Do guys always come back?

Especially if you was each other’s first and you’ve been constantly seeing each other every week and had contact. However this guy is toxic and manipulative. We had a break for 3 weeks without contact he’s phone is broken anyways. But will he come? Especially when he gets lonely cause he has no family around here. He came back last time when I left will he come back again?
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We also have a lot of sex when we’re together. I think he has issues anyways he hasn’t been him self

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  • To answer your opening question; No. Guys don't always come back.

    In regards to whomever you're speaking about, every individual is different therefore it is hard to generate the proper response. However, given the Rate-Of-Return of him going back to you, I'd say there is a higher chance that he'll return as opposed to no return at all.

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  • All my exes and potential boyfriends or lovers always come back except one and I think it was because I really hurt his feelings with some of my words.

    I don't dwell on it though. If we parted ways it was for good reasons.

    I also don't let them come back near me physical than say a text or email. No physical contact period.

    When Im done. Im done. Sounds like you should really just move on. Is it not exhausting?

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      That's funny. I have never once gone back. When I'm done I'm done. There's always someone new right around the corner, so why look back. You're hot as fuck by the way

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      @lecher Thanks xo

      I think, Im so chilled and laid back most guys just assume I lost interest. when that not true I just hate drama and shit. If the person and I decide to part ways and we discuss. I let it go too and move on. But I think a lot of my exes check in just because I don't have facebook etc and they can't really "track or see" me anymore. So Im sure it more for curiosity and did I miss something saying.

  • If you miss a guy, like the one you described here, then you need a real talk with yourself. The reason most women miss men like this is because they put too much of themselves into the jerk, investing way too much great qualities of yourself into someone that doesn't value them. Build a relationship with yourself and you won't miss men like him.

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  • "toxic and manipulative". Two huge reasons why you don't want the guy back. Another reason is that you guys keep breaking up. I can't think of any reason for you to want him back. He's not going to change if he hasn't done so already.

    The big question is why would you ever want him back. Again, "toxic and manipulative". Nobody wants a relationship with a person like that, especially if things didn't work before. You have to be smart and move on.

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  • You should stay away from him. Doesn't sound like a good guy.

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  • My mum used to shout kelli here's Bobby fucking boomerang back again! 🙈🙈

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  • Well, if he is as dependent on you as you are mentioning above... then there are chances. I mean meeting each week and talking a lot. I know girl become dependent on the guy quickly, may be if he has developed the habit of somehow staying with you, then he will come back! :D
    best of luck!

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  • Sounds like... Friends with benefits? In which case either he isn't currently horny or he has lost interest or found someone else.

    Friends with benefits is a really bad system in that it makes one or both parties think they are in a relationship when actually you are both just there for a bit of sexual activity :/

    In general, guys will come back but just like with girls, not ALWAYS :/

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  • No, sometimes I think of two girls that I really loved but that's it, I moved on, they moved on there is no reason to look at the past. There are many people out there who are better for you.

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      What if gets lonely tho like he always does when time passes? And he gets no sex from no one

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      Personally I don't have any huge problem, the last time I had sex was one year ago, when I broke up with my girlfriend, since then I never had sex. I traveled abroad for work, I get paid enough to build my future and there is tons of porn on the internet. Yeah sometimes I get sad, thinking of what I could do in the past but I remember that the where I am now, the things that I have now, I couldn't get them before, so I just relax, drink a beer, watch a movie and this is it. If you start overthinking things that happened in the past it will affect your daily life.

  • No but if continue to behave as possible back-up plan he will always use you for sex. I would give it my best try in the initial phase but if She go for break-up then I am done and I won't take her back no matter what.
    It will sound toxic to you but I am bad at forgiving people and She made her choice by dumping me so better stick with it.

