I’m not asking if the scenario is morally right, just whether or not you would want to know of the situation after the fact and why
- Yes, but only if we were still seeing each other
- Yes, even if she had ended any association with me because of it
- No, I wouldn’t want to know
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My response was based on the assumption that the baby was mine. Absolutely I would want to know.
In fact, I got a gal pregnant. She told me and I begged - literally begged - her to keep the baby. She subsequently got an abortion and told me later.
That hit me hard and I took it very badly. In fact, it got to be like a bad movie for a while. I drank too much. I just could not stop thinking about the little baby I never got to hold.
Luckily, I met a gal whom I have been living with for ten years now and we have three children. I am wildly happy and got better than I deserve, but I still can't help think about the child I lost.
Assuming it does not involve me, much as I would discourage it and would tell my story, that is not something I would be expected to be told. Certainly, it would not be appropriate for me to ask.
So it really boils down to circumstance. If it is my child - you bet I want to know. If not, a prurient curiosity on my part would not make a bad situation better.