I just think rating someone based off looks is somewhat dehumanizing. You rate movies, restaurants. Not human beings?
But a lot of boys ask me to rate them and a lot make games out of basically sending pictures of yourselves and getting rated in a gc.
I’ve never rated anyone, mostly cause if I gave someone a high rating it’d probably give them an ego boost and make them think I want to be with them or something and also as I said before I find it dehumanizing and beauties subjective. I’d never want anyone to feel bad based off of how much I find them attractive. On top of that what makes a person attractive is personality, looks is a small portion for me in my opinion.
if anyone has thoughts on their experiences with being rated or rating people feel free to share them.
Your illustration suggest T. V. show teenage coming of age dating lunacy and social media circus social conventional thinking of a catch-22 nature. Did the boys start to rate the girls gameshow style and the girls reciprocated and response to loving the attention thought about by being objectified in such a manner, or did the boys see the girls responding positively to being objectified in such a manner and follow the suit bye doing some objectifying of their own, either way causing a self-sustaining circle of indecent and polite dehumanizing objectivity that fosters and promotes more the same in a circular feeding frenzy of people who want attention, people who give their undivided attention, and neither one caring what it cost iether gender in terms of social conventional insanity, in the teenage relationship model of catch-22 insanity...
To rate, to categorize, to evaluate, to judge, and yes to discriminate (differentiate) is very very human, and we do it all the time, consciously or not, and with bad intentions or not. It is one of the most natural things in this world.
The difference is how you do it, when do you do it, and why do you do it.
There are two things I don't like much from your post, to present it as if only boys do this, because girls do it too, and also children and adults as well. But I get it, you're talking from your personal experience. In my experience, and having three girl friends in college, I do remember those afternoons in which we had nothing much to do at all, so we would sit at the benches, and watch people walk by... they liked to rate every guy on his looks, sometimes their fashion choices, and other times girls, as well. They were never mean about it, they would not do it to mock, even if the people judged would never know, they just liked to point out certain things they liked about someone, or as many... it was just a fun time to pass some time.
The other thing is your choice of words "dehumanizing" from all the horrors and cruelty that a lot of people experience, which are truly henious, to say something like this is to that level, well.. that's just me being, fussy about words and what they actually imply.
By the way, I don't like to give rates to people either, better said, I don't like to post numbers here as rating for people, but I've done it in my mind, because it's a natural thing to do, I just don't want to let it out there in case that it might hurt someone in a way., because yes, that can happen sometimes, and you can also enable an ego in a way that's not healthy. And other times is just creepy.
I choose the word dehumanizing because of how we rate resteraunts and etc so I don’t think we should rate people.
And I can say how girls do it cause my friends weren’t like that, and all my friends are lesbian so they don’t talk about any guys at all. My perspective isn’t as broad so that’s why I didn’t talk about girls doing it.
And what if people had been rating people before restaurants, movies, music hits and other pop culture even existed? You didn't realize people had been doing that ever since specially when it comes to looking for mates. Even women does that before you say it's "dehumanizing" pretending that's really the logic, that would mean we're humanizing restaurants for rating it then.
What? A resteraunts isn’t a conscious being, it’s a place with food. That you go to eat.. you can’t humanize a resteraunt? That’s not even the right way to use the word.
And I’ve already explained why I don’t like rating people. If you do it than I don’t care, their isn’t any right Or wrong answer to my question so I’m not debating something so illogical
But you like to compare someone rating an unconscious being to a conscious being as if they really are the same. But now it's different. You're just going to contradict everything at the end are you?
You're reason why it's dehumanizing is because it is like rating a restaurant. But what i said still stands people rate people even before restaurants exist. And would also mean people rate people not like rating a restaurant like what you believe
Which you could have said in the very beginning. How am i supposed to know if that really is your perspective or you're just really being delusional? Anyone can be so delusional at the start but when they realize they're wrong they can just say it their opinion in the end
Where in your description did you say it? I mean you just said that now before that? It's satisfying to debunk someone who cannot admit what their own doing for ways to dodge it
Yes it is dehumanising and stupid because they don’t have a parameter to rate off like it’s not based on conventional beauty but rather their own personal tastes which makes it even more biased and pathetic. Everyone has different taste because to a great extent, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
We have all disagreed on how good looking someone is with people before because to them someone may be gold but to us they’re not even brass. Some people think Angelina Jolie is ugly. I may add that she is not conventionally attractive, I mean she has a large chin, a sqaure shaped jaw and small eyes as opposed to the conventionally attractive Aishwarya Rai with a small chin, dainty V shaped jaw and large almond shaped eyes. Yet a lot of people seem to find Angelina pretty because that is their taste.
