Are bad guys "bad" just because they have never experienced true love?

I have a theory...
I've met lots of tough guys and I've met sensitive and sweet ones too.
The ones who were tough and hard to open up and acted like "bad" boys usually have had bad experience with women in past,
while the ones who were sweet and sensitive used to have ended their relationship on a good term and still had feelings for the female figure from the past.
So what are your thoughts on this?


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  • No I do not think that at all. I'll even go so far as to say, if you think that bad guys are bad because they have never experienced true love, then you're setting yourself up to be that woman who thinks, "If I just love this guy enough then he will change." Which will end in failure, time wasted, resentment, and heart break.

    There are plenty of sweet and sensitive guys who are tough to open up. A bad guy is typically a bad guy because he doesn't care what you think, and is going to do what he wants to do. He's probably less likely to have had a bad experience, and will just write it off as that chick is crazy.

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    • trust, most of my mates that are "bad" aren't bad they just couldn't care less, they're in it for themselves, trying to get a beat or have a girl on their arm and they don't actually care too much what the girl thinks or feels like. Which is pretty shitty tbh

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    • I know... I am not attracted to bad boys so I am not scared of being hurt by them. I have a brother he would always tell me so bad things about men that I hardly even trust anyone but him.
      I actually like sweet and nice guys. For some reason.

    • Well all guys are bad. From my experience, the sweet and nice ones are just duplicitous. I'm a good guy. But I'm also upfront about what I want. Which sometimes makes me not such a good guy... depending on your point of view.

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  • I've met some guys who were really mean to me, it's usually hard to talk with hem but they get me more curious than others, I want to know why they are like that and with a guy kind of "friend" he confided me (while still being rude at me) he had bad experience from the past, he is still being mean to me and he seems like he is playing games with me because one of his friends is asking me things that seem for his interest...
    Anyway yeah some guys are a little like "lost" and maybe they give up a little with love, anyway it's nice to get to know them and their reasons, just sometimes it can be a little risky if they are aggressive...

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  • Who's to say they never experienced true love? my thought from just reading the title.

    Okay, just read the content and I'm left questioning just as you are. This is a good question after all, so instead of doing my usual trolling... I'll ponder this one.

    I'm getting stuck on what defines a "bad boy" as compared to a "good boy." If we differentiate on that understanding I will end up arguing a point far different from what you meant.

    Anecdotal it is for the moment then... I'm tough and hard, but I can end up crying at movies. I mean shit... I've literally killed people and done plenty of bloodthirsty things in and out of the military. I've claimed the title of "gangster" many times in my life. Yet... a rape scene of some chick has me empathetic enough to break down in tears. Trust me, I have too many memories of all the women I'm with asking me why I'm crying at a tear jerking movie. I fucking hate it.

    But I can slice a man's throat in front of his wife and kids and then dispose of all of them in a fire... because that's work. It's not good... but salesman learn to manipulate people to get what they want and nobody bitches about that either.

    Good and bad have far greater meanings than normies have for it... how about alpha and beta? Yeah... beta males use deception and a lot of "I care" methods in order to improve their mating success. The rest of us... we lift weights, shoot guns, study argument as if we're going to be politicians for some reason, and we end up with waaaaaay more pussy but waaaaaay less deep and meaningful relationships.

    I'm kinda on both sides of the fence since I've live harsh lives on both sides. Good or bad boys really have to exist since different women need different men. Feminists may hate me for saying that... but, yeah, women need men. We can change, you know that, and we also have feelings. We just also can shut our minds off when it comes time for violence... ether against us our to another.

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    • My dad is exactly like that, he's very tough and has gone through many hardships, fights, killing and all but he cries when he watches an emotional episode of the movie and he can simply get teary eyes when I hug him after having argument with him.

      I have some guy friends who are seen as bad boys and yet they are really good It's just if you give them the right to show it.

      However, I admire sweet and nice guys. It's just that I always feel like I am missing something that they are not totally honest with me because you are a human. You can't be labeled as bad or good because you are both.

      I feel like sweet guys are the ones who really loved in past, who value women because they've seen and got how we can love them and "bad" guys? If we take my friend as an example, they do not trust people because they've seen bad things happening to the ones who trusted. They are kind of afraid of being hurt or dissapointed or I don't know, because they have never been loved deeply enough.

    • Just my assumptions.

