Do guys prefer to touch or be touched?

I notice whenever I'm hooking up with a guy he always likes to kiss/touch me all over (nevk, stomach etc) but if I try to do the same most always switch it back to being the giver.

Do guys not like being kissed and felt up? It feels like most guys just like their dick being touched and anywhere else doesn't turn them on as much as touching the girl.

Also guys always HAVE to be the big spoon, why?
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I'm not complaining cuz I prefer to be touched but I feel selfish letting him do all the work I guess:\

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I had to change my answer mid way through reading your question:

    " It feels like most guys just like their dick being touched and anywhere else doesn't turn them on as much as touching the girl."

    Correct. I mean some other spots are... mildly pleasant. But compared to the way most women seem to be, it would almost be accurate to say i have -no- erogenous zones other than my dick. Nothing else really excites me.

    So do I prefer to touch or be touched? I probably use to prefer touching, now I like being touched a lot... on my dick. Still like touching a lot! But I don't need to be grabbed all over thanks.

    I have to be the big spoon because I'm 6'3". Also because I like being protective, not protected. Also because I like having my dick against the girl's ass more than i like her to be in a good position to peg me.

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    • A lot of the guys I date in their 30s are esp like that. Like pretty much every part of my body is sensitive to touch but with a lot of guys it's pretty much just their dick lol

    • I've been, not always, but more often recently compared to when i was young, sort of doing both. So i have my partner start stimulating my penis while i'm gradually building the stimulation on her. I like it, and she seems to actually find it more of a turn on then me focusing just on her early. plus you know, as you said lots of her body parts are sensitive, maybe only one of mine is, but there are many options for rubbing things together that everyone enjoys :p I might have felt like when i was younger i was being selfish, but... now i half don't care, half know she's going to have a good time overall, half know she might be getting more out of it then i would if things were reversed, and half can take advantage of better control then i used to have. most of the time better anyway :p

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  • What do you mean he switches back?

    If He's not tying your hands behind your back there's no resson you can't touch him. Even if he's touching you.

    I love touching. Sex would heavily suck for me if he didn't like being touched. It's not the same thing as , but definitely as importsnt to me as brimg touched.

    It's not a matter of feeling lazy if I don't. I'll just feel like something is lacking smd like I'm being prevented from expressing myself physically... Almost like I'm being patronized. Which obviously not a turn on.

    Probsbly just depends on the person. Maybe you gravitate towards guys who are more penis centric than full body... But anyone can change.

    I remember reading a lot of guys are just so focused on their penis esp bc of all the hype over it, that they don't even realize how many pleasure areas they have... And if you want to get them into it try touching their body while touching his penis.

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    • Yeah I understand what you mean. I really enjoy kissing a guys neck and shoulders. A lot of guys just seem to switch it back to kissing mine tho it depends on the guy

    • Not all guys " have" to be the big spoon. I'm the big spoon half the time though im a lot smaller. Just depends on the guy.

    • Oh I see:) yeah I get it. Can't really kiss while being kissed unless it's mouth.

      I might be using the term give kind of loosely lol I'm completely new to sex snd I like touching but im not comfortable with it. It's More the idea that I will be comfortable with doing it at some point and im excessively mild in anything I do.

      Its not not like super intense or romantic or kinky or affectionate. Just touch. We touch each other equally but he's much more into it bc I assume he's used to it.

      Anyhow thiight I should explain when I say touch I was quote literal. Not like kissing necks or anything:)

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What Guys Said 19

  • I prefer touching.

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  • Guys like being touched but not as much as they like touching girls. We feel better turning you on. And being the big spoon lets us feel like we are protecting the girl. Also, unless the girl is bigger (usually not) being the little spoon would just be like wearing an ity bity back pack

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  • Humans are much more sensitive to touch than to sight. I would rather touch a woman and feel the curves and skin, rather than just look. If you ever see designers (like car designers) they'll touch the car and experience the curves and lines that are much more noticeable by feeling than looking.

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  • We are just quite dominant so wether we prefer touching or being touched we are always very touchy (unless shy or nervous).
    But I don't know I like being with a giving partner a lot. But i guess if I had to choose I prefer to give.

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  • I love being kissed and touched and felt up. I love getting backrubs and hugs.

    I must admit I like being the big spoon so I can press my dick into your ass. If I am the little spoon, I do like a hand on my dick.

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  • Not true for the most part lol. But i know what you mean. Sometimes i act that way because i feel i don't deserve pleasure... It comes from being a little self deprecating. If rather give to make her happy when i get moody like that

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  • Well I might not be inclined to take the initiative with touching in an affectionate way, a lot of times. It's something I would have to slowly work on, but I could do light petting. I'm not firm with non-verbal cues, like touching, and how to react and process what all these gestures mean and entail. With my developmental disability, these things aren't fluid and I have to really think about them and take them moment-by-moment and I don't want to make it seem awkward. But, with my hypersensitivity and ticklishness, I would prefer to be touched and enjoy the soft touch just so it can be apparent to the girl that I'm enjoying the time and make my awkwardness a little less pronounced if she took the initiative.

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  • The big spoon LMFAO, are you talking about spooning? depending on the guy there are a lot of guys that dont like to show their emotions.. i kinda like that... but i might enjoy haveing u give me a hand job lol

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  • I perfer both, but the feeling of a womens soft skin and her shape is very arousing.

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  • With Italian girls there's no time to cogitate, they are so dexterous

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  • I don't think I mind being touched. If the girl was okay being touched, then I wouldn't mind being the toucher, also.

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  • Depends what you are touching. But it should generally be 50/50.

    However, most guy just want to get straight to the point and skip all four play.

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  • i´m totally fine with both ^^ i wouldn´t want to miss one part.

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  • Makes no difference my first ex gf used to kiss my neck i loved it

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  • both

    i have a tradition with my girl friends to rub each other down with oil

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  • Both options are good, body contact's what matters.

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  • Speaking for all guys here, both

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  • Kiss my nevk!

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  • no problem with either

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What Girls Said 1

  • I know the question was meant for guys, but I love both. I like touching a lot, but I need to be touched a lot, all over.

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