him in conversation?
No, not at all. If I buy a drink for a lady, I want to engage her in conversation, get to know her, and f there is mutual interest, ask for a date. But I don't expect her to have sex with me because I buy her a drink.
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109- What about when a woman buys a drink for a guy? It's never worked for me, but I still try hoping it will.
If I see a cute guy at a restaurant or bar, I'll ask one of the staff what he's drinking and I just buy them an extra drink. When they bring it to the guy, they point me out and let him know it came from me.
I do this in hopes of starting a conversation, but they usually just walk right by me and never come talk with me.0|00|0@Purple_Rose. That's because the guy is a bit weirded out, like sending a guy flowers... we don't know what to do with them.
Well what am I supposed to do then? At least with a drink, it's something they ordered already and enjoy.
- I would believe the majority of men who offer to buy a woman a drink do so because they are being nice/polite and are in hopes to start a conversation with a woman.
I know I have offered to buy a man a drink when I have wanted to get to know the man better. Sometimes a drink may help people relax and allow people to open up. Its an ice breaker.0|20|0 - I once worked at a popular and pricey nightclub and learned that girls go to get drunk and guys go to get laid. This, "I just wanna dance" thing is the biggest lie ever told.0|00|0
- I drink at home with alcohol I bought myself so N/A... I'm not into the bar scene0|10|0
Wouldn't that depend on the individual man why? To say otherwise would be making generalisations that I don't make 🤷🏼♀️
@Brainsbeforebeauty. I am asking why you THINK men buy drinks for women. This is not a client of law and you are not being prosecuted.
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@KrakenAttackin Can you read? She said that she doesn't generalise like that, so it's stupid to just repeat "why you THINK.." when she just told you that she doesn't 'THINK' anything.
I gave you my answer already...
But here, maybe cuz they think she looks thirsty or parched 🤣🤣🤣
There, are you happy now 🙂🙃Per your update: What does it say about men thinking a drink obligates a woman to have sex with them? Why can't someone just by a drink for someone as a friendly gesture? 🤷🏼♀️I have, when at the casino and me and the guy playing next to me were chatting and laughing and both winning and high fiving each other, I ordered a drink and asked if he wanted one... Not to flirt, not to get sex, cuz he was someone that was making the time I was there fun... Stop trying to put this on women like they users. Noone is FORCING that man to buy drinks if he stupid enough to think he's deserved sex for that, that's on him, noone else!!
- Anonymous1 moThey're trying to get laid and I don't accept free drinks anyway, I can pay for myself0|30|0
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@OpinionOwner what if the person watched and heard what you ordered before and knew you might be waiting a while and the waitress had just finished (and had said to the waitress that if they dont pay he will and have it himself lol)
- To get sex from them obviously. Not very effective attempts. If she likes him enough, she'll sleep with him. Otherwise they'll just consume the drink and will never be heard of or seen again. The 2. nd outcome is more common.0|10|0
- Only one reason a guy buys a girl/woman drinks. He wants to get her in bed.0|10|0
@douride2. Ok, of this is the case, do most women know this? Do most women accept drinks with no intent of having sex with these men?
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- To have sex, at the end of the day. The "be nice", "start a conversation", "likes attention", all comes down to sex.0|10|0
- A wise man (possibly Sir Winston Churchill) once said all human endeavour has the purpose of attracting a sexual partner. That may be only true when we're (potentially) sexually active.0|00|0
- I think it's done as a way to get the woman's attention.1|10|0
- Because she doesn't seem able to buy herself one with all that jewellery holding her down.0|11|0
- If they had a fucking clue they'd know he wants to fuck her. But they play all manner of little games. Mind-fuck games.0|10|0
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The simple and proven fact is, women will do anything if there's enough compensation. Yes, sex for money. It's just a matter of negotiating what just compensation is. This is how their little brain works.
- damn most women chose D!
glad to see the honesty for once0|10|0 - Depends on the type of drink, but either conversation, or trying to fuck me.0|10|0
- They probably do it because they’re lame.0|10|0
Yeah, so I’d be of the view that buying drinks for girls you aren’t married to, aren’t family, aren’t having sex with you currently and aren’t dating you is lame.
First of all buying a girl a drink is not going to make her like you. She’s not going to unzip your fly and blow you if you buy her a drink. If she was interested in you the drink wasn’t necessary. If not, no amount of bought drinks are going to nice your way into her pants. If a person is so unimaginative and lacks the gift of gab to the extent they feel that buying girls drinks is they best way to keep their attention then they should be less of a drip, and learn to be charming and get some game.
My personal rule is drinks, dinners, movies or anything else are for girls I’m married to, in a relationship with or I’m already having sex with. I’m not here to bank roll anyone buy myself. I will pay for and buy things for girls who’ve demonstrated to me they have value and are worth it, the rest can pay for their own drinks.
Not to mention check out you tube for girls that openly admit to going to clubs with little to no cash so suckers can buy their drinks.
This all packed up amount to my answer. They do it because they’re lame.@Exterminatore. I could not agree more. Only a damn fool buys random women drinks.
- Drunk women are easier to f*ck duh.0|10|0
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