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What is it about his comment that upsets you?1. He is attracted to someone else2. He never complimented you in that way3. His comment means that he is not committed to you4. He is being insensitive to your feelings5. He has sex with you so he shouldn't be looking at another girl's butt6. Something else?
I get that as humans we're gonna look. But I feel like it's disrespectful to me.
How does it disrespect you? (I am not trying to be argumentative but I would like to understand your thought process on this.)
I think that by posting comments like that on social media it could give the impression that he's not serious about our relationship.
Okay. I didn't realize that his comment was an online comment. Yes, I understand that others might see that and think, "I guess he isn't that serious about [your name] if he's posting these things about another girl's butt." It is embarrassing and makes you self-conscious about having him with you when you are around those friends.Have you tried to discuss this with him?
No, I wanted to know if I was overreacting before I brought it up because he has a habit of telling me that I am
Telling you that you are over-reacting sounds rather condescending. If he says that, try replying, "That is just what you say so you can avoid having a serious conversation about an issue. Are you capable of discussing this?"
Yes, I'd be annoyed, just makes me look like a joke to everyone else, he can look but he doesn't need to comment, I don't want to know if he thinks some other girl has a nice butt or nice titt's it'll just make me insecure
There are several conditions to imply:1. If he's commenting verbally to you: it's okay2. If he says that directly (verbally) to her: a. he likes to joke around (just like my boyfriend) i'd feel fine. b. if he likes to flirt seriously, i'd seriously get pissed.3. if he comments it online: a. if she's someone you know, he's very disrespectful and acts like a jerk. b. if its noone you and he know personally, its disrespectful but not as much. OH GUYS REALLY Y R U ALL JERK THINKING THAT ITS OK TO COMPLIMENT SOMEONE'S BOOTY EVEN IF THAT MEANS HONESTY JUST PLEASE REMEMBER THAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND HAS A HEART UNLIKE YOU.((
if its somebody that he knows then i would be upset too. but if its just some random, then its not really a big deal. its not like you dont notice when other people have nice features...but saying something about it is a little creepy and inappropriate. just let him know you dont like it. and if he continues to do it, then you definitely have a right ot be upset.
was it you he complemented? knew it!
I don't know, do you want honesty or white lies? Ask yourself that. Also, what kind of situation occurred where you were with him and he's looking at a girl's butt in your company?
I wasn't with him, but she's a mutual friend so I was able to see his comment when her picture showed up in my feed.
If he knew you could see him making a random comment, that's different and pretty shitty, but he's with YOU, not her. I'd simply get over it and move on.
I can see why you didn't like that. That sounds like flirting to me. Plus I don't think it's a great sign that he cares about other girls butts. He's doing you right?
Ouch rookie mistake. Raise hell, even if she does the "you're crazy" spiel, 99% of women are Social media detectives. He'll think twice about doing that again. If i'm in a relationship.. i become a ghost on social media.
If you showed him the pic you have zero rights to be upset. What? Did you try to set him up? Most guys will like anything in a thong. Anyone. Lol
If it was directly to her then I can see why you're upset but if he just saw a picture and said it to himself then you're just being insecure.
I would be annoyed by it. But why get seriously mad about it? Its not like he's gonna go bang her.. And I usually comment on it too if it is a nice booty.
no not really he just looking. As long as he doesn't act upon it.
Why would you be upset: He's only telling you the truth. Do you want him to start lying to you? Not a good idea...
I'm sorry I should have put that he commented on it and told her she had a nice ass
Oh, he told this to HER directly! This could have been embarrassing for HER, as well as for you, besides starting some alarm bells ringing about his behaviior.This was disrespectful to you, especiallly.. maybe not to her if she was showing such pictures! Really, he could have shown more class and said something like 'You must get a lot of compliments when you wear that.'But again, he's being honest. I'm surprised it bothers you so much. Are we to think there is more to the story?
No. There are other women in the world and the female body is a work of art. To think we will go through life not noticing others is fools gold. He could keep that to himself though. A simple 'inside voice honey' would get the point across.
Okkk you're not over reacting. You said she was in a thing and if he says he likes her butt well all know what he wants to do with her
Yeah of course, why is he looking at other girls, especially in front of you. He shouldn't need to anyways.
YOU ARE NOT OVERREACTING!!He literally said another woman looks good.
You're overreacting because you feel threatened and you're insecure.
But he literally said another woman looks good.
@alfonsosloan45 And it doesn't mean he wants to fuck her does it?
It means she is sexually attractive, which could lead to fucking.
@alfonsosloan45 You sound as insecure and this asker of this question.
He is literally saying "I WANT THAT WOMAN''
@alfonsosloan45 No he's not.
Yes, he is.
@alfonsosloan45 Don't be silly man.
Yes, that's disrespectful.
Yes you are right to be upset about it.
of course, it's normal
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