"Human nature hasn’t changed. Despite your perception that you are vastly different from everything that preceded you, the fact is that human nature changes very slowly. VERY slowly!"
Interesting. Everything you wrote is Interesting actually.
63 isn't even that old. My grandparents are 79 and can barely use a phone.
Can you enlighten me? Does the outcast ever get married? The outcast who also a loner who also average looking who also very shelter who also a virgin... does that girl live happily ever after?
I concur with the comments from @Belgie. Just look around you at the couples walking hand-in-hand through the mall. By definition, most of them are average. The found someone. And it appears that they are happy. But Mr. Right will not come knocking on your door asking of you are ready to escape from your self-imposed exile. Get out there and meet people. Volunteer. Take classes. Use online dating sites. Make yourself visible. Guys do not have x-ray vision so they can't look through your front door to see that there is a nice lady waiting inside.
@apple24 I really feel like that girl DOES live happily ever after. I can think of many cases of girls I've known who fit that description when they were younger; who are married now, and seem to be quite happy.
@Belgie and @OlderAndWiser I think that's excellent advice. I feel like I just got hit with both the jab and the hook--seeing these two relpies together.
My situation may be totally different; these replies may be nine months old; but this advice is no less applicable to me. It's not exactly new insight for me, that I need to "put myself back out there and look". For some reason, it just sort of hit me in the face reading both your replies here. Thanks :)
Great post. I found this site by accident and didn't think anyone would pay attention to anything I had to say but some of them actually did. I got a kick out of the ad from the Honor House catalog. I used to send away for that and the Johnson& Smith catalog when I was a kid. They were full of all kinds of interesting things.
Nice My Take. I agree with you... time change, but there's still nothing new under the sun. I think being older and having more experience gives you a broader perspective of things... that's very good when someone needs your advice. When I ask for advice I ask older people. They're already walked that path and learned from their own mistakes.
You said, "There's nothing new under the sun." You know who said that first? King Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived. So you are wise beyond your years!
Nice Take I've been here myself since 2011. I hope you don't think of yourself as a Grandpa you are still working you got a long life ahead of you. Look at Sylvester Stallone still making Rocky movies AKA Creed in his early 70s
I have never seen one of those things in person. When I googled for a picture to illustrate "trophy wife," that was one of the first items in results and I used it just because it was such an eye catcher!
Very Nice read. Thank you for your services and advices my friend! I appreciate it.
You may imagine yourself as a grandpa but you are more than that. You are a guide if you will. You are the (older) tree of wisdom if you will. You are not to be forgotten.
I'm glad you're here. I'm not a very active user, I'm more of a lurker. I only keep my G@G account because you and a couple other users post sensible opinions and/or myTakes that I find worth reading.
Very good take, even I get rude comments for being on here at times for my age and yet I have a lot of good advice based off my experiences in life , I talk to all ages with respect to there age and know how to act but there are always a few that will say rude comments because of our age
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A good take from the well respected patriarch of GAG! Bless you! :-)
No he stopped talking me after I turned 18. He never asked for nudes from me. He was respectful towards me. I still miss him till this day. We were talking about marriage at 16
nice take sir , why people call you bad stuff anyways they dont know you , there's something that only experienced people can feel , older generations had more morals and more innocent , not like todays generation where all are crybabies and disrespectful people.
What do you think has changed about what people want in a relationship? Don't people still want love, sex, companionship, faithfulness, and to grow old together?
For good humor, though, let me respond to that. And I will do so in parts. I will address each issue separately:
Do people still want sex? Yes. In fact, more people want sex than before. Especially more women. (Referring to pre-marital sex, specifically.) That is a change. But the greatest change is most likely among girls (juveniles). There is a reason why the HPV vaccine is being heavily promoted for middle school girls. Because middle school girls are having sex.
Do people still want love? Some do still. But many do not. There are growing trends -- on both side of the gender divide -- of people desiring more casual relationships that are not based in love. Romance is seen as an archaic and outdated concept.
Do people still want companionship? Some do. Many just want to have sexual intercourse as a recreational experience to feel physical pleasure and achieve orgasms. Partners are chosen for that purpose and that purpose alone. In many cases, couples do not spend time together outside of sexual encounters.
Do people still want faithfulness? A plurality does still want exclusive relationships. However, a growing minority believes in the concept of "open relationships.". A growing minority believes in swinging. A growing minority believes in cuckoldry. A growing minority believes in polyamory. And a growing minority believes in temporary marriages. (Meaning they don't believe in commitment for life. They believe that it's okay to cancel the contract if it's "not working out.")
Do people still want to grow old together? Not necessarily. If they get tired of their partner and/or "just don't feel a spark anymore," many believe that it's perfectly okay to just break up and start over with someone else.
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"Human nature hasn’t changed. Despite your perception that you are vastly different from everything that preceded you, the fact is that human nature changes very slowly. VERY slowly!"
Interesting. Everything you wrote is Interesting actually.
63 isn't even that old. My grandparents are 79 and can barely use a phone.
Can you enlighten me? Does the outcast ever get married? The outcast who also a loner who also average looking who also very shelter who also a virgin... does that girl live happily ever after?
P. S. I love ❤️ your opinions
Average looking sheltered virgin girls can still live happily ever after. But no guy is coming on a white horse to beat down your door and find you.
You should work on not being a loner. Get out there, and meet people. They will not find you all tucked away in your fortress of solitude.
I concur with the comments from @Belgie. Just look around you at the couples walking hand-in-hand through the mall. By definition, most of them are average. The found someone. And it appears that they are happy. But Mr. Right will not come knocking on your door asking of you are ready to escape from your self-imposed exile. Get out there and meet people. Volunteer. Take classes. Use online dating sites. Make yourself visible. Guys do not have x-ray vision so they can't look through your front door to see that there is a nice lady waiting inside.