    • You could be right... I just don't want to admit it. I feel so much... I'm just not a foot kissing type of guy. I'm exactly like your Dad in the way you described him. If bitch tit males are indeed better... then females will simply breed us out. BUT, it certainly appears like women prefer to have kids by guys like us for a reason.

      I mean seriously... whos on birth control and with those kunty dudes... the're doing it for sex alone yet want no kids by that boy.

  • Interesting since I'm both.

    To use myself as part of this study:

    I'm sensitive and have feelings for past people yet usually had only bad experiences as well as being almost impossible to crack (I almost never share my feelings, I just agree most of the time because vulnerability seems to scare people off)

    I honestly don't know what that makes me, a genuine ass or a genuine nice person or a bipolar dumbledore.

    Looking at other's opinions, I've come to the conclusion from girls' opinions that perhaps I'm like a one-way mirror. I know how to love, I've just never felt it towards me. "The tough guys I've met have never been loved. They didn't know what it was."

    Looking at the guy's opinions however, I'd put together that they'd say I'm more actually the opposite of what women say. I'd be the guy who gets everything and gives nothing in return. "sounds more like a fantasy many women have. The bad boy that just needs someone to love him and show him the way."

    As far as I know, your theory seems pretty good so far with people like me being exceptions to it.

    I only know guys who fit these "criteria" of your theory.

    Continuing off, I more or less act tough. If I plant onto the concrete ground, I let out nothing more than a shrug. I do what I need to do, and get favors done cold, no "you're welcome". This scares some people while others see it as either "chill" or tough. When I start showing my true self, being sensitive, vulnerable and whatnot, it at first would be "cute" and then followed by running away. If I retaliate with withdrawal (sitting by myself in isolation), it draws in girls to check up on me and seek my attention while guys would rather stay away. Acting bored makes me interesting, but showing interest back, now that's a turn off.

    This however is bad, because it just reinforces depression by the thought "having emotions is bad". He's a bad guy because he can actually feel something.

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    • I found what you said very interesting, as it almost perfectly describes myself and my experience with people. It's nice to see I'm not alone. Take it easy my man

    • @cuddles_mcgee
      It's reassuring to know I'm not alone. You too

  • I don't think it has much at all to do with women.

    I think that the environment that someone grew up in, as well as the treatment they got when they were raised mixed with their personal beliefs. An impoverished person with extremely strict parents is likely to be more aggressive or closed off in the future, versus someone well off with a loving family and a stable ride into things like college. Additionally, someone can have all the money and love in the world but if they're a selfish, hateful person then they'll act that way.

    In the end, I think by the time that guys start to date girls, their personalities have already been shaped, whether "bad" or "good". I think the reason that the "sweet and sensitive" guys had good relationships with girls and stayed friends after is BECAUSE they were sweet and sensitive to begin with. The "bad" guys have had awful relationships because they were already dicks to begin with.

    Sure, for some people, I guess a very sour relationship COULD make someone hesitant to date again, but for the most part I don't believe this is the case. For most people, even after a ridiculously harsh breakup, people rebound just a few months later and get back into it. There are few people who are really thrown out of the game by a breakup, with the exception of maybe abusive relationships.

    Other than that, I stand firm in my above comments. A guys personality and willingness to "open up" is decided well before he starts dating and isn't significantly changed by a good or bad relationship.

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  • Understand this now young lady and save yourself about a decade of heartbreak and drama.
    You cannot ‘fix’ a bad boy.
    Naive women have been trying to do that since we came down from the trees.
    Find a good man. Treat him well, have his babies and stay with him.
    You will have a good life.
    Leave the bad boys alone.
    Most women do not have that blinding flash of the obvious until they are about 30, after they have wasted their years of greatest sexual market value on ‘exciting’ bad boys.

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  • It's probably true sometimes, but you have the classic chicken or the egg problem. Did he break up with her on bad terms BECAUSE he was bad, or did the bad break-up make him bad?

    The truth is, hard as it can be to grasp, there really are just "bad boys - and girls" out there. We like to think that everyone is - deep down - sweet and honest - but that is hopelessly romantic.

    As the old saying goes, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

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  • Nah. I had real bad experiences in love & I never took it out on women or was a dick to women at all.

