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Does cuddling mean anything? Does hand holding while sleeping?

I've hooked up with this guy a couple of times and he always spends the night after but we never cuddle. But last night we were texting and he asked if I wanted to come over. Clearly a booty call as it was like 1am. I went over, and afterwards I was wondering whether to leave or stay. He said he really didn't care but that I should just stay as it was so late. I ended up staying and we ended up just cuddling all night. Literally all night. Anytime I would try to move for a little space, he'd wrap me up in a bear hug. Eventually, he gave me some space but he then held my hand for the rest of the night while we slept. And then when I woke up this morning, he was playing with my hair and holding my hand. We caught the subway together this morning as he works near where I go to school. He was already running late and I'd forgotten my pass, but he waited for me to buy a ticket - even missing a train - just so we could go together. But when we got off the train he just gave me a hug and said it was fun. That was it. I feel like it's really mixed signals. Does any of this mean anything? I'm really confused. I've been starting to catch feelings for him, but wasn't a 100% sure how I felt. Now I'm even more confused.
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  • Booty calls are fun because they usually come down to just fucking from the start. I've done quite a few. How he acts after nutting, is different for everyone. Some just used my pussy to nut inside of, or wherever they wanted to unload, and once their balls are empty, they'd leave, want me to leave, some say thanks, some don't. I didn't really care though, I loved the sex mostly. But some guys want the company of a girl afterwards. Kinda like a gf. It's a nice feeling for them as well and makes them feel loved emotionally, at least for the night. One guy though, and he booty called me often, fucked the shit out of me (he was good at it though), then wanted me to stay and acted really sweet and nice, just cause he knew I'd give him a blowjob in the morning. I knew his plan, but didn't mind pleasing him a little. So It really depends. You'll have to find out yourself. Just don't get too attached in case he just wants your ass and nothing more.

  • Hook ups friends with benefits booty call the common factor us there is no agreed upon commitment. Doesn't mean you can't have feelings for each other. People often avoid developing feelings for people they gave no known hope if being in an actual relationship with... Others just enjoy the feelings whenever wherever they pop up without being neurotic about it.

    He either thinks there's a good chance you'll be up for a relationship or he's just happy to have the odd cuddle.

    You'd have to talk to him about it to know for sure... It's not really mixed messages unless he says one thing the. Does another. You'd have to talk to him first and have him lie to you in order for it to be mixed. Talk to him then see.

  • Not really. Just that he enjoys those activities. I had a friends with benefits when I was younger that did all that stuff. We texted and called each other through the week, hung out with each other's friends. I even hung out with him around his family. But he didn't want to commit to me. The only way you know a guy wants more us if he says he wants more. It's time to bring up the conversation and walk away if he doesn't feel the same as you, or risk even more hurt.

Most Helpful Guys

  • You know, things like this is why I find friends with benefits, booty calls, or whatever you want to call it, to be such a tremendously stupid and emotionally confusing idea.

    This isn't even the first time I've even this question asked here, it's actually fairly common. "I'm now into my fwb/my friends with benefits is starting to get into me." Well no fucking shit, are you telling me sex is actually a fairly big deal to the sensibilities of your average human, ESPECIALLY if you're doing it with the same person several times? Almost like sex is conflated with... Emotion. Seriously, who would have fucking thought it.

    Alright GaG, remove this one whenever you feel free, it's good to know you can censor anything under "antagonistic" in case it hurts people's feelings.

  • He wanted to make statement to you that he not just for sex but something more.
    He would do all this to tell u he has feelings for you.
    In the end he said it was fun in casual way and walked away coz till then he didn't see any positive reactions from u in a way that would take the talk about feelings or confessions or anything romantic in general , so he thought maybe he has done too much and u don't wanna be that way with him coz he has made the signals clear, hence he said it was fun and walked away.
    or he just did that coz it was getting too late for a reaction and he should really be going. lol

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  • maybe he's trying to move out of the bootycall zone and in more of a public normal zone he's probably just bad at goodbyes

  • He's starting to fall in love with you.

