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Yes all men (every woman too) have the capacity to feel jealous. Some may hide the feeling, suppress it or he may not care about the girl enough to feel jealous. Jealousy is a normal emotion like feeling happy, sad or any other. There are varying intensities to how a guy feels that emotion and how he'd react to it though.
It is not neccesarily "natural" to feel jealous over girls you care about. Those are socially constructed values and not innate. Though you are right we all have the capacity to feel jealous, you have to understand it is possible to care for someone deeply and not feel jealous when they are intimate (or anything else) with others. I am living proof of that.
@Metlahaed there isn't a complete consensus on jealousy. What you said is one theory.There is evidence jealousy was programmed in us in much earlier ancestors. It's been shown that dogs can react with jealousy when there's a threat for social loss. I don't need a study to show me that. I've seen it. But it is documentedjournals.plos.org/.../journal.pone.0094597Obviously dogs are omitted from social constructs. If someone isn't saying my point, if jealousy is felt in dogs and many other mammals we have a common ancestor with, jealousy developed much before humans.I don't doubt you have the ability to minimize feeling jealous. I said minimize because I bet you've felt threatened before. But I don't doubt how you feel. If you don't feel threatened or like you will lose the person, that can heavily minimize feeling jealous. If you are okay with loosing her you can cope with it even more. I still believe you would most likely feel jealous if you didn't have a perspective similar to my examples.
And a study done on 6 month old showing jealousy, prior to the age they have reason or understand social constrcts. onlinelibrary.wiley.com/.../abstract
I don't disagree that we all have the capacity for jealousy, it is what evokes the emotion that can be skewed by social constructs. It is very dependent on them at the very least.
Jealousy in relationships or over your love object is to a large extent bred by monogamous ideologies. But jealousy exists in many forms and for many reasons, and surely feelings of jealousy are nurtured by one's beliefs/attitudes/ideologies.
People tend to dismiss the evidence our closest living ancestors the Bonobo shows us because they too strongly believe monogamy is natural. The bonobos have essentially a free for all fuck fest all the time, and they are a very peaceful community with very few instances of aggression, and not sense of possession over an individuals genitals. For most of our history, our arrangements were probably similar to that of the Bonobo. As society started to take different forms, concepts of property and ownership, and things like religion came about, everything changed. A lot of people think of our history as beginning with those changes, but that was not long ago in terms of our evolution. A lot of people don't LIKE looking at the evidence this way because it doesn't fit their worldview, but... that doesn't really matter. But anyway, I wasn't disagreeing with anything you said, I was just specifying a certain aspect of this dialogue.
I believe they are to different degrees. One of man's instincts is to protect and to 'win', and jealousy is a form of that. Of course it isn't strong among all males as i said, but it's there.
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This has always been a weird topic with me. I got jealous like maybe once or twice back when i was younger. TV and movies also trained me to find this to be bad in a relationship. THat it just angers your SO.So i learned from my mistake and stopped getting jealous, forever then on. Flash forward several years to other relationships and i had an SO question me as to why i didn't get jealous. As in, they found it disrespectful that i didn't get somewhat jealous of her talking to other guy friends. Of course i would chalk up to it saying things like, "i trust you," and "they've got no game," etc etcBut then its like it just depends on the girl now i find.Damned if you do get jealous, damned if you dont!
The ones I've been with, yeah... One guy who I wasn't even together with was acting all territorial over me once too...But I don't think any guy wants their girl or crush with any other guy, I mean, common sense that they'd get jealous, no?
I would not say all, but I think most do. My man got jealous before we became exclusive at the mere mention of me going on a date with another man. My grandparents wanted me to entertain their friend for the night, as in join the three of them for dinner and I told my boyfriend about it. He got very jealous. That is what led to us talking about becoming exclusive. He had never shown a hint of jealousy before that.
No. Jealousy is a horrible destructive thing. I refuse to get jealous. If I have to worry about my SO fucking some other guy then she should leave me and go with that guy. The only time I ever felt jealousy in my 25 yr marriage was at the very end and it turned out she was fucking him. so i guess my gut told me what my mind didn't want to believe.if I was with a woman that was jealous I would just end the relationship. I don't need that grief.
No. I'm not territorial and jealous. As a matter a fact, if a guy if flirting with my wife, that's a good thing. How awesome is it that my wife is hot enough that guys want to flirt with her? And she's MY wife? WIN!
No, it is a social construction. All men are capable of feeling jealous, but for many reasons in many circumstances, and not always over women. I very rarely get jealous and I am polyamorous. I am not possessive or territorial or jealous in the least.
I think all guys do get a little jealous even when they only have a crush on a girl and nothing really serious is going on. But guy's act upon this jealousy in very different ways.
i get jealous for other stuff than a girl. so many other girls out there so i just move on to someone else
Yes i am going through the same thing, we're just friends with benefits and she tells me I think that women are objects when I am jealous but that is not the case. I think it's men's instinct to be territorial in nature and hence being jealous
I'm going through this with a friends with benefits. He says I can do what I want and he's not jealous, but then he's always asking about other guys. He even texted me while I was on a date. I kind of like a little jealousy, though.
Okay I'm in the exact same situation, though we live in far off countries so that could be a problem. I think if I get mad, when she tells me suddenly that she has to go as she is busy while we are in the middle of texting, is justified. It means she places more importance to other guys than me and that is unacceptable to me. Okay you can screw other people if you want to (we live far away so exclusive relation for her would not be that easy I know), but I'm not going to be anybody's side guy.
No. Some men know that their gods gift to freaking earth so don't feel the need to get jealous and like being attractive together
Ha ha, sometimes I'm jealous of a beautiful girls boyfriend that she doesn't even have. I always hated the assumptions I had in the past.
not me i find it useless getting jealous over a girl when there is so many other girls out there. you just move on
If he likes her , then to at least some degree, yes.
Insecure people are jealous. A tiny bit of jelousy is normal.
I don't get jealous. That has actually gotten me into trouble with women.
Yes and if they say no they are a bullshitter. They just want to act like they are not but deep down inside they are
Not all i wouldn't think but they are still human and both women and men get jealous from time to time.
Hell i am. Not in a controlling or abusive way, but none the less... yes i am
Yes... We are all animals by nature... But we are becoming domesticated... I only get jelous a little bit, and dont even show signs (that i know of)
It's usually the insecure ones that does get jealous and that goes for both gender.
Provided their not doing anything wrong or give them really good reasons to be jealous by the way
No. Not all men get jealous.
They all do
This guy is... can't comment on 'guys generally'.
All? No. It's ridiculous to think all of an entire gender behave the same way.
All of them? Nope, not at all.
We all get jealous. If they say they aren't their lying
No only insecure guy or guys that are threaten!
Not jealous. I just won't see my property outside the house.
They do get jealousy and become stupid
Still to some degree yes
yes men tend to be very jealous of women's body
I think so however some are good at hiding it.
Nope not really
I get hella jelous yea
Yeah I think its natural to be a little jealous.
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