I don't have a well thought out opinion on this, so really I shouldn't comment but it's the internet so who cares. All I can say is that I think it's bull crap, you shouldn't be so pressured for being a man and nor should anyone else. I can't change society or anything like that. But, well here you have my opinion
You are very intuitive to have tapped into what nearly all males have or will have experienced at some point in their lives (the younger ones who don't know what you're saying still have time before them find out personally). Based on your understanding and empathy, I assume you would be a great girlfriend to marry.
You say you're going out regularly to be approached, have you not found a guy who is the right match for you? If not, what kind of "man" are you looking for?
You know, I considered saying something to this and decided to read the comments first. Having read the comments and finishing with the three female comments I have decided to remain silent as to what I was going to say.
I would like to pass on to you a heartfelt thanks. I've never heard a woman fully articulate any concern for men along these lines, with the exception of my wife. Most are quite content to just watch us die and complain that by dying we somehow inconvenienced them.
The road to understanding is often a long one. Trust me, I've read my fair share of "all women are the devil" articles on here and abroad. Everyone is clamoring for some understanding. You're never going to fully know what it's like for the other sex, but knowing what they go through, can shape how you view other men and women in the future kind of like a kid who grows up thinking his parents were too strict, but then seeing as a parent him/herself how hard it is to parent and keep your kids safe.
I try to refrain from using phrases like "most men," or "all men," because then one gets into the trap of believing what follow that if you say it enough. People are individuals, men and women alike. You have good and bad with either sex, and to me, it's much more important to assess the person right in front of you rather than just lump them all together because then you do miss the actual good because the focus is on, "well all women or all men do this or that," when it's not true.
Interesting read and brings back into light things that are rarely touched upon.
We've spent effort making life fairer for women and acknowledging their disadvantages (that others have created for them) and while we're still not finished on that front, men are being left in the shadow as if they should have no reason to complain.
It's not really as bad as it's portrayed here , being a man is about taking control of your life , be responsible , a supplier and a protector there nothing bad about it that's being a man and if you suck at being a man then yeah you're a failure, of course sometimes there are a bit exaggerated expectations but as long as you give your 110 % then you're a real man , this take is mostly true but ain't all bad
ya if a guy rants, complaints or has to vent about something, he gets labeled as whining, or if a guy views or see's something as a burden or unfair, he gets labeled as having a victim mentality. Ya the phrases "man up, grow a pair or grow some balls" have really been thrown way too much in society that they have become almost natural to say even they can be said in situations that are not necessary.
I have been transgender as long as i know always wanted to female. Tried going down the road to transtion. But no matter what i did all i saw in the mirror was a guy in a dress even after the op. Now i like the term NON BINERY hate being a man but cannot be a woman...
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So many times i walk by victorias secret and/or just see all the outfits girls have to wear, how fun and carefree everything can be, makes me want to be a girl so bad. Be able to post anything on social media and get hundreds of followers unlike a guy would end up looking like a fag or douche.
Great take. Not many women understand these things but most of what you've said is true. I would say though that many of these things are and always have been necessary.
You get it. I won't say that girls don't also get the short stick, but I always feel disappointed when someone I'm talking to doesn't understand this.
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It is hard to see past ones own nose sometimes to see that other people have their own set of issues as well. I can't expect a guy to care about my own as a woman if I'm completely dismissive of what he goes through as well.
Being a man is not easy and I want to laugh when women say how easy it is to be a man. I know it is not easy to be a woman either, but it is just funny to think that men have it easier.
Do you realize you think differently than most women? In the sense you are more compassionate of what the opposite sex goes through? It is a good thing
Creeper factor is crazy nowadays. Cause the media pushed political interests through character assasination. It;s all artificial don;t worry. It will pass
I don´t know about that but I´d choose to remain a dude over being a girl any day in my life. I never cared about any of these issues enough to complain.
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No periods negates the entire list...
I love being a guy, I love being strong, and I channel emotion. Just because I don't have uncontrollable outbursts...
Awesome article. I agree it's hard being a man as you have a lot to live up too and if you don't meet those qualifications or fall short then it's hard to make up for the lack of it.
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I don't have a well thought out opinion on this, so really I shouldn't comment but it's the internet so who cares. All I can say is that I think it's bull crap, you shouldn't be so pressured for being a man and nor should anyone else.