Not everyone finds Aishwarya to be their cup of tea but almost everyone can agree that she is at least pretty. Because she is a conventional beauty but she may not be everyone’s cup of tea despite that.
People do have tastes that deviate from conventional beauty. Some men are attracted to fat women as opposed to the conventional hourglass 36-24-36.
Some women prefer shorter men as opposed to men at least seven inches taller than them.
I call foul and BS. Women rate men just as quickly, if not even more critical. How many great women date and marry a fat, ugly poor guy? I bet you will have trouble even finding an antidotal exception...
How many women will just booty call a a brick house firefighter but will ignore an average nice guy? You might try to say preference, but to say that is to have a rating system.
When I hear women talk about how they don't rate, first is virtue-signaling. She wants to feel somehow better and righteous about herself. It's typically grounded with a low-esteem. They want to feel superior for even a moment.
Women who don't care about other's ratings are not going to care how others grade her. The only people worried about ratings are people worried that they are low to begin with. Again, low-esteem...
Everything starts at the top, meaning that all our fearless leaders do is label us, come from china, your Chinese American, your black, no no no that just won't do , your African American, they rate us based on our, race , size everything, so it's no wonder that it trickeld down into the population, i agree with you were are all humans but i must say, some of us look like the evolutionary process is still going on making the transition from something to human, just saying not everyone running around out there is how can i say, good looking, so if someone wants validation as to how good or bad they really look, its really not s bad thing at least they can try to do something about it after being told the truth, right
Everyone has a rating system. How it's verbalized in your head is just different but you do have a rating system. You know what qualities you like in a guy vs what you don't like.
You readily can look at two guys and know which one you find more attractive. When you can't decide. Congratulations you found two guys you "rate" about the same.
You just don't like to call it that. It's true for everyone. If you're ever in a scenario to where you compare to this or that and are making a decision on your preference, you are inherently giving them a rating in your mind whether you like it or not.
Rating girls with groups of guys might be childish, but don’t kid yourself if you think beauty is completely subjective. It is partially subjective but also strongly hard-wired into people through evolution. People have their preferences and there is some variation, but scientific studies have demonstrated that in general certain physical features are strongly attractive to straight males, such as a low waist-to-hip ratio (0.7 is the ratio that is most desired), certain facial proportions, and overall symmetry. This is because these features correlate strongly with health and fertility, and health and fertility promote the survival of the species.
I know. I watch this yt channel that’s very imormative on that stuff. I think it’s called quoves studio or something along those lines. It talks about cultural and genetic beauty. The channels very interesting, I think you’d like it.
Sorry but the harsh reality is life isn't fair and humans are all born with different levels of attraction, different capabilities and different intelligence levels. Everyone assesses others beauty to an extent and good for you if you don't. Whether you like it or not, everyone "rates you" in some form or way subconsciously. There are always going to be people who can handle the truth and don't mind getting an honest opinion about themselves. I admit it's rude to get rated without asking for a rating... no one other than immature people do that, but it's natural for people to do this in their own heads regardless. You can never stop that. Everyone has dating criteria and physical standards. It doesn't dehumanize anyone.
I hear u buddy. However I rate myself on a "cool meter" and edge-o-meter" and attractive meter as well.
Rating someone a 4 is definitely dehumanizng. like hey u person ur ugly. I would say that a lot or most guys are dehumanizing when they do this.
boys rate girls to see how "beautiful" or "hot" or "pretty" they are im not gonna use any more words youra minor right
but most guys especially young guys dont fully see a person they see a person but there more worried about like your apperance and how good you look a lot of the time and to answer your question it is the systemic abuse of women which had them be second class citizens and then the "changes" of society in the 1960s go look it up please and you'll see waht i mean
I would say girls rate guys very handily, but perhaps without numbers. According to that tinder rating data (I think it was), women rated most guys as below average. I guess a lot of girls don't know what 'average' is. As for rating girls, I think you can generally rate a person's attractiveness objectively by looking at their features, of course taking into account your own ethnic biases. Saying it directly to the person could be rude, but I had a girl I worked with ask me how I rated her, which was a 6.5. She seemed fairly fine with that, not like we were dating. People throw around 10 out of 10! so much, but such a high number is practically humanly impossible, and you have to start your outlook with a 5 out of 10 as a basis. Some things are fairly universal in terms of attraction, like long hair for women, narrow waist, nice hips, no tats or piercings, etc.
because guys are realistic. they wanna give all they have with girls they realisiticly "have a chance with" and not waste their time with girls that won't give them a chance to begin with. that's why rating is helpful. it reduces the time you waste in getting to know people, so that you can find someone you can settle with. life is short.