    I think it’s more likely:
    A.) some guys are just born to act like a-holes. Drug abuse just magnifies their existing personality. Seen this.
    B.) when he was young he only saw guys act like he acts now & it’s normal to him. But not every guy raised like that turns out acting the same

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  • This thread has caught my attention. Ok I've been told I'm one of these bad boys, or I'm edgy or have an edge. This is from people who know me. Also my wife daughter and mother. People don't tend to mess with me but if they do o deal with it head on. I had a wonderful upbringing with a good education and loving parents. Had a few issues with my dad but we're on great terms and I jave no anger towards him. My parents are still together and I was raised in the military. When younger I was mischievous. There were fights, police issues, permiscuity parties, light drug use racing cars crashing them etc etc I've had a colorful past. Iv also been management my entire working career where applicable. A boy scout, in the forces, I run my own company. I jave three wonderful children that behave better than I have so far. I'm Loving caring and quite sensitive despite not really showing it or trying nor to show it. The people I truly love are the centre of my world and I'm terribly vulnerable to them as I have recently been reminded. I still feel I'm a valid person. I'm capable of and carry out many of the things people praise and admire. I'm also capable of the other less desirable qualities. I can be viscous and aggressive. Generally when provoked but jave in the past used ot to get what I needed. But I've also been generous patient and kind. But I'm always told I'm one of these bad boys. I don't always see it but I het told it. The easiest way for me to describe how I feel about it is I'm not afraid. Not afraid to fail. Not afraid to try. And not afraid to live with not always being perfect. I can however live with the knowledge of what wonders and depravity I'd be capable of if someone or thing threatened the special people in my life. That said I try to be honest with myself and aspire to be the best person I can be for myself and the people I love.

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  • no they're just different personalities, in everyday life you get tough guys and not so tough guys same with women, doesn't make them bad, unless you're actually talking about criminals?

    a lot of females want a "manly" man and guys want a "womanly" woman.

    tougher people are just not as sensitive hence the "bad" stereotype, you just have to accept them for them.

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  • Its a defense mechanism. If you show a woman you truly care for her, you make yourself vulnerable in the process. When you make yourself vulnerable you can be hurt. Its a preemptive strike of sorts. Hurt the woman before she can hurt you. Don't show emotion. Its not a fun life, and if one suffering from this complex is smart they'll learn to grow and open up as this is the only way to be truly happy and fulfilled.

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  • People are just people. They aren't bad or good. They are just who they are. Some girls want to be idiots and get turned on with certain ideas but guys do this too. At the end of the day... you've got some growing up to do if you're latching onto this idea that bad boys are good and good guys are bad. At the end of the day... you should be striving to meet your equal... so if you're Rhianna... than dating a bad boy would suit you. And if you're Taylor Swift... well, you'd want to date someone who could easily double cross you. This usually doesn't happen tho because people usually don't go after what they feel they deserve. They usually go after what excited them or what others seem to like to go after (because they have no idea what they want).

    Like I said. If you care about bad boys and good guys etc... I'd suggest you hold off dating and figure yourself out. Of course there are 30 and 40 year Olds who still think like this but that's not anything to be proud of. At some point... you should grow out of the high school mentality... figure out what it is you want in life... and meet someone you share similar goals with. Fact. There's nothing sexy about a single 40 year old... that's what we will all end up being believing this nonsense...

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  • There are some guys who are still nice even though they have had bad experiences with girls. It's really hard to gauge as everyone is different and we all have our reasons for the way we are. From my personal experience, all the guys with a bad boy personality, typically have had issues at home at some point in there life, and there are guys who pretend to be a bad boy because they know that some girls are into that kind of guy. It's a good theory but I think there is more to it than just that

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  • No, "bad boys" are bad because they don't give a fuck about anyone but themselves. They do what they want at any given time, and they DO NOT CARE what anyone else thinks or who else might be hurt by it.

    Many (mostly younger, less emotionally mature) women find Bad Boys exciting... BECAUSE they're dangerous. But that dangerous behavior is going to negatively affect those women sooner or later, and sometimes in terrible and permanent ways.

    But, ladies, do NOT think you can "fix" this - you can't and you won't. Bad Boys are bad, and sooner or later, you'll be the recipient of his bad behavior. He's not going to change, and he honestly doesn't care about you.

