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You should not. You can't truly give give love that somebody deserves if you dont love yourself. Meaning you can't truly care for somebody else if you have no self worth itll just end in disaster
Not necessarily. If you don’t care about yourself, wouldn’t that make you more likely to do almost anything for them?
No bc then they can treat you however they want and if you have no self worth you'll be okay with it for the sake of not being alone. I know from years of experience hating myself in relationships
But then you’re still giving them love even if they aren’t giving it to you.
I really don’t think my mindset is ever gonna change
You might say that but i felt the same way. I used to self harm tried killing myself, etc. You gotta retrain your brain. Easier said than done
Ok so I’m not in that category but I honestly don’t think my romantic life is ever gonna improve cause my self image is so poor now my professional life is pretty good
Just watch self image videos when you wake up. Tell yourself your goodlooking in the mirror. Seeing somebody tell you those things reinforces your brain to believe it. The mirror tricks it into thinking its somebody else. It ain't gonna be immediate but it helps
Here’s the thing I’m a honest person and I hold myself to a high standard. I don’t like when people lie to me and I also would never lie to myself. Saying I look good would be lying to myself
Self image isn't just how you look. I firmly believe i look ugly asf but going to the gym and studying hard i have an ok body with a high intellect. Its about finding the one thing yojr good at and complimenting it over and over.
Dude everything I do feels so average I really don’t feel so special from a very yong age most people around me told me I wouldn’t be anything I was constantly called repulsive
Preaching to the choir. Whynot smoke some weed? Then you won't really care. If you dont care you get more confident which is attractive to women. If not only thing i can think of is fake it till you make it
Why not just do what I’m doing and continue to act like women have no part it my life. So far it has led to me being the most successful supervisor in my district on the verge of being promoted to assistant manager, I have my own place I’m two year into my bachelors and I’m putting myself through school. I pay all my own bills and tuition.
Okay i see you. Sounds like its working. Id rather have money than bitches. Although the more money you make the more you look attractive to women. Just flex a little on them bitches
You can date, but it probably won't go very well. Try to think back to where the insecurity started and deal with it at the source.
So basically since I was a child I was told I was repulsive
By family, classmates, or strangers?
All three so basically I would get called all kinds of horrible names at home then go to school andGet called all kinds of horrible names names then come home and get called horrible names basically there was no escape
Unfortunately, being treated like shit during childhood leaves permanent issues. You can't fix what happened, but is there anything you could do to improve the now? Working out, acne meds, even cosmetic surgery if thats what you want? Self confidence (or lack of) can really destroy your life.. so whatever you have to do to build it, do it. And not that it helps, but people who bully others are usually boring, deeply flawed people who lack the intelligence to have a meaningful conversation. So rest assured their lives probably still suck. 🤷♀️
Sometimes I feel a strong desire to make other people happy even if I never will be just seeing others taken care of satisfy my heart
People who know what its like to be hurt do try to keep others from being hurt a lot, which is great and does make you a lot more caring in relationships.. but the insecurity will make you jealous and unstable. Feeling insecure can cause issues in so many ways. No matter how hard you try, it will cause problems in relationships until you come to terms with it. Its not that you're not worthy of a relationship or a bad partner, just that it will put a lot of emotional strain of you and your girl/boyfriend.
I’ll be totally honest I can’t be around most women because of the inferiority I feel like people at work ask me how come I don’t have a girlfriend and the reality is I think I’m hideous and that if given the chance the girl would easily find a better looking guy
And thats why the relationships will be unstable. A few things you need to realize..1- a woman will not date you to begin with of she finds you unattractive.2- there will always be someone who looks better. You can be drop dead gorgeous, but to the wrong person, someone else will always look better.3- the way you treat a (good) woman matters 1000x more than what you look like. Looks aren't everything unless you make them everything. you're putting entirely too much importance on something that won't even matter in like 40 years because you'll both be wrinkly olf farts anyways.
I wanna look good
So do I, but for some of us thats just not in the cards. 😂But really, I doubt you're actually as ugly as you believe you are. It really just sounds like someone convinced you you were, and everyone else sensed your lack of confidence and continued to push you down because you were an easy target at that point.. And again, work out and grow a beard. A beard can make some of the ugliest guys ever hot somehow. And just being mildly in shape puts you ahead of other guys if you live in america. Add taking care of yourself as far as hygiene and manscaping goes, and regardless of genetics you're at least a 6 on a scale of 1-10.
Like I believe when women see me they vomit in their mouth
I have legit never seen a guy who made me wanna hurl. And i worked in the alzheimers ward in a nursing home. I have seen naked 80 year olds, and have never thrown up even a little. I think you're being just a bit too hard on yourself, and think women are a lot more shallow than most actually are.
If thats you, then yeah, the people around you are just asshats. You aren't repulsive, you look like a normal dude.
Yeah based on what you see I have never felt appearance wise I was good enough to get a girlfriend I haves always believed if I tried I would be instantly rejected
If you lack confidence, yes... insecurity is a turn off.Just think about Adam Sandler. With no context, he's not a good looking guy. he's kinda goofy looking. But a lot of women find him attractive because he's funny and comes across as confident. In my opinion, most of the male celebrities I hear women swooning over aren't objectively attractive guys, its the chatacters they play women are attracted to.
That’s the thing I don’t women attracted to me cause if my personality I want them to say look at how good looking my boyfriend is
I think you should work out your insecurity issues first (:
I’m never gonna recover from this
You will, probably not as fast as you want to but you will. You can ask for help too if you feel comfortable to.
I have had low self esteem my whole life
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