Wow, you treat me like how all my friends and family treat me, and you think I should fall be head over heels for you?
Most Helpful Guy
hey, yes the main issue is due to what these guys are grown up believing. It's important as a woman that instead of chastising them, you educate them on how to properly attract you. Guys (including myself for a time) were brought up with the belief that you if you were nice enough with a girl, and did enough nice things for her, you would build up credits which you could check in at some point and get her to fall for you. If you want a better class of men to date, don't resolve yourself to blaming men. Do something about it by trying to educate them on the right way
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Most Helpful Girl
Apparently they've grown up thinking that's what works. However, haven't we all been told falsehoods about the opposite sex, dating, relationships, and love etc? I know I sure did not have it all figured out when I first started. I had plenty of misconceptions about what guys wanted. No one sat me down and explained it all. You learn through observation and experience though. Through bettering yourself and making changes to how you do things to get the result you want.
It doesn't seem like they're doing that though; they're stuck in stasis complaining about their lack of success, and blaming it on women supposedly not wanting nice guys. And that's not an attack on them, just an observation. Their time's better spent changing their approach and learning how to be attractive to women rather than wondering why just being nice is not enough.