Can a man ever just want a friendship from a woman?

I have a best friend who's a man, his name is Mitchell (mitch for short and bitchell if he pisses me off😂) we met at work a year ago and reilsed we both had a lot of common interests, we both like the same music and travelling a lot.

Quickly me and him became good friends and we'd make flirty harmless banter with each other, people joked he liked me but Mitch flirts with every one that's just who he is and puls he has a a long term girlfriend but they constantly brake up and fight.

He gives me lifts home and go pub together sometimes but it's never ever felt romantic between us that's just feels weird even thinking of him in that way, it be like kissing a brother. He even said to me at a party but he's only messing with me when he flirts but everyone else's say he really fancys me and he is very touchy feely with me but I just can't see use ever being together or imagine him feeling that way about me.

We kinda have a when Harry met Sally relationship but I just don't see him in a romantic way nor do I want to.
Updates:
We even look like Harry and Sally together 😂 but that never happing with us

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  • A guy who is in a relationship already and getting his romantic and sexual needs fulfilled can be "just friends" with women. Single men generally cannot, because if a man's top priorities aren't being met (sex, and companionship), then nothing else will matter until they are.

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  • You get a lot more out of this “friendship” than he does. It sounds like deep down he really likes you but he’s trying to keep things light and funny hoping you would like that. You like that but you are clearly not interested.

    You get:

    - strong male around so you feel safe
    - male attention (which you love)
    - someone you can use to make other guys you really like jealous.
    - someone to help with guy related problems.
    - occasionally free meals and drinks.
    - someone to call when you are stuck somewhere
    - a shoulder to cry on if you have problems.

    What he gets:

    - sexual frustration
    - a damage reputation of being a beta who gets friendzoned
    - depression that you are not attracted to him
    - self hatred that he doesn’t have the guts to see the truth you are not into him
    - bad advice and misinformation about dating. Girls might mean well but they usually give advice on what they SAY they want vs. what they REALLY want. However older women can help guys though.
    - a thinner wallet. He likely spends more money on you on social events than vice versa.
    - inconvenience. He is more likely to got out of his way for you than vice versa
    - a bad memory of being a chump by being too nice to you.

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    • By the way no straight man and I do mean no warm blooded hetero male EVER refers to another female as his “best friend”. Really how fucking often do you hear guys saying that?

    • He already has a girlfriend and yes he called me his best friend

    • My apologies, I misread that. I thought he said he was no longer with her.

      I’ve seen plenty of women exploit single, lonely vulnerable guys with the friendzone. It’s a hot button for me as you can tell. If he is getting laid steadily then maybe he is genuine.

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  • it's worked for me because it's a long distance friendship built so there is no room for physical tension. Besides that friendship, I don't do well with men as friends-they have all asked for sex eventually or start disrespecting me (getting touchy feely).
    I would like male friends to hang out with in person because it would be something different. Maybe I'm just not the type of girl who can have male friends (like I only attract guys who secretly want more)

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  • That guy seems like a dick. Now I understand why his girlfriend keeps fighting , because he probably is a whore man and likes to have sex and flirt with multiple people.

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    • No they brake up a lot because he takes her out for dinner and expensive holidays and he says she's ungrateful about it and would rather sit at home watching TV all day

    • Then he should leave her asap.

    • I know but it's not my place to get involved and it will only make matters worse

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  • You can be friends with the opposite sex. but we're all just human beings and the longer you spend with someone the closer you get and the higher potential there is for romatic feelings to develop.

    im not saying it will happen. but its definitely a possibility that he likes you. maybe he is just worried that saying he is attracted to you will scare you off, and he would rather have you as a Friend than lose you if he admits his feelings and scares you away.

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  • Yes it is possible and happens often. But it tends to work better when the guy is not so attracted to the girl. So if she is overweight and less attractive then it is easier to be friends with her. On the other hand if she is hot then the guy is going to want more than just a friendship with her.

