Most Helpful Guys
It is sad but true. Lot's of guys are players, going on about mostly to satisfy their ego. But still, not all men are like that. It is more that they behave similarely and when seen it once you can spott them easier. Being catious and keeping your guard in place is a good defence strategy. Be aware of how he behaves and learm what type of guy you are seeing, keep track on red flags.
I'd say that guys who are overlyconfident is more likely to be a risk.
Keep your guard up.
Be catious when you meet people and look for red flags.
There are a lot less out there that care about a "good" SO and just seek the bliss and thrill of a new. I myself am guilty of that and I think it stems from losing faith in the opposite sex and ltrs. "good" is so subjective and it is self assessed most of the time. We tend to have such great opinions of ourselves which is completely decoupled from how others actually view us. "a good woman is pointless." it seems to becoming that way.
Most Helpful Girl
It’s a very cruel world with cruel scenarios and even worse people. We hurt and abuse each other mentally all the time. It’s really hard to have a functional and loving relationship in the world we live in today. I understand why you are upset and you have every right to be. But I think that just because he was wronged and he wronged you, doesn’t mean you should lower your owns standards to their ways of living. You said you have money and are pretty right? Well that also means you have confidence in yourself. If you are so well off to see the situation as it is and kind of person you are then you are leaps and bounds above the mental capacity of the man that left you. Clearly you are a woman who is looking for an equal partner who doesn’t need or want the validation from others. The strongest relationship in this world today is one where two confident and caring people share the same interest in wanting to feel the empathy and satisfaction from caring for one another as equal individuals. Don’t let his ignorance of happiness tear you up. The “hoes” you speak of just want validation and create an unhealthy dependency on others. That’s not how you live life.
I think you seem like a strong woman who knows what you want. I know it may take time. But don’t be discouraged just because you aren’t finding good people. Try broadening your search. Ask people about their standards or life goals. Weed out those that aren’t worth your time. There is more than one person on this earth for you. And if you already know what you're NOT looking for, you are one step closer to finding them. I wish you luck.