  • I agree 100% with@ped1981 i had a friends with benefits for a long time. he would spend the night, hold me, cuddle, play with my hair, call me baby, hold my hand etc. but it was just a fuck. didn't mean anything to him. if u really wanna know, ask him. its that simple.

    • :O goes to show there's always one exception... did you catch feelings because he did those things? :/

    • Yes there is always an exception and yes i learned the hard way because i ended up falling for him only to get my heart broken when he told me he didn't have feelings for me.

  • If it was only a booty call then he isn't doing any of what you described. Plus he is on his own way in the morning. So clearly he has deeper feelings for you.

  • Sounds like more than just a virtually to me

    • I meant *bootycall* my auto correct shows No mercy

  • Sounds like he is interested in furthering the relationship\... just waiting on you to make the next move.

  • For me, i wouldn't cuddle someone unless i had feelings for them.

    But on the other hand -I- also wouldn't have sex with someone if wasn't in a relationship with them.

    So i guess he -could- have feelings for you, buuuuut guys like him are the kind of guy that i can see cuddling just to get more sex from you

  • see now i thought this was a question a very young girl would ask and then i read "as he works near where I go to school", as figured! He's not sending mixed signals in the least, it means something, he likes you and wants you.

  • If i cuddle with girl it's going to be for more than a hook up and
    hopefully more will come out of it such as a loving relationship..

    • I love all your advice XD

    • @yuki_ibanez Thank you for your kindness well appreciated :)))

  • Sounds like you're letting him call the shots and hold the ropes. Its nice to have attention from a good chemistry but you need to stand up for yourself incase you get hurt. Dont stand your ground on guard in the sense that you may get hurt, but you should go about your own thing when you're not around him. If you meet someone else, then you meet someone else. Don't wait around for this guy. You need you life too :)

  • yup it means he likes you a lot

  • Yes it means we likey you a lot

  • well, in my case it means either "I'm cold" or "I like you"... but since guys are hardly ever cold, it should mean he likes you.

  • He's shitting himself to make a move. All night he was with you I bet he was thinking how the hell do I start this. You've got to look for the moment. It lasts a second. Lingering eye contact is what your looking for. That's when you strike. It's nerve wracking being with a girl and wanting to do something but not knowing where to start. You might get laughed at or slapped. Next time your together sit close but able to look him right in the face. That's important. Being able to see each other's faces as your talking is the key to the whole thing. Lying back in bed staring at the ceiling is useless. You'll never see the moment. Be close enough that you can just lean forward and kiss as well. No use seeing the moment and then having to walk across the room. After that nature pretty much takes its course. Trust me though he's looking for a bit of encouragement

  • Doesn't necessarily mean anything other than that he's particularly lonely and craving intimacy. Could mean he has feelings for you, but considering he booty called you I highly doubt it. Genuinely a guy won't booty call someone he's pining after cuz hell hold them at higher regard than just a sex partner. I wouldn't read too much into it if I were you. Unless you're totally cool with being disappointed when he makes it way clear he doesn't see you as more by introducing you to his new gf

  • i think it started as a booty call but soon caught feelings

  • I'd see how the next few times go. To be honest, I had something similar with a girl before, and it was really in the moment of things. I wanted her to stay to cuddle. Honestly, your friends with benefits should never be a romantic relationship. You are starting off on the wrong foot and will always second guess everything.

  • You should keep him.

  • The best way to understand his intentions are to ask him "what is it you want from me?" Much easier than reading signals.
    Also, the cuddling the night thing could be a very positive indicator of several things. Wanting affection, wanting sensual, yet non-sexual pleasure, or wanting sex. Or some combination of the three :)

  • I think it does.
    I would never hold hands with a girl I'm just booking up with. Sure, id generally be nice to her, but i would never cuddle or hold hands cause that's honestly crossing linds

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