Do guys fall in love because of sex?

If a guy sex with a girl and he is satisfied.
Keeps on having sex almost everyday.
His sex needs is achieved and satisfied.
Like he can't live without having sex with the girl
Will he fall in love?
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  • Not necessarily, but it can happen. There is an expression. "For a woman, there is no sex until they are sure it is love. For a man, they are not sure it is love until there is sex."

    For all sorts of evolutionary reasons - I'll spare you unless you are interested - human males equate love and sex. The data show, in fact, that sex actually means more to a man than to a woman. It is what makes him feel loves and respected and wanted. Whereas for a woman, it is not love so much as an expression of love.

    So in the male mind, sex becomes conflated in love in a way that it typically does not for a woman.

    Been there done that. When I lost my virginity there were two things I was sure of. 1) I was a man! 2) That I suddenly was sure she was the gal I was going to marry, have babies with and live in the house in the suburbs with the white picket fence. Out of the blue I was all romance and love and wanting and needing her and needing to be with her.

    Now that was the reaction of a 16 year old boy. Just by definition immature but in its way very basic and elemental. We even dated until my sophomore year in college, so to some extent it was love.

    However, love is more than emotion and in most cases, if it happens at all, it will pass. That said, if the sexual experience is new - as it was when I was 16 - or if it is especially intense - as happened to me when I was in my early 20s, then it can become feelings of love.

    As I say, been there done that - twice in fact. However, as a rule, it probably won't last, if nothing else because either the intensity of the moment fades over time, or as happened in my second case, the gal lost interest.

    The punchline being that if a gal is having sex with a guy and does not really have strong feelings about him, no matter how intense the sex or how prolonged, it statistically just won't mean as much to her. She then looks at that experience and - paradoxically - wonders why the guy is getting all worked up.

  • Hello dear @12100794 ,
    I guess it depends on the situation itself, but I will try to give an objective opinion regarding your question:
    -"Do guys fall in love because of sex?" : YES, SOMETIMES

    Pheromones can act as powerful catalysts of sexual attraction. As humans secrete these chemicals through perspiration, they are subconsciously detected by the nose, brain and nervous system, as per scientists: Subconscious sexual attraction.
    Having sex could bring the couple closer or drift them apart.
    The way the act itself is going could explain everything.
    While having this intense intimate time together, they both secrete chemicals which could make them desire each other more.
    You have to keep in mind the fact that "Making Love" is different than "Having Sex".
    Sometimes, a one night stand could lead to a Lifetime relationship!
    Other times, it is just a night to satisfy sexual desires!
    In my own opinion, if a guy just wants sex, then he would have it with any girl he can, no feelings involved other than lust.
    In case it is always with a particular girl, then something is building up between both of them, growing, and bringing them closer together: which could lead to "Fall In Love".
    If that man on the other hand was a jerk, then he would be using that particular girl just for sex. again, it depends on his behavior during the act itself.
    I once couldn't get a girl out of my mind after a one night stand. but the feeling was not mutual. it hurt a bit, but eventually we move on.
    hopefully my answer is satisfying enough dear @12100794 and not too long, sorry about that though, but I had to lay down most of the possibilities instead of judging someone innocent of the charge :-)

    Have a nice day dear @12100794

Most Helpful Girls

  • That's a good question. I was in a friends with benefits, type of relationship for about 5 year's on and off. And it's like the more we did it, the chemistry between - us- was very powerful and intenses. We had a good connection going. But, it was more of a physical type of thing, then emotional, sadly. And if we wasn't having sex, we started to run into problems. I mean sure, him and I do have love for one another. But the only thing he fell in love with was my V-card smh. I always say, if a man truly and sincerely really loves you, sex shouldn't be his priority and main focus. Him keeping you happy and loving you for who you are, not just your body= sex.

  • I don't think that set is the only reasons as to why guys fall in love, but I think it plays a large role in why they do fall for the person their with. Guys are usually creatures that are more on the physical spectrum, if they like what they see, like whats happening, and its benefitting them, the more they are going to go after it. So, for examples sake, the looks of the person they are interest in is the 'hook'; your personality, and the way that you treat them, is the line. And, the sex is the physical bond that they needed just to fall over the edge, which is the sinker.