I’m talking about teenage boys? No teenage boy is worried about marriage, unless they’re in some weird cult where they have to be involved in child marriage
You do know that there's a corresponding Jubilee video where girls do the same thing to guys. The proper question is; "why do people rate each other so much". Don't be so conceited as to think this is something girls are too flawless to do. That is so far from reality.
The difference of the jubilee video was that it was supposed to show how bad rating people was and how weird it was to do. It was more of an experimental thing
Jubilee posits loads of useless so called "experiments" that they claim are meant to shed light on societal issues but they are superficial and stupidly conducted, with a paltry handpicked few people of any given grouping which is far from allowing scientific generalization.
I don’t agree with jubilee because they care more about entertainment and platform stupid people. For example the one video they did where it was flat earth ers debating scientists and the scientists where the obvious ones with common sense but for some reason the video was framed as if both side are on an equal standing when in reality it was actual facts and people who study vs Facebook moms and conspiracy theorists that don’t have a clue what they’re talking about.
I just used the picture as an example of what I was talking about though so it doesn’t hold much significance for what I actually am explaining cause if it did than I would’ve made sure to include the videos link
Because we have preferences. And based on said preferences, and a rule of giving them a mark ranging from 1 to 10, you have this kind of videos. Too bad you feel dehumanized by something that happens from when humans are teenagers onward and your gender also likes to employ to express your enjoyment of a dude's aspect, but you better get used to it. For it's going nowhere.
we all need validation for our appearance, some need it from others and some get it from themselves. for example, if a man is always in the gym working hard he dont need to be rated because he can already tell he looks better than most people that dont work as hard. When you just put on clothes, jewelry, and makeup a person would need to be rated because they want to believe they covered their insecurities well
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I rate girls because its a good way to keep track on attractive girls worth following online. And IRL its a good way to keep track on dateable girls. Of course beauty is subjective, what I consider a 10 might not be a 10 for another guy. For me, as long as she is not a feminist looks matters 90%.
Factors to take into consideration when rating a girl: -Body -Personality -Level of feminism -Voice -Bloodtype (if known)
You see, unlike women men are visual creatures. We need something nice to look at.
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Look, the reality is that competition is a part of life. There are always going to be people more beautiful, more desired, more competent, richer, nicer, and more liked than you. It's up to every individual to try to make the most of the gifts they've been given.
Beauty can’t be rated, everyone has their own type/what they’re attracted to. And I don’t think someone else’s beauty just automatically devalues my own beauty?
That kind of mindset is the reason why so many girls just go their life hating themselves and everything about themselves when in reality if you think you’re beautiful than you truly shouldn’t give a fuck if anyone doesn’t say your beautiful. I’ve never been referred to as ugly as an insult but I’ve had to stand up for friends being called ugly. I proceeded to cuss Said person out because that’s just not true and I was tired of their bs in general
Yeah I don't think that's true. If you ask 30 guys to list the top 10 hottest girls in a group you're going to get a LOT of overlap. That's not because beauty is arbitrary. Quite the contrary, it's pretty predictable. There are always exceptions but as always with exceptions they're rare.
That’s how teenage boys act because their brain isn’t fully developed by scientifically your tastes will age as you age. Meaning, they’ll get more complex.
Not to mention cultural, spiritual/religious backgrounds, ethnic/race backgrounds all play a role in what someone might find attractive.
And don't you realize that everyone's ratings are subjective not objective? Everybody has the rights to rate and have preferences because we are born different. People don't normally tell each other how they rate each other but in the inside, they do without you knowing unless you ask. That's the reality and that's how the world works whether you like it or not and you're not entitled to anyone's preferences either.
@Aiko_E_Lara at this point I give up. I’ve already told you I don’t care about other people’s preferences and this is just my take on it. 💀I’m convinced you just don’t understand words at this point cause this is beyond me
@OpinionOwner I’m talking about teenage boys. And I don't know what you mean by prime
If you don't really care about people's preferences then you shouldn't also care about people rating each other. Everybody has the rights to rate keeping it inside.
It's really easy to accuse anyone they don't understand but do you even understand what i'm trying to say? What i'm saying is rating someone is not dehumanizing like how you believe it to be
Subjective and objective are on a spectrum. If you asked guys to rate a group of girls from most to least attractive and there was ZERO correlation to their responses THAT would make their assessments of beauty totally subjective. If, on the other hand, there is a LOT of correlation--not perfect mind you but very high--then the assessments are much less subjective.
I think you'll find that despite the propaganda, the degree of subjectivity is pretty low across large samples.
@doopayo no you're not just saying that because if you really are, i wouldn't really respond to your reasoning. But sure i can also say, all i did was just giving a response. Now what? How about instead of complaining about guys rating girls, you find a better problem?
