My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He’s Chinese I’m Russian so different cultures. Tonight he started a fight with me and in the middle of it he brought up that he thinks I’m a nympho. Completely irrelevant to what we were fighting about. I told him I wasn’t just because i wanted sex everyday and he doesn’t. He kept arguing with me and I felt like he was trying to shame me. He then told me he could get his ex girlfriend back if he wanted to, but said he doesn’t want to. Again not sure why he brings these things up. Its hurtful. Just 2 days ago we had a fight and he told me that he got back on dating sites but then said instantly that he was lying. He didn’t. I mean why all the hurtful things? He told me tonight that he wants to end it for good this time (we have broken up before) because he thinks our cultures are too different. I mean he’s just now figuring this out? Whenever we fight we always make up. Like why the hell is he doing this. Help me out guys.
What is wrong with him?
What Guys Said 11
This relationship doesn't have a good foundation at all. He's playing too many mind games. If you let him keep doing it, he'll be consolidating his control over you. Whether he's doing it intentionally is open for debate, but that's what it seems like he's doing.0
The difference in cultures is always intriguing to me, would love to be in one.
I think it bothers him that's why he keeps bringing it up and eventually he will leave you out of the blues without a word or you will be here every time shit pops up in him head0
Well he’s Chinese, he must be well reserved afffff!!
And if you’re hopping on a daily basis then I don’t think it would workout cuz looking at it now I think he’s getting frustrated but I’m not shaming you for wanting sex everyday, but if sex is mostly everything for you in a relationship then you should get with some other guy to satisfy your physical needs.
Solving cultural differences require a lot of opennes and flexibilities in the relations. Do you have it?
(I am Ukrainian and my partner is Chinese, so i say from experience, not from rumors. message me if you want to discuss something in detailes.)0
You sound beautifully. Anyway, he is quite petty to hurt his partner by saying using dating site and stuffa like that. That was notnmanly of him0
6 months and already this much drama? It will only get worse...0
Break up is not new for your relationship. I see no depth in the relationship. So, this time when he comes back don't let him dominate you. Clearly dictate your terms to him. The problem is he is getting everything a man die for without any effort. So, this time don't give him that much easily.
Because if you take your effort out of the equation and you realize that you were the only one making it then it’s hard to keep going, it’s hard to keep moving forward when someone doesn’t want to meet you halfway. It’s hard to keep investing when you’re not getting anything in return.
My advice is forget him. Look for someone who makes time for you, someone who is not waiting for the perfect time or the perfect moment suitable for him. Look for someone who actually tries, someone who puts in enough effort that it makes you want to do more.0
Sometimes the person you can live without is person you better off without.0
Sounds bad and I'm sure there are plenty of other guys that would be happy with sex every day without all the drama.0
What Girls Said 2
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