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@apple24 I really feel like that girl DOES live happily ever after. I can think of many cases of girls I've known who fit that description when they were younger; who are married now, and seem to be quite happy.
@Belgie and @OlderAndWiser I think that's excellent advice. I feel like I just got hit with both the jab and the hook--seeing these two relpies together.
My situation may be totally different; these replies may be nine months old; but this advice is no less applicable to me. It's not exactly new insight for me, that I need to "put myself back out there and look". For some reason, it just sort of hit me in the face reading both your replies here. Thanks :)
I think its awesome having an older G@G user here. It means you have more wisdom and life experience that we can learn from :)
I appreciate your kind words.
Great post. I found this site by accident and didn't think anyone would pay attention to anything I had to say but some of them actually did.
I got a kick out of the ad from the Honor House catalog. I used to send away for that and the Johnson& Smith catalog when I was a kid. They were full of all kinds of interesting things.
Nice My Take. I agree with you... time change, but there's still nothing new under the sun.
I think being older and having more experience gives you a broader perspective of things... that's very good when someone needs your advice. When I ask for advice I ask older people. They're already walked that path and learned from their own mistakes.
You said, "There's nothing new under the sun." You know who said that first? King Solomon, the wisest man who ever lived.
So you are wise beyond your years!
Nice Take I've been here myself since 2011. I hope you don't think of yourself as a Grandpa you are still working you got a long life ahead of you. Look at Sylvester Stallone still making Rocky movies AKA Creed in his early 70s
You are right. I am healthy and active and have not yet made any reservations at a nursing home! :) Thanks!
You don't need it you're working man that can take care of business
That female head is terrifying holy f did people actually have that on their walls? How did they sleep at night?, creepy af
I have never seen one of those things in person. When I googled for a picture to illustrate "trophy wife," that was one of the first items in results and I used it just because it was such an eye catcher!
Thank you for sharing your MyTake with us , well appreciated and hope you stay forever on GAG. You're a great guy for sure !!!
Those are very kind words! Thanks!
You're Welcome :)
Very Nice read. Thank you for your services and advices my friend! I appreciate it.
You may imagine yourself as a grandpa but you are more than that. You are a guide if you will. You are the (older) tree of wisdom if you will. You are not to be forgotten.
I'm happy you're here. You are one of my favorite users.
I appreciate your kind words!
I'm glad you're here. I'm not a very active user, I'm more of a lurker. I only keep my G@G account because you and a couple other users post sensible opinions and/or myTakes that I find worth reading.
I appreciate your very kind words!
Very good take, even I get rude comments for being on here at times for my age and yet I have a lot of good advice based off my experiences in life , I talk to all ages with respect to there age and know how to act but there are always a few that will say rude comments because of our age
A good take from the well respected patriarch of GAG! Bless you! :-)
Your comments are usually sensible. Thanks for allowing me to know you better.
You know, on this site, being above the age of 29 makes you a "senior!" So. . . I appreciate having some company in the seniors' section!
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I do too. Thanks.
Beautiful MyTake, @OlderAndWiser, And Also... AN ICON, hun!!! xxoo
. . . said one icon to another! :)
I was 14 when I met a 51 year old man and been friends until I was 18
Sometimes, friendship crosses generations and not every older man has inappropriate intentions. :)
Very true. He was there for me when I was going through a hard time. He was my father figure
Do you still have contact with him?
No he stopped talking me after I turned 18. He never asked for nudes from me. He was respectful towards me. I still miss him till this day. We were talking about marriage at 16
isn't that kind of ironic,
nice take sir , why people call you bad stuff anyways they dont know you , there's something that only experienced people can feel , older generations had more morals and more innocent , not like todays generation where all are crybabies and disrespectful people.
Although I am not really the target group being one of the older members here myself and no babe in the woods, I also appreciate your contributions.
I think you're a valuable member of GaG.
You always give good advice even if the person doesn't want to hear it.
I enjoyed your mytake. Hopefully some of the young users will have learned something from it.
"However, what people want in a relationship hasn't changed.". This statement is incorrect. It has changed a lot!
Good MyTake, though. :)
And thanks for being here.
What do you think has changed about what people want in a relationship? Don't people still want love, sex, companionship, faithfulness, and to grow old together?
@OlderAndWiser With the absolute utmost respect, sir... if I had the option to click a laugh react on what you just said, I would have done so.
For good humor, though, let me respond to that. And I will do so in parts. I will address each issue separately:
Do people still want sex?
Yes. In fact, more people want sex than before. Especially more women. (Referring to pre-marital sex, specifically.) That is a change. But the greatest change is most likely among girls (juveniles). There is a reason why the HPV vaccine is being heavily promoted for middle school girls. Because middle school girls are having sex.
Do people still want love?
Some do still. But many do not. There are growing trends -- on both side of the gender divide -- of people desiring more casual relationships that are not based in love. Romance is seen as an archaic and outdated concept.
Do people still want companionship?
Some do. Many just want to have sexual intercourse as a recreational experience to feel physical pleasure and achieve orgasms. Partners are chosen for that purpose and that purpose alone. In many cases, couples do not spend time together outside of sexual encounters.
Do people still want faithfulness?
A plurality does still want exclusive relationships. However, a growing minority believes in the concept of "open relationships.". A growing minority believes in swinging. A growing minority believes in cuckoldry. A growing minority believes in polyamory. And a growing minority believes in temporary marriages. (Meaning they don't believe in commitment for life. They believe that it's okay to cancel the contract if it's "not working out.")
Do people still want to grow old together?
Not necessarily. If they get tired of their partner and/or "just don't feel a spark anymore," many believe that it's perfectly okay to just break up and start over with someone else.