@Aiko_E_Lara I was just curious about one thing and asked a question. If you think my question is stupid than it’s your own fault for wasting your time typing paragraphs upon paragraphs calling me a misandrist and all this bs. Sounds to me like you’re just bored
You're just curious then i just gave you an answer. Like explaining how rating had been in anyone ever since those restaurants and those theatres you're talking about existed. Actually it's the very same thing how you want to complain about my opinion here. If you don't like opinions then you shouldn't really ask. You looking for an argument but when you get one, you pull your "im just asking" card. You know i am also just saying right?
And i don't think paragraphs are really that big of a deal to me but if you think it's a waste of time then why are you even here? If you think i'm wasting my time then i no time management and i'm not even making any effort making paragraphs like this.
I said I didn’t have the same opinion and after that you accused me of being sexist against men all because I asked a question about men? And I said making paragraphs for a topic you claim isn’t a big deal and you said you don’t want to talk about is a waste of your time
And of course i'm not forgetting your paragraphs whining about how misogynistic those men are while the article itself is be giving generalizations which you like to preach. Ironically enough you have time to actually rant. But when it comes to proper arguments like this, you complain about paragraphs now. Excuses i see?
Also, in case if you're so ignorant about this, waste of time is subjective for everyone. If this is a waste of time for you than you can also be wasting your time doing something else nobody cares about.
And lastly you don't have to say anything when your action speaks louder than the words you know. But sure this is a joke now when someone makes a point
You can jump to your own conclusions. Anyone can say the same thing to you as well. Speaking of losing brain cells, you don't have to worry about that because you have no brain cells to lose anyways
@doopayo I'm sorry actually I was trying to talk to you, rating someone for their beauty is just some way to quantify "oh, she's very beautiful", "oh, she's a bit beautiful", "oh, she's average".
Beauty is subjective, okay, but that doesn't mean that we do not find some things beautiful, and then we come up with things like that, if you find this dehumanizing, okay, that's on you, but I that doesn't make sense to me to be honest.
You think i'm actually making fun of you? You're making fun of yourself thinking everything is a joke. And sure what if i'm really i'm a grown ass 39 year old? That doesn't really change the coherent of everything i said
I said i know time management unlike you. If you really think it's a waste of time then why are you even here? Are you supposed to be wasting your time somewhere else? i mean you're the one who's complaining
Look i have the spare time to do so and you're not the only moron i face here. You also don't gain anything from giving an argument but this is a free speech website whether you like it or not so there's not much point of you being here if you don't like to be "schooled" by someone just pointing out your flawed arguments which is actually not that deep (makes better sense if i use those words at this point showing all ironic you really are) you being a 15 year old is not really an excuse for you to pull your age victim card. You had your chance to learn in this argument but no you chose the hard way
And lastly everyone doesn't gain anything from posting an opinion, question, reply giving an argument or etc. in this website other than the satisfaction or whatever feeling that gets them motivated to post anything. But in my case i just feel the satisfaction of giving valid points whether you like it or not. I don't know about you but its effortless for me. If you really think i'm wasting time, wasting energy then you can really speak for yourself. It's not that hard but ad hominems anyways is really what you want to do. You have energy to give logical fallacies but you don't have energy to give proper arguments how sad.
It's the most stupid thing on earth to rate people, based on looks, I know thousands of pretty girls who are not worthy of a penny and opposite. The strength of someone's character is the most important thing, so never get caught in media's trash injecting your mind. And I love to see how these people react under hard circumstances and see them under pressure because that's the life is about, not looks but how we act and interact with each other.
I agree with you, people shouldn't rate someone based on looks, I want a girlfriend whose got a great personality, loves to smile, loves to laugh, loves to cuddle and boys rate girls cause they are immature and need to grow up
I think girls get mad at me when I rate them because it's basically impossible to read somebody not list you know them are you hear what comes out of their mouth because that's r a i t i n g them and that's all of them not just the body that's stupid
Girls don’t like rating because it’s objectifying. You rate resteraunts/movies. Not human beings, it kind of makes the person an object.
You could just compliment them or if you don’t think they’re attractive than that’s your business and you don’t have to make them feel bad about it cause that’s a shitty thing to do and people weren’t meant to live for your aesthetic pleasure.
Girls have both quantitative and qualitative aspects. As for those features that are quantitative (weight, height, proportions, hair and eye color,, lip quality for fellatio), there are so many of them that it's just more convenient to take an average.
I agree with not rating people.. I stopped doing it a while ago and never looked back.. It is a bit "dehumanizing".. But women rate men also.. Just as quickly.. And are probably a bit more harsh due to not being as visual as men..