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  • Yes, I'd love having female friends, I actually prefer them to male friends, mostly because all guys want to do is get drunk or high, talk about sports, cars, girls, guns and their sex history.
    Okay, I don't mind talking about girls, but the rest is utterly boring to me and mostly pointless!

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  • It's possible.
    Like if he's scared of commitment or he's self conscious about his body or you're just not his type.
    I'm friends with a woman because she's already married.
    We are true friends because that's all it can ever be.

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  • No man can be just friends with a girl. A college, I think it was Stanford, proved that if given the opportunity (both single, had 1 beer etc) every single man would have sex with his female friends.

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    • I agree... unless she looks like a bag of shit.. but then again if beer involved her might still fuck her.. damn you are right again lol

  • The answer to your question is 'NO'. Guys are sexually driven.
    He's secretly in love with you. That's the way it always is - one or the other will always want more.
    Girls are more likely to remain in this mis-matches cuz they're not as sexually driven as guys. But it happens to them as well - proven out here all the time on GAG.

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  • A man can be friends with a woman if he's not into her. the two of you seem to have crossed the line already and started flirting so that's the beginning of you to developing something more. So I don't think the to of you can keep it strictly platonic.

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  • Yes most my friends are girls and they have all even been around me in their underwear when I was single. Yeah sometimes we used to check each other out and maybe flirt but we've never kissed or had sex nor do we want too.

    As soon as either one of them or I get into a relationship we stop the inopropiate stuff and just help each other's relationships in a positive way. Just because you're opposite genders doesn't mean you guys gotta like watch other

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  • Well there was a time where I did try to become friends with this girl that I thought was kinda cute.

    She said she had a boyfriend, but I still wanted to be friends with her so maybe she could hook me up with some of her friends.

    Not sure what happened maybe she thought I still had the hots for her. But we stopped talking and she declined all the times I invited her to hang out.

    So.. yeah I'd say even if a guy is genuine about being friends, the girl might not have the same idea.

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  • It's good you two are best friends. I do think there is point where
    flirting can turn into something more than friendship. My issue it
    always happens that i start getting serious feelings for a girl than
    it becomes a major crush than boom. I start having major issues
    i always want be with her and stuff. etc.

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  • He can, but usually, unless he's gay, it doesn't last.
    The limit between frienship and love it very thin, and the closer he's to you, the closer he is to cross the line.
    After that, that depends on how he handles it. He could just never tell you, or tell you and accept to stay friend, or leave.

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  • 1) Don't call him Bitchel, unless you want to be called Malice when you're beingstill a bitch, and Falice when you are being unappropriate.

    2) He's probably into you. End of story.

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  • Um, no that guy likes you, lol. But he might think you just want to be friends, and cares about you enough to set aside his feelings. A sign of an incredible guy, and friend. Sometimes friends make the best partners, but, yes, guys can just wanna be a girls friend. Particularly when they are impressed but are simultaneously somehow not turned on by you. And sometimes its the other way around but it's not impossible for guys.

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    • I mean if your not totally appallingly discustingly unattracted to him or whatever, maybe you might reconsider. A good friend, a real friend, is someone who is never gonna let you down, so if you think about it that could be a really posative romantic relationship. But you say no, sorry my fellow man ain't good enough...

    • That's IMPOSSIBLE... You can't have FRIENDSHIP with SPECIES that can't be TAMED or TRAINED neither able to UNDERSTAND your LANGUAGE... COMMUNICATION DISRUPTION MEANS NO FRIENDSHIP!!!

  • No. Because your not good women not good mothers and not good wives. Girls today are plain evil and try anything snakey. Hence we don’t want to date you and don’t want to be friends with you. So no is the answer.

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    • Dude your fucked up.

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    • Not literally, like you just don't be part of her life. She can't force you. Man how many relationships have you even been in? You are only 23

    • @LeoElias Haven’t been in any I only do paid sex tried dating but getting a girl is impossible. And you can hust get on with your own life but abandoning your child? Nope. And it isn’t fair that a baby I didn’t want yet that she purposely created means I have to give her money.

