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I believe confidence comes from both positive social training and the absence of negative social training - the insecure guys I know usually had controlling or abusive parents while the confident guys I know had loving parents who spoke good things over their lives.
All men are born confident but life fucks them over.
That’s an interesting view !
Authentically confident men already know they are confident. They don't need to advertise it. The self aggrandizing loud mouth is usually a pussy.
I don't think so.Confidence is not a genetic trait so it can be gained only by training and practice.
What if Dad was outside the womb every day telling the youngster to give him 10 pushups?
Then the mom would say to dad : make the baby stop you idiot else my stomachs gonna blow LOL
@the_sinner Honey suck it up... we are building confidence in Stuart!
Thank you so much Coach
Have you ever met a "confident" baby? Probably not. It's learned behaviour through experiences and teachings. Like anything else.
Ha Ha Ha born "with" confidence... like born with blue eyes.
I said not.Always I see comments of this type, borned with xxxx and alpha, beta types, always come to my mind the same image.Im on a zoo and I'm watching the monkey, there is an alpha male, many beta women... And I see many people watching them over the mirror.Is there an alpha monkey? Yes, there is, if you look, you can recognize him really easy.Is there an alpha person?I can't be sure...How many people of those who look monkeys are alpha or beta?Do you really know? Ask to resources for a position if you really are able to.Furthermore, which are the habilities of the alpha monkey?Shout, hit and run... And all his life doing it.Which are the habilities neccesary