Why does my boyfriend like to spank me?

Question

My boyfriend is really playful and loves to spank, pinch, and wrestle with me. He is about a foot taller than me and It seems like he's always trying to dominate me. Today he spanked me over 20 times really hard! He's never rough like that during sex, just when we are hanging out. He was just being playful and I was laughing, but my butt was so red afterwards. IS this normal for him to be so dominating or do you think there's something wrong?

Answer 1

DeadShot619

Xper 6

If you don't like it or its too hard or painful then just tell him you seriously don't want him to do that. Of you kinda like it like some women do then embrace it and let him continue. And if it's normal? Umm, normal is almost nonexistent. Every person is different. Lots of people, men and women, like to be dominant. But it only works if their partner likes to be submissive. And both can be very rewarding and intoxicating

Answer 2

sean1234 | 607 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

... till your butt turn red? Now that's wrong. Otherwise he is a bit playfull. A bit too playful.

sean1234

+1 y
It's wrong if it hurts you anyways.
DeadShot619

+1 y
It's wring unless that's what she wants. Some women like that. They like a bit of pain. Some like a lot. I'm not saying that's the case but just putting it out here
sean1234

+1 y
@DeadShot619 and some people are demented
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DeadShot619

+1 y
Very tue I can't argue with that. But not necessarily all guys who like a little rough spanking are demented.

@asker I say talk to him about it. If you want him to stop make it very clear to him no more! If you like it a little then tell him not so much and/or hard and set up limits and safe words that each of you clearly knows the meaning of. He can't just do whatever he wants not even considering your needs and wants. If he can't handle all of that then your relationship will eventually end. Unless you can learn to like whatever he does. But I definitely do not suggest that.

Answer 3

sean1234

It's wrong if it hurts you anyways.

Answer 4

DeadShot619

It's wring unless that's what she wants. Some women like that. They like a bit of pain. Some like a lot. I'm not saying that's the case but just putting it out here

Answer 5

sean1234

@DeadShot619 and some people are demented

Answer 6

DeadShot619

Very tue I can't argue with that. But not necessarily all guys who like a little rough spanking are demented.

@asker I say talk to him about it. If you want him to stop make it very clear to him no more! If you like it a little then tell him not so much and/or hard and set up limits and safe words that each of you clearly knows the meaning of. He can't just do whatever he wants not even considering your needs and wants. If he can't handle all of that then your relationship will eventually end. Unless you can learn to like whatever he does. But I definitely do not suggest that.

Answer 7

Sara413 | 525 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Guru

It's him being playful - my question is, do you play along with it or have you told him you don't like that?

If you don't enjoy that kind of play you need to tell him that, and he needs to respect that.

Answer 8

ElizabethFaith

Xper 4

Some guys get off 'hurting' there girlfriend. Its like some people get off on pain. He obviously gets off when he does it to you..

Answer 9

edumazonni

Xper 5

If u dont like spanking just tell him.. stop it.. i get hurt.. some guy love spanking and rough.

Answer 10

Anonymous

Guess he finds you extremely cute and overly loves you. Like you would a dog, squeeze that little pup because he's so adorable.

Why does my boyfriend like to spank me?

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