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He prob has levels of feelings because he's been hurt and hurt others before and has a hard time to say how he feels cause it's mixed up in his brain
Well he said my feelings are all over the place , cause I have mixed feelings
So maybe it's making him confused and question things
Why would he feel the need to tell me I have the "ability" to make him feel those ways?
Because at time you are the greatest thing to him at others things feel tense and uncertain I don't know your trails of conversation but I think that when you agree or do something special for him he's really happy and and when there's conflict he's uneasy prob has trust issues and in need of constant reminder that you feel food about your interactions
Yes our situation is a bit complicated but I tell him exactly how I feel & view things. His behavior, our past interactions , does it sound like cares? Or like he's playing games? He's been opening up more now , before he never used to talk about his feelings in fear of being hurt.. is what he says
Maybe he kept it inside for do long and now that he's opening up things are unknown to him which you may perceive as too slow or almost shallow cause he never learned how to express him self
What is he trying to gain from telling me these things?
That he's liking you but he's still uneasy about moving foward and trusting you more.
It's hard for me to trust & invest in someone too.. but I'm not going to lower my standards
It's like he wants me to give him this manual because he says I'm very difficult
He says I'm finding excuses to push himAway & I twist everything he says into a negative , instead of acknowledging his efforts
He's very insecure and needs positive feedback
What's sorts of hurtful things is he telling you that you say to him?
That I say he doesn't care , he says I treat him like a monster
Do you actually say these things to him?
I said he doesn't care & I do criticize his actions or lack of effort. It's my point of view but he says it's because I treat him like a sexual deviant when all he has done is express his attraction toward me
Sounds to me then that what you have is a lack of proper communication. When you are living, kind and affectionate you make him feel good but when you are critical of his attentions you make him feel inadequate, like he's not loving you enough or in a manner that you like. You need to sit down and talk about it. Find out the ways he perceives your shows of love and what type of affections he likes and also be sure he knows how you perceive love to be shown and what types of affections you like. Don't be hurtful by just saying that he doesn't care or that you don't like something and instead focus on the positive and give suggestions, like " I really enjoy it when you do *this* it really shows me that you care.." but be sure to listen as much as you talk.
Great advice ! Thank you.
You're very welcome
He doesn’t sound mature enough to be in a relationship if he’s blaming his feelings on you
I believe he was trying to tell me I have some kind of power over him, do his feelings sound like he's attached?
Not to me
Why do you think he opened up to me & told me that I have the "ability" to make him feel so good n then like crap?
Because he’s whinging?
Sounds a bit way too bs on his part
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