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  • How is he able to be so toxic and manipulative if he had only been with you? well as the saying goes "the first cut is the deepest", so he might come back.

    tvtropes.org/.../TheFirstCutIsTheDeepest

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  • If she was the one who wanted to end things then I never come back. I may initially fight for us to stay together in the early stages of the breakup, but when she really wants it to be done then I'm done and I don't come back.

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  • If he is toxic and manipulative, why would you want him to come back? Do you think this guy is the best guy who you will ever be able to attract?

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  • When he gets horny he will come back.
    My question to you is why do you take him back if he is toxic and manipulative? Lonely? Horny? Need attention?
    My suggestion to you is to not take him back and get involved in something that will keep you busy outside of your house. There are many men out there that are nice guys and will not be like your friend. Sex is great, but again, good men out there that will treat you right. Good luck.

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      Thank u I think it’s all the reason and I miss him I don’t know what I’m doing with my life anymore tbh 😪😔

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      I appreciate your words honestly. It’s just hard cause his my first boyfriend I did everything with. He was so charming in the start and a switch just went on and I don’t know what happening. Ever since I’ve just been so attached and dependent on him to be there so I’m not lonely now I don’t know what happened

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      Like you said, a switch went on... something happened in his life that changed him. If he is your first and only, hard to move on, but don't let that stop you either. I don't mean to repeat myself, but find something you like to do and get involved in it. It helps a lot. Plus it might help with finding a direction for your life.

  • Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is stupid.

    Ex partners will always come back at some point. There is a reason they are likened to herpes..

    Move on and be happy.

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  • Well to tell you the truth I think he is trying to use you for sex but I could be wrong but I know that if someone like you or love you thay would stay with you even if you broke up and thay come back but don't let them in your life all the way just to wear your happy and at peace with your self and know that the next time it won't be your fault

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  • No, guys don't always come back. For most young guys, sex is not an emotional connection, it's just physical. They mostly come back if they didn't find someone else. But if they did, they mostly move on.

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  • Usually, after every break up or cool off, I moved on as fast as I could and eventually found someone new. There was only one girl who became a big part of my life again although we both agreed it was gonna be a fuck buddy arrangement until we got serious with somebody new. It worked out very well. No more friends with benefits but we have remained friends.

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  • If you had sex multiple time... Ask this to yourself.. What happen to the prodgial son when he had nothing left?

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  • He may if he starts to miss you enough.. Some guys do come back after a while.. But if he was toxic and manipulative then why would you want him back? I get that you care about him, but I mean it's best that y'all are not together..

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  • Umm, no offense, but how in the world are we supposed to know if he'll come back?

    But more importantly, you should definitely hope he won't come back, if you have any self-respect.

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  • If he's come back its possible he will repeat the behavior. However, if you feel the relationship is toxic you should break away from it and find someone better.

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  • Not, we don't always come back. We usually don't come back. But my question is why would you even want him to if he has been toxic and manipulative? That seems like a great reason to get away from him, and him walking away makes it easy for you.

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  • For guys with a lot of self respect for themselves, they know they can find another woman elsewhere. There are more important for anyone other than girls or sex. wealth family money and work and self improvement. Once a girl or I call it quits, I just move on, although I think of the what if’s.

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  • Personal wouldn't let him do that because it most likely gonna fuck with my subconscious in a bad way and makeme sad in a bad way with huge internal conflicts that in itself gonna mess up life also burn most of the mental energy.

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  • It's worth reestablishing your relationship with him or redefining it into a friendship, it's not good to be in something unhealthy

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  • He's "toxic and manipulative". Why would you want him to come back to you anyways. If its the sex your after which it sounds like it is then I'm sure you can find that else where or do it yourself.

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  • He might but if it's toxic I wouldn't let him just to help yourself.

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  • Yes he will be back and will probably want more sex.

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  • If he is toxic and manipulating then why would you want him back?
    It sounds like the sex was the best part of your relationship.