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  • I think ur probably right but it goes deeper than that. Bad Boys are brought up with that parents that have struggled and always yelled at the kid for nothing always blame the kid for whatever is going on in their lives so he gets an attitude and every day that he gets yelled at. He thinks it learns that's the way of life so in order to get what he wants because that's what he was taught he yelled screams and acts bad basically because he knows no better,.,. Then you have the boys that have everything, get everything, grows up in the same type of environment and doesn't know that meaning of learning anything it just handed to him all the time and as he gets older he's not getting any more so he has to find a way to keep those things come in to have the status did he grew up with so he becomes bad and starts taking from others., and then you have the boy who grows up in a happy household the parents always arguing then parents get divorced and the boy gets pulled from mother to father mother to father but at a young age has to become the man of the family who is pissed off and becomes a bad boy it still feels that love and compassion from the mother and his other family in his life, and uncles grandparents you show him a nurturing way so even though he's a bad boy he also feels compassion and learns to find the meaning of love and passion at the same time as being bad time and a place for everything and then you have the good boy just brought up a very peaceful come home. No arguing who's top right from wrong who is discipline who learns to make choices and commitments learn to love and compassion through his pets, sisters brothers Boy Scouts grandparents Aunts Uncles. I think it's just the luck of the draw but more than likely you're right it all depends on how your brought up and what you're taught at an early age I still watch people today yell at their kids to get what they want and then I see the kids as they get older doing the same thing

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  • Ah, no. They know what they're doing, and the "sweet" crap is part of their act. How many of those "bad" boys ended up committing to you forever? Zero? Thought so.

    It's a scam for them. That's all it is.

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  • I wouldn't call it ''bad'' , in my case i call it attitude. I've seen war as a kid and as a soldier, that's where my attitude comes from but it's not on all the time. Other wise i am very kind and sweet (diabetic so duh). Just like a lion, all calm and cuddle so cute to watch and how they love/fear the lioness and out of sudden they become a dangerous beast that no one wants to come near to it. It has nothing to do with relationships in my opinion.

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  • Let me guess you're one of those girls that think they can win his love and change him... don't bad guys are bad cause they don't give a shit and live for themselves and their own rules. Love a guy for what he is not for what you think you can make him be... it's not gonna happen.

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    • I agree you should not try to change him you should be the girlfriend who is a b**** because your boyfriend's an a****** that makes it good fit

    • How does that qote go i just want someone to love me for the ass that i am.

  • Bad guys are bad cause tgey choose to be that way. No reason to theorize really. Its like putting on a front, why? The way they think and results they got from it. true love have 0 in the factor cause that reason be applied to anything. Bad guy is a state of mind, regardless of the reason.

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  • Factors. Are they bad because they choose to be? Are they incapable of properly expressing their feelings? Did they experience love as a child? Could be any, all or none of these. Personally, I had a hard time letting anyone in. It was because I've grown accustomed to a lot of hate. Guys can express themselves in the way they've grown accustomed to, though it's not the best of ways. It can also be about finding the right person that'll accept them. It's a question with varied results.

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  • I think you have it the wrong way around lol, bad guys get far more love than sweet sensitive guys. They just choose not to indulge in it, they don't need it in their lives (well until getting older usually).

    Sweet sensitive guys do because they are grateful for anything/anyone they can get.

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  • You are prolly right about past exp. I guess the context of "badboy" im this thread is a man rather being shallow. I decided id jst choose shallow path after ending good relationships. U see hurting someone hurts you jst as much. So back to the point it may be girls who hurt em but its jst mechanism of self protection shallowness does not put much meaning thus less emotional tax.

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  • No, some guys, and girls for that matter, are bad because they choose to be. Not experiencing love doesn't mean you don't know how to be nice and respect someone. Excuses.

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  • No. Many bad boys as I have stated plenty of times before are not really 'BAD BOYS' they're misunderstood. It has nothing to do with 'never experienced true love'. It has everything to do with their mindset, how they were treated and thought growing up. I know mostly because my close friend had an ex who was a 'bad boy'. Was in a gang, but played with girls hearts because that's all he knew, but he also did it out of habit. He had a lot of problems. Mentally, emotionally, psychologically. They often do whatever they want because it's what's available to them.

    Your theory sadly is too much of a generalization. That requires more depth. It's good, but not good enough. I will overall explain again, why. The issue has a lot to do with people labeling them as such. Their heartbreakers. They have lack of control of these things, that requires for them to be in professional counseling, and their will to change on their own. No girl can change who he is. He can be influenced but that is not enough. It also depends on his environment. Sometimes a change of environment is good for that person. Again, I know from my friends's ex.

    He went to Cali and ended up dating a chick while leaving my friend hanging, not only cheating on her but also informally dumped her. 3 times. They have deep-seated issues that nobody can penetrate except by God himself. And you're wise not to get involved. Or else you're going to be his next victim. For them, they are like drug addicts. You try to get them to rehab, and it works for a while, and they right back in. In reality, they aren't strong. They're weak. They need serious help. But if they personally don't want to change and stick to self-discipline, they'll relapse.

