Hoe far does a guy go with commitment issues?

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If he has commitment issues, how far will he go? Meaning, if he does want to be with her but he has commitment issues, what does he do? or more like what does he not do? I know my boyfriend suffers from having commitment issues. He def likes his freedom, likes to be seen as an individual. But he has me and he wants to be with me otherwise, he wouldn't have asked me to be his girlfriend and other things. However, he still sucks at a lot of things like he doesn't show me off on social media or in public. We'll show affection in public but he doesn't like hold my hand. On social media, he hasn't exactly like put a pic of us, mention me in a post, nothing. I know that sounds like it shouldn't matter but in reality it does. Some people might use social media in different ways where others are really private but it would be nice if he mentioned me or at least put a pic of us. Whats the problem? he's scared of losing his freedom once he does these things. I hate it. We're "official" but the way we became official wasn't in your most formal way. Its not like he asked me to be his girlfriend and we have an anivarsary date now. We don't have one, if I ask him he's gonna be like whatever and not know. I kind of have an idea of when it is because thats the day we decided to be official so for me, it counts as the date but if I tell him that he's gonna be like "I guess." What is his deal? Are these truly commitment issues? or is he just not that into me? Why would he want to make it official then if he's all half-ass about it? Thats why I wanna know how far will a guy with commitment issues go?

Answer 1

Anonymous

One thing about a guy , If he likes you. He will want to take you out in public , When you said that it was enough despite the other things. I hate to say it , But or you sure he doesn't have someone else.

Asker

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Yeah that I'm sure of. It has nothing to do with being with other girls, he's not that type of person but its more like what value do I hold in his life? Am I still not good enough for him to completely embrace me as his gf?
Opinion Owner

+1 y
If he can't take you in public , That should tell you something.
Asker

+1 y
He does take me out in public but he doesn't hold my hand, or we don't like plan an activity to do later outside like horseback, jetski, etc. Our circumstances are different though, we're long-distance and where he lives there isn't much to do and his schedule is tight. When I visit him its prob like for one day so we dnt have much to do. When he comes to my place, its just quick cause I live w my parents and he has to go home early for work the next day. But it would be nice if he planned to do something outside and out there. So thats what I mean by in public.

Answer 2

Asker

Yeah that I'm sure of. It has nothing to do with being with other girls, he's not that type of person but its more like what value do I hold in his life? Am I still not good enough for him to completely embrace me as his gf?

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

If he can't take you in public , That should tell you something.

Answer 4

Asker

He does take me out in public but he doesn't hold my hand, or we don't like plan an activity to do later outside like horseback, jetski, etc. Our circumstances are different though, we're long-distance and where he lives there isn't much to do and his schedule is tight. When I visit him its prob like for one day so we dnt have much to do. When he comes to my place, its just quick cause I live w my parents and he has to go home early for work the next day. But it would be nice if he planned to do something outside and out there. So thats what I mean by in public.

Answer 5

LiveFreeorDieHard | 230 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 7

If a girl is going to let me get away with being lazy then i will do it lol. Tell him you want to hold hands and poat pictures online together. I bet he will do it if you threaten him with breaking up.

Asker

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But won't I come off as crazy if I threatened him just cause he won't post pics of us?
LiveFreeorDieHard

+1 y
Depends onhow you do it. If you put a knife to his throat, yeah you will look kind of crazy doing that. But if you tell him you like him enough you want to have pictures together thenno, thats not crazy at all.
Asker

+1 y
knowing him he's going to think i'm crazy or needy cause Im taking the social media thing too seriously. But in reality, it does matter, it's concerning if someone just doesn't put you out there.

Answer 6

Asker

But won't I come off as crazy if I threatened him just cause he won't post pics of us?

Answer 7

LiveFreeorDieHard

Depends onhow you do it. If you put a knife to his throat, yeah you will look kind of crazy doing that. But if you tell him you like him enough you want to have pictures together thenno, thats not crazy at all.

Answer 8

Asker

knowing him he's going to think i'm crazy or needy cause Im taking the social media thing too seriously. But in reality, it does matter, it's concerning if someone just doesn't put you out there.

Answer 9

MrCryptic | 144 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Xper 6

You callin' me a hoe?

Answer 10

Anonymous

You can't change him or make his fears go away

Asker

+1 y
not even if he's crazy about me?

Answer 11

Asker

not even if he's crazy about me?

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