I can't change society or anything like that. But, well here you have my opinion
You are very intuitive to have tapped into what nearly all males have or will have experienced at some point in their lives (the younger ones who don't know what you're saying still have time before them find out personally). Based on your understanding and empathy, I assume you would be a great girlfriend to marry.
You say you're going out regularly to be approached, have you not found a guy who is the right match for you? If not, what kind of "man" are you looking for?
You know, I considered saying something to this and decided to read the comments first. Having read the comments and finishing with the three female comments I have decided to remain silent as to what I was going to say.
I would like to pass on to you a heartfelt thanks. I've never heard a woman fully articulate any concern for men along these lines, with the exception of my wife. Most are quite content to just watch us die and complain that by dying we somehow inconvenienced them.
It's unfortunate that the majority of women who read this article are only going to be here to attack it or shame any of the men who agree with it.
The road to understanding is often a long one. Trust me, I've read my fair share of "all women are the devil" articles on here and abroad. Everyone is clamoring for some understanding. You're never going to fully know what it's like for the other sex, but knowing what they go through, can shape how you view other men and women in the future kind of like a kid who grows up thinking his parents were too strict, but then seeing as a parent him/herself how hard it is to parent and keep your kids safe.
I try to refrain from using phrases like "most men," or "all men," because then one gets into the trap of believing what follow that if you say it enough. People are individuals, men and women alike. You have good and bad with either sex, and to me, it's much more important to assess the person right in front of you rather than just lump them all together because then you do miss the actual good because the focus is on, "well all women or all men do this or that," when it's not true.
Great work. Respect to you.
Interesting read and brings back into light things that are rarely touched upon.
We've spent effort making life fairer for women and acknowledging their disadvantages (that others have created for them) and while we're still not finished on that front, men are being left in the shadow as if they should have no reason to complain.
It's not really as bad as it's portrayed here , being a man is about taking control of your life , be responsible , a supplier and a protector there nothing bad about it that's being a man and if you suck at being a man then yeah you're a failure, of course sometimes there are a bit exaggerated expectations but as long as you give your 110 % then you're a real man , this take is mostly true but ain't all bad
ya if a guy rants, complaints or has to vent about something, he gets labeled as whining, or if a guy views or see's something as a burden or unfair, he gets labeled as having a victim mentality. Ya the phrases "man up, grow a pair or grow some balls" have really been thrown way too much in society that they have become almost natural to say even they can be said in situations that are not necessary.
I have been transgender as long as i know always wanted to female. Tried going down the road to transtion. But no matter what i did all i saw in the mirror was a guy in a dress even after the op. Now i like the term NON BINERY hate being a man but cannot be a woman...
So many times i walk by victorias secret and/or just see all the outfits girls have to wear, how fun and carefree everything can be, makes me want to be a girl so bad. Be able to post anything on social media and get hundreds of followers unlike a guy would end up looking like a fag or douche.
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Great take. Not many women understand these things but most of what you've said is true. I would say though that many of these things are and always have been necessary.
You get it. I won't say that girls don't also get the short stick, but I always feel disappointed when someone I'm talking to doesn't understand this.
It is hard to see past ones own nose sometimes to see that other people have their own set of issues as well. I can't expect a guy to care about my own as a woman if I'm completely dismissive of what he goes through as well.
Being a man is not easy and I want to laugh when women say how easy it is to be a man. I know it is not easy to be a woman either, but it is just funny to think that men have it easier.
Do you realize you think differently than most women? In the sense you are more compassionate of what the opposite sex goes through? It is a good thing
Creeper factor is crazy nowadays. Cause the media pushed political interests through character assasination. It;s all artificial don;t worry. It will pass
I don´t know about that but I´d choose to remain a dude over being a girl any day in my life. I never cared about any of these issues enough to complain.
No periods negates the entire list...
I love being a guy, I love being strong, and I channel emotion. Just because I don't have uncontrollable outbursts...
Awesome article. I agree it's hard being a man as you have a lot to live up too and if you don't meet those qualifications or fall short then it's hard to make up for the lack of it.
Yea, now imagine if you are ugly, makes it way more difficult. I wouldn't know because I am a beautiful bitch, just ask my girlfrie... shit...
Good for you, I wouldn't want to be a woman either.
I guess we're both lucky we ended up as our respective genders : ^ )
Girl, I Love you, this was so well put together, I Love you