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  • Sometimes 'bad' guys have become like that because they used to be the 'good' guy and got fucked over too many times

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  • Most bad guys I’ve met are the ones who have been played by girls before. That, or they have a low self esteem. The only way to get approval and feel that they’d fit in is through female company (in their minds).

    This is true to most “bad boys” or jerks out there. Most won’t admit it obviously, because their egos are also fragile, and they’d rather not show their weaknesses for that same reason.

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    • Also- to the people who think that is the reason why women date bad guys, you’re making a fallacy right there. Firstly women aren’t attracted to assholes per se; they however might be attracted to assholes who pretend to be good guys at first. The goodness is what attracts us and not the “slip of the mask.” But what holds true is that most assholes HAVE been through some abuse, and HAVE turned out to be the way they are due to past experiences.

      No one suddenly wakes up one day and automatically becomes an asshole.

  • You have it right. j
    For the vast majority of hardened boys, they have experienced some sort of mistreatment during their early years at home.
    The big mistake girls make is thinking, it is they that are going to "fix it".
    Big Secret - Only one in a million can be fixed, and many even get worse. It is very sad:(

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  • No.

    However this is a very popular view among women who repeatedly date abusive assholes while being convinced if they just try harder he will turn sweet.

    AGREED.

    YOU WILL NOT 'TURN'HIM... YOU'RE NOT A VAMPIRE.

    If you are genuine with a person and they piss all over it/ you. WALK AWAY. You would if it were literal piss- so just look at it that way.

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    • Yet. I have never ever dated an abusive asshole so...

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    • if you never dated an asshole then you never changed an asshole into a kind person-bc they were not assholes.

    • being slow to open up is common its nothing to do with being 'bad'.

  • "Bad" guys are guys who make bad choices. Bad is the opposite of good, and I know that Jesus is good, pure, holy and believing in Him gives peace, joy and love. I think all people making bad choices need forgiveness and that only comes from believing in the only One who did not sin and choose to do anything bad, so we can believe in Jesus and repent and say sorry for our sins and bad choices and be baptized and follow Him. I know this is the only way to true love. I used to not know this and thank God now I do, and that is why I share this truth. A guy making bad choices usually is not Christian or is a Christian who is choosing not to follow Jesus's commandments, as the same for females. If we choose not to follow God's commandment to love Him and love others, we do bad things sometimes such as lie, steal, hurt others on purpose, use drugs or alcohol wrongly, cheat and more. If any of us are doing this things, it is bad. Jesus was real, He lived on earth and died for us so God could resurrect Him and we can believe and know God's word is true. Then we can believe, repent of those sins and be baptized in water showing our faith, belief and trust in Jesus as the only perfect Son who died for us to rise again and is with God in Heaven. Then we can with the help of the Holy Spirit, remove the bad thoughts, remove the bad plans we may have in our hearts, and remove and sin or bad choices in our lives to live good, pure, clean lives in Holiness. True love is from God and Jesus , since God is the creator of love so if a bad boy is denying God, then he could not know the true full love of God and be confused and lost and making bad choices, maybe more or less than the female they are pursuing or who is pursuing them. Then for them to know the full true love of God, they have to realize and turn to God, giving God their heart so God can cleanse it through believing in, baptism with the Holy Spirit and following Jesus Christ. This is needed for males and females, all of us, myself included. Once this happens if the male or female is still making bad choices, as can happen because only Jesus was perfect, we must not excuse these sins but repent of them by asking God, the Holy Spirit, and Jesus Christ to help remove all sin from our lives. We must not sin and obey God's commandments to love Him, follow Him and love others without sinning. If we sin, we must repent, and turn from all sin! We must love God with all our hearts, minds, souls and strength and love!

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    • God doesn't exist

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    • You as well.

    • Interesting comment. What I will say is that in the case of Christian women they are not usually attracted to the personalities of men who are actually following Jesus teaching. Jesus said that the meek will inherit the earth. But what woman is attracted to a meek man? To be meek means to be mild-mannered and humble but most women interpret that as weak. Obviously since Jesus is the first love in my life I'm not going to change in order to get women but based on my experience and observation a true follower of Jesus is not attractive to even the average Christian women. If you are the type of woman who actually finds a man who keeps Jesus teaching to be attractive then you would be very rare in my opinion. The meek will certainly inherit the earth because Jesus words must be fulfilled. I expect that to happen when Jesus comes again and rules as King with a rod of iron. God bless.

