Why do most married men never leave their wives for their mistress?

Question

I'm just wondering why they do this.

Answer 1

Xper 4

Because there is a reason he chose her to be his wife for the rest of his life and didn't chose the other slut... I guess-because although we may notice guys mess around with many girls but deep down we know which one is a good girl and which one is just a slut and we would only wanna settle down with a good one. Ofc I don't know what its like in ur case they may be many reasons..

Starsite

+1 y
If he's sleeping with the 'slut' what is he besides a cheater? Maybe she doesn't know he's married? Seems to me the man is to blame as he's the one who broke the vows. The other woman, although if she knew it was wrong, has no contract with the wife.
zukiii

+1 y
Yea im sorry i forgot to mention this, if he is cheating then of course he is guilty and its a 100% his fault even if the other girl know he's married, i was just trying to give an explination to why he wouldn't leave his wife even thou he's cheating on her

Answer 2

Starsite

If he's sleeping with the 'slut' what is he besides a cheater? Maybe she doesn't know he's married? Seems to me the man is to blame as he's the one who broke the vows. The other woman, although if she knew it was wrong, has no contract with the wife.

Answer 3

zukiii

Yea im sorry i forgot to mention this, if he is cheating then of course he is guilty and its a 100% his fault even if the other girl know he's married, i was just trying to give an explination to why he wouldn't leave his wife even thou he's cheating on her

Answer 4

zinithin | 181 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

Money, status, he's more emotionally attached to his wife than some woman who let him have sex with her. The woman is the mother of his children?

Asker

+1 y
What if she's 10 years older than him, ugly and a Hobbit extra? When the mistress is the total opposite!
zinithin

+1 y
Maturity, beauty is in the eye of beholder? The rest still holds true that I said. Some guys just like older women.
Asker

+1 y
He told me he originally cheated on his first gf to be with his oh. She in turn threw away her marriage to be with him.
He said it was her money he liked. She paid 60 grand off of their first mortgage together.
Well anyways, he told me he has cheated multiple times because he wants to try different flavours. I ditched him after this remark and told his wife about his affairs. I just found out today that not only is she still there with him, she let him quit his job and is now supporting him to be a freelance scientific consultant/director. Maybe I'm mad but am I missing something here?
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zinithin

+1 y
Yeah, my first comment said money.
Asker

+1 y
So guys actually do go with women because of their cash and not because they love them. That's really sad :-(
zinithin

+1 y
Some do, just like some women do.
Red_Arrow

+1 y
I get the impression that most "cheaters" do it because of sex. Love has little to do with it. He has invested a lot of time (as well as money) with his wife, and possibly has kids, too. He would alienate the kids, have to part with someone he really love (but obviously has little idea of how to show it), and have to pay for this through the nose. So gals, if you become a mistress, you are just the sex-on-the-side, the variety, the blow job the wife won't do, etc., not his future wife.

Not all "cheaters" think this way, it might work out for the mistress (but VERY unlikely). And some gals actually want the scenario I described. They got a guy who screws her but does not want a permanent relationship or kids with her. And she gets fun dates and often expensive gifts. Why ruin that by settling down?

Answer 5

Asker

What if she's 10 years older than him, ugly and a Hobbit extra? When the mistress is the total opposite!

Answer 6

zinithin

Maturity, beauty is in the eye of beholder? The rest still holds true that I said. Some guys just like older women.

Answer 7

Asker

He told me he originally cheated on his first gf to be with his oh. She in turn threw away her marriage to be with him.
He said it was her money he liked. She paid 60 grand off of their first mortgage together.
Well anyways, he told me he has cheated multiple times because he wants to try different flavours. I ditched him after this remark and told his wife about his affairs. I just found out today that not only is she still there with him, she let him quit his job and is now supporting him to be a freelance scientific consultant/director. Maybe I'm mad but am I missing something here?

Answer 8

zinithin

Yeah, my first comment said money.

Answer 9

Asker

So guys actually do go with women because of their cash and not because they love them. That's really sad :-(

Answer 10

zinithin

Some do, just like some women do.

Answer 11

Red_Arrow

I get the impression that most "cheaters" do it because of sex. Love has little to do with it. He has invested a lot of time (as well as money) with his wife, and possibly has kids, too. He would alienate the kids, have to part with someone he really love (but obviously has little idea of how to show it), and have to pay for this through the nose. So gals, if you become a mistress, you are just the sex-on-the-side, the variety, the blow job the wife won't do, etc., not his future wife.

Not all "cheaters" think this way, it might work out for the mistress (but VERY unlikely). And some gals actually want the scenario I described. They got a guy who screws her but does not want a permanent relationship or kids with her. And she gets fun dates and often expensive gifts. Why ruin that by settling down?

Answer 12

Ersacol28

Guru

Because wives are always first there's a reason why they marry them, and also they know if you were capable of a green with cheating he know you will cheat on him too if you ever get together

Answer 13

LilMama69

Xper 3

If she is older then him then maybe he loves her but she Don't want sex no more but he does, And he sees it easier to just go have sex with someone rather then ruin his marriage.

Asker

+1 y
He did say he was extremely happy with her! Not surprised really since she does an excellent impression of a carpet
Red_Arrow

+1 y
@Asker - He is the one who cheated on her (and apparently still does). And you are the one who helped him for a while. So why the deprecating remarks about the faithful wife?

Answer 14

Asker

He did say he was extremely happy with her! Not surprised really since she does an excellent impression of a carpet

Answer 15

Red_Arrow

@Asker - He is the one who cheated on her (and apparently still does). And you are the one who helped him for a while. So why the deprecating remarks about the faithful wife?

Answer 16

Anonymous

They want to have their cake and eat it too. Having a mistress suggests a character flaw and selfish regard to life in general.

Answer 17

Jersey1

Yoda

He still love her, he would lose half his stuff, he wouldn't be with his kids fulltime, the rest of the extended family would be mad, he would have to leave his house and neighborhood, costs a fortune. Just off the top of my head, I'm sure there is more.

Answer 18

Error_204

Guru

There's no incentive to leave a living tax break for some head.

Answer 19

Anonymous

Because they're looking for sex not a relationship.

Answer 20

BrunetteNYC | 238 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Selfish, that's why.

Answer 21

type0

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