If your girlfriend or friends with benefits fell pregnant but decided she wasn’t going to keep it - and it wasn’t up for discussion or debate, that’s what she was doing - would you still want to know even having no input?
I’m not asking if the scenario is morally right, just whether or not you would want to know of the situation after the fact and why
- Yes, but only if we were still seeing each otherVote A
- Yes, even if she had ended any association with me because of itVote B
- No, I wouldn’t want to knowVote C
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My response was based on the assumption that the baby was mine. Absolutely I would want to know.
In fact, I got a gal pregnant. She told me and I begged - literally begged - her to keep the baby. She subsequently got an abortion and told me later.
That hit me hard and I took it very badly. In fact, it got to be like a bad movie for a while. I drank too much. I just could not stop thinking about the little baby I never got to hold.
Luckily, I met a gal whom I have been living with for ten years now and we have three children. I am wildly happy and got better than I deserve, but I still can't help think about the child I lost.
Assuming it does not involve me, much as I would discourage it and would tell my story, that is not something I would be expected to be told. Certainly, it would not be appropriate for me to ask.
So it really boils down to circumstance. If it is my child - you bet I want to know. If not, a prurient curiosity on my part would not make a bad situation better.6