  • I have to agree with you on this one. I think it takes the right kind of girl to be patient and let the guy feel comfortable with opening up and start showing true love towards them. Girls can be just as bad as cheaters and hurtful as guys can. They are intitiled to allow their walls to be built high. They have feelings just as we do.

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  • Bad behavior starts at home. They were probably mistreated, abused, or neglected by parents and caregivers from the start, skewing their view of what a "good" person is supposed to be.

    If they're treating others the way they were taught to, and these people would getting hurt by this and constantly leaving, it sets a cycle in motion. And this probably just reinforces in their skewed brains that everyone around them use just going to leave, so why should they even try or care at all?

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  • I think so too. I agree with your point of view.
    I’m in a serious relationship and after this one I think that until I settle it will kinda take forever because I really don’t wanna deal with men in general.

    I just feel so disgusted and exhausted of having to share my space with someone else. I just want a roommate to split the bills but damn never am I ever moving in with a man...
    it’s too much stress

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  • no its just because thats the only way to get plentifully laid as a man unfortunately. as for traumatic childhood or poor upbringing certainly plays a role. but every person can change if he wants. we are noone's nurses, nor can we delude ourselves we can change people

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    • So u are saying the bad boy attitude attracts women more the the sensitive and caring guy?

      Must be possible but i dont see logic in that. as a women what do u think

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    • When did I say that I have jokes alone? I don't try hard, I just like to have fun. And for sure I am not seeking validation from women.

    • I commented here because in your original comment (being bad being the only option) you seemed to recognize that it is a consequence of women's behavior, but you seem very prejudiced against me, just trying to find my flaws and faults.

  • I know several guys who are bad boys because their mom were fucking horrible to them. They never really got that unconditional love from a mother. so they started hating women and only seeing them only as sex toys.

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    • Cuz society taught them that if they are nice they will end up last

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    • Yea
      But how their parent turns bad and fail at parenting?

    • @djmzes well one guy saw his mom being a slut and cheating on his dad. She was also doing worse things with men while he was around. She left him and his sister to go sleep with men.

  • Bad experiences shouldn't automatically make you a bad person. It can either break you or make you. Being a "bad" guy is a poor excuse of a man/woman who just doesn't want to commit fully to you so they don't get hurt again but end up hurting you... :/

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  • It's more complexed than that. Not every wounded person will be bad. Some just have loving hearts no matter what they've gone through. There are, on the other side, some guys who are narcissistic and toxic even if they grew up in loving homes.

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  • My younger brother, 11th grader in high school is like the epitome of a douchebag bad boy. I think for many guys who are considered good-looking there ego swells up and they realize they can be a dick and get away with it. He definitely never experienced true love with a non-related female due to the fact that he chooses to be a fuckboy but he did come from a normal, happy upper middle class family.

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    • I was always considered good looking; one of the best looking in all the junior and high school but I was raced so christain that the constant compliments had no effect on me and I had planned to stay celibate but that changed when I turned 21 in Uni. I was happy to be on the attractive side but I was thought humility.

  • I think it's hit or miss with a bad boy. Most would have considered my man as bad which at times I could agree. But over time it just took someone believing in him and showing him he was worth being loved. Yes a lot of his childhood and past made him the bad boy he was but they can change it with the right support.

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  • Jason Momoa is a tough guy and he is sweet. Not only too say that I have had loads off tough guys and only one was a dick I guess it really depends on the guy

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  • Nah. Some are bad because they’re selfish, bitter, hurt, sociopaths, have a troubled upbringing or past, are sadistic, have no interest in women besides sex etc. Not all of that is because of a lack of love.

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  • Getting hurt might be one reason, but I think it's also what a lot of girls are attracted to.

    Kind of like how guys overlook the girl next door type for the bad girls.

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  • I honestly think some bad guys aren't actually "bad" they just might have gotten involved with the wrong kinds of females that have that trait portraying in them and it'll show but that all depends, then again other guys could have been growing up differently therefore having everyone look at them like it's because they never experienced true love when really they're just holding in past emotions and scenarios they've seen happen right in front of their eyes. Then there's those kinds of guy who portray themselves in that way near a female they wanna impress, I mean I'm pretty sure that's a no brainer.

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