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  • No, not really. Sex is often related to love but sex is definitely not the sole cause of love. Love is both a feeling that happens to you and an action that you perform. Sex is just an intimate activity that, because of its rarity in comparison to say handshakes, we value highly. Sex makes things feel special but it isn’t. Most people can have sex with anyone they just don’t want to. And that’s what makes it feel special. Sex is very closely linked to desire and when someone chooses to have sex with us it’s fairly easy to assume that they genuinely want us in their life. But as many will tell you that’s simply not true many people simply desire the pleasure of the activity and you aren’t necessarily a desired partner you’re just willing and accessible. Love is more about understanding a person and identifying things you admire and cherish about that person and the efforts you put in to express those feelings. Love doesn’t even require commitment but commitment is often something many people crave as, for lack of a better word, proof of strong love. So often times people who see sex as inseparable from commitment in their head are confused by people who do see them as separable. Or in short many people can have sex with you without giving two shits about you and often times those too naive or optimistic to accept and believe that fall for people mimicking (sometimes unintentionally) the behavior of someone in love for the sake of acquiring something they feel like they’re lacking, e. g. safety, entertainment, purpose, closure.

  • Probably depends.. My boyfriend fell in love with me and we don't have sex because I'm waiting til after marriage. One of my guy friends doesn't even care about sex and he still fell in love with his girlfriend.
    But I have heard stories about women satisfying their boyfriend/husband and they will still cheat.. So it really depends.

  • People do not fall in love because of sex. People can fall in lust or infatuation, but not in love. Now, if other factors are involved, like the two individuals realize they both have shared goals and shared interests, they can fall in love and it could have started with sex, but the love is not based on sex.

    Love ages, as it ages, it has to withstand hardships including, but not limited to a multitude of things resulting in a stent or permanent no sex. Lust and infatuation will not survive. Love will.

  • No. My man and I were in love before we had sex. I had sex with him BECAUSE I love him.

    • Exactly. I fell in love because of chemistry and simply how I felt when talking to my soulmate.

    • Exactly how it should be

  • Who are his parents. His father most go to him and bring him home with his family where he is safe. She keeps him away from another woman probably even also a possibility the we must keep in the back of our minds.

  • As a woman, I can't fall in love until after I've had sex, and I won't fall in love just because I've had sex.

    Sex and love are not the same thing, and one never means that other. Sex is a biological need, and love is a social need.

  • I think it can help a person fall in love, but it won't change how someone felt going into the relationship ex) if they were just in it to use you, good sex won't make them treat you good.

  • Yes, let’s continue feeding into the myth that men have no feelings or need for emotional intimacy. That definitely produces mentally and emotionally healthy people. 🙄

    • ❤ this response.

  • No, he'll get used to having someone try and manipulate him with sex... He'll get used to having someone try and please him all the time. He'll get used to being able to use you like the idiot you are...

  • If the sex was really good, Ill keep coming back for more. I think some guys do fall inlove because of sex.

  • Sex doesn't mean fall in love for guys - usally a bond of some sort has to be there too. any gender can have sex and not fall in love with the other person. Sex isn't enough to have this emotion.

  • No. Because love does not = Sex. Love is much deeper then being being physical with a person.

  • Love is nothing more than a deep seated affection... webster, look it up.

    I like playing video games... I love it. I also like pounding that pussy out. Say that again after you say "hamburger foot lettuce"

  • Not always.

  • Depends really if he has affection for the lassie, does he go out his way to do things for the girl does he give her his full attention etc

  • Sex is a big part of an intimate bond, but sex doesn't inherently create love.

  • Nopeeeee

  • That'd be a very shallow form of love in my opinion.

  • He will not necessarily fall in love at all. He will just keep enjoying the free pussy. Love come from a different place that lust.

  • I don't think so. That sounds more like going to the same restaurant every time because you love the food. You don't actually love the restaurant in itself, just the food. Love has to be for the person first and foremost, and love for their body can come as a result or an extra, but loving her body doesn't mean or make him love her. Loving her does.

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