Fidelity only comes to people who are totally content with their lives or have lost the will to try...It can happen... Maybe when both are in their 70s or older...Otherwise... It's human nature to keep looking out for something better... Plus... Nobody is perfectly happy with their lives... Going on a holiday changes the scenery... So will changing a partner... Temporary or otherwise... All depends on the circumstances...But in short... No... Infidelity is here to stay as long as it's humans your talking about...
You have given a good point... But I believe you are aware of the fact that infidelity is an attitude, and it is either learnable or natural. Don't you think whatever learnt can be unlearnt
Of course it is... But can also be said of eating disorders or alcoholism...You see an attentive person... It's tough to completely ignore an urge to find out more... Circumstances will dictate if it should/can be done... But the temptation is there nevertheless...We can't unlearn that... Millions of years of evolution pushes us to seek the best mate possible... Even when the "best" is only in our minds...
I don't see it as a practical expectation, any more than eradicating any kind of impulsive but potentially destructive desires: alcohol, drugs, laziness, gluttony, etc. Not everyone has the self-discipline to control their strongest urges.
I do believe in promoting self-discipline: everything from emotional control to promoting good health and responsible decisions, staying true to your word, etc. We've moved away from that more than moving towards that with recent generations. I'd like to see us moving towards that once more. If we do, I think you'll find a greater tendency for monogamy, though I don't think infidelity can ever be entirely eradicated.
I also don't see it as a subject to focus on directly as focusing on general values that promote dependability, honesty, accountability, and self-discipline. Because I don't see it as so different to reject a crazy night out knowing you have work early tomorrow as rejecting advances from the opposite sex knowing you could lose the one you love over it. I don't even see it as being so different from learning to take it easy on junk food because it's bad for your long-term health. It's learning how not to cave into our impulsive desires and maintain a more productive thinking pattern.
I think that should be another topic entirely
In my opinion it's a general framework for guiding behavior, because resisting the impulse to have sex with some other person is not so different in my opinion from resisting the impulse to lie or cheat in general on some test to reap some immediate benefits. I believe a lot in the wisdom of Stoic philosophy, for example:"Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is the power to choose our response." -- Viktor Frankl"He is the most powerful who has power over himself." -- Seneca"The purpose of life is happiness, which is achieved by virtue, living according to the dictates of reason, ethical and philosophical training, self-reflection, careful judgment, and inner calm." -- AristotleSomeone who tries their best to live according to such principles and places value in them will find it much easier to resist cheating on their loving partners even if temptation offers itself on a silver platter.
It was also what helped me with monogamy and commitment. I was never the type to cheat but I was the type who dumped my girlfriends the moment I started becoming impulsively attracted to anyone else (often to find the new girlfriend is worse than the one I dumped). I always knew what I was doing was at least unwise and not entirely ethical, but I didn't have a framework to value the idea of being a good person.Stoicism gave me that, and it not only made me value monogamy, it made me more honest, it made me show up to work on time every time, it made me think productively, it helped me to avoid spiraling into drunkenness and despair when I experienced a personal crisis, etc. etc. etc.
And just generally it has me thinking long-term instead of caving into short-term desires. It even improved my health a bit. It's like, "Grilled chicken or fried chicken?" Well, the second one is arguably a bit more tasty but the first has way less calories and is more beneficial for my long-term health, plus it's pretty tasty on its own. So I choose the grilled chicken these days. I'm thinking long-term, and I used to be extremely short-sighted. I just caved into whatever I wanted. I used to be a total hedonist, thinking all the meaning of life is about short-term pleasure. Stoicism made me value things that tend to last a lot longer.
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It'll likely increase. Think about this. We evolved in small groups for thousands to millions of years. Now most of use live in large cities tempted by thousands of times more options. Now add women wearing sexual clothing on dating apps guys can see from their phone.
Nope... You would have to kill everyone else in the world for that to happen, oh and get rid of the internet and porn too...
Isn't that too way far
May take a while to get it done. Problem is that you cannot control free choice in people... It would be very nice if people were not tempted to cheat on their partners.. I hope it has not happened to you...
Lol. As to whether it has happened to me.. Let me say for every question there is a memory.
Awww sorry :(.. people like to think grass is greener on the other side, they cheat and often find that it isn't. You look lovely, why would someone want to hurt you... Hope you are in a better place now :)
With the help of God am doing pretty fine on my own
Awesome, happiness starts from within :) happy to hear you are doing well.
Probably not! Some people just aren't wired for monogamy and they never quite come to terms with that
I believe whatever behavior learnt can be unlearnt
Its often not a learnt behaviour, it's innate
Infidelity will be eradicated when people truly have love for each other more then they have for other things. It is possible but not in our world as we know it.
No it can never be eradicated On the contrary it will increase
And why did you say that
Simple just look around you the social environment, commitment is decresing
No.. as long as there is male female relationships there will ever be infidelity
With Pure love, some efforts and a Spicy sex life.
And what brings about pure love, some efforts and a spicy sex life?
Sime efforts. 😂
In an open relationship there's no infidelity.
HAHA you're funny, won't happen.
If joey Grekko can't do it, no one can
As a concept? No.
How do you mean?Non-believer? Apostates?
In short, no.
no it can not
if men and women get together there will be infidelity
Does get together necessary mean there can't be a trace of infidelity
there is a chance
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