  • Yes but only if:
    She is ugly
    She can't drive him sexually (sister feelings come up) this could be your experince I am not a girl I just guess

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  • Men who keep their shit under control and who don't operate on a scarcity mentality can totally be genuine friends with a woman.

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  • Yeah, there's a girl I'm talking to who's in the military and lives in my former hometown. While I won't say that I'm NOT attracted to her, I just want a friendship with her for now because she's fun to talk to.

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  • It happens that men become friends with girls. For some it won't last that long, other it will. It depends on the person.

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  • Yes, a real man can. I have many female friends. They are some of the best. Women have fierce loyalty.

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  • No thats why i do not have female friends
    I got a girlfriend :)
    this never works friendship with woman come on...

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  • I’m friends with girls I met in college (just started college in August, thank god im out of hs) I want a relationship but yes guys and girls can just be friends but those friendships can turn into relationships

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  • In high school my class was me and another guy and the rest were girls, I got more accustomed to have female friends than guy friends, but in college I try to keep it healthy, if all were girls it certainly would not be healthy

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  • It happens. I've had girl friends. There's always a bit of sexual tension. But that's part of the fun. As long as you can both laugh about it, no problem.

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  • Yes they can. I had a girl friend like that until she got married

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  • The reality is that Mitchell is planted firmly in the proverbial "friend zone." He wants more and you don't. In all likelihood the friendship is doomed to fail eventually.

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  • yes, they can. Any woman I work with or have classes with, I strictly want to be friends with them. I could never date them, it'd be too awkward for me.

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  • If it fits his strategy yes. Sometimes it's good to be friends with women because she has girl friends and she can lure the fish to you.

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  • Yea make and female can be friends... but after awhile someone is going to like someone romantically.

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  • Well problem is that he isn't your friend, he is your brother.
    And it looks he really love you on the romantic way.
    So he must accept it and going for the other girls.
    What he must make is to break up with his girlfriend to the end, and you must support him as a sister, and help him to find a girlfriend who deserves him.

    Logic reason:
    I think he has started to love you because he lacks that on his girlfriend.
    Help him to order his feelings before its too late and do it as his sister, so you could save the relation, it includes to present him better women with whom he can have the deep and supportive relation he should have with his girlfriend.
    About you, I understand you like that relation, but he needs a real girlfriend and will try, so before he makes a bad move... this is my advice.

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  • FFS, how many times is this question going to be asked on this forum?

    Yes, they can, I have a large number of female friends and that's all I want from them.

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What Girls Said 18

  • Yes to me all of my male friends are not my fucking partners, and all of my fucking partners are not my friends, some of them are just known to me but not friends, or even sometimes the sex partner is unknowm

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  • Of course, just as women friend zone, guys can too. Prob just happens less because it's too much effort on their part so they just don't bother.

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  • I'd like to think so because I have male friends that show zero interest - but they also tend to have stuff going on with other girls.
    But yeah, probably.

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  • Well there are gay men and asexual men. Straight men too sometimes. At the same time though even straight they may not be attracted to you in that way.

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  • I don't believe men and women can truly be Platonic no. Someone gets feelings. It's human nature.

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  • Yes. If he realizes that's all he's going to get - take it or leave it.

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  • I ain't read nothing but to me, boys can but that's just my opinion

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  • I suppose it can happen but one of the people will most likely develop feelings for the other one.

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  • That's cool. U r just friends, it sounds like.

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  • Yes.

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  • Yes.

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  • Nah. It always turns into something more

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  • Of course. I have mostly male friends

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  • In very rare cases lmao

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  • Of course!

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  • No, we don’t

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  • Omg
    Yes

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  • If that is that would be the case the guy I am so attracted frm 3 years ago we still be hanging out as friends.

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