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  • Never go backwards in life you left for a reason and usually its for the best. Being comfortable is tye biggest reason for letting things go , however being too comfortable is also the reason things aren't going so well.
    Sex never gets better as the years go by. You dont put a ring in her finger and say damn i get alit more head now!!! We has humans are a complicated group. You've gor the group that talks about everything that is imoral to there world , due to mainly the group of friends they hung out with were pretty plain and simple. And always remember for every hot girl out there , there is a guy thats tired of sleeping with her.

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  • a booty call is ALWAYS on the table for guys. But why would you want him?

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  • Honest opinion. He may have feelings for you somewhere inside of his toxicness, but he is probably just using you for a shoulder to cry on and for sex. If he is manipulative, that is abusive, and in my opinion you should leave him alone. You can find some one that doesn't hurt you, you deserve someone that doesn't hurt you. Buuuut, I am not in this relationship, so I can't really say for sure. As for him coming back again, he probably will if you let him or ask him, but it sounds like he won't be back for the right reasons.

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  • Personally, when I look away from romantic feelings, I start to kill them and let them subside. But not only that! Once they go away, they never return. So no, we won't always come back.

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  • If he's toxic and manipulative, why would you WANT him back?

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  • why would you want a toxic and manipulative person back? that doesn't work out in the long run.

    I just got out one and am never going back.

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  • Yeah, he will probably come by to fuck a bit then be gone again. He probably trying to hook up with another girl, but since he can get what he wants from you.. your plan B

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  • It's not guaranteed.
    If he's that toxic, best you move on anyhow

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  • A handful of guys I’ve dated tried to come back, for various reasons. The few times I gave second chances I regretted it.

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  • In a lot of cases yes. I tend to forgive her. If forgive is the right word it's more like try and understand why she did what she did, was I at fault some way...

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  • God damn it Jasminda, find another guy and stop spamming with questions about this fool. Now I remember why I kicked you out from my followers.

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  • If you put up with his toxicity and have a lot of sex with him he's coming back.

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  • If he likes you he will :D
    If you'd than like it to happen again, be certain to make a good impression and be a sweetheart :D

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  • Guys definitely don't always come back. In fact, they usually don't come back.

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  • If he is really that toxic and manipulative, why do you seem to care? Or are you afraid he WILL come back and bother you a lot?

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  • Not always. But why would you want to? He is toxic and manipulative. Who would want that in a relationship?

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  • No, of course not. Not always. Each guy is different.
    But if he's toxic and manipulative WHY would you want him back?

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      I’m just asking do u think he’ll be back? We always get back I don’t know this time. I just wanna reject him

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      No, it's not gonna last. Most likely. I HOPE it won't last. I used to be on and off with a girl and feel really guilty about it because I had emotional issues and had no one else to help me with it. But it was bad for both of us.

  • This is strange. This sounds identical to my situation. I did have a break from my guy bc of some drama but we started up again after a couple weeks. But trust me, it probably won't last, and if I knew better at the time I would have told myself not to go there again. I told him we need to stop and we actually have now but I love him. He says he feels the same for me but I don't think that is true. I do believe he loves me as a friend and everyone knows we a 're now best friends, but no more than that. He isn't coming back again and he is hung up over some other girl. He did use me until he was done, and I should have said no because I knew his character and what he was doing

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  • I can remember my first - oh, so many years ago. I don't do facebook but I initially dabbled with it - I have emails from her facebook. Your right, there's just something about your 1st. I can really see you miss him. Tbh, I think it depends how much he valued you when you were together. Sometimes guys may be together cause it's someone to have close - someone he could confide in. It makes worth coming back to.

    I have to ruin my comment though because I have to say - it may be normal for you to argue w/ your SO but it shouldn't be that way. My wife & I may not always agree but often we talk through & often change are perspective. A good relationship should help you be a better person.

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      Texting may portray what we want to say just as well, but writing a letter/note says you took extra effort. Take & drop it in his mail box or door. I guarantee he'll take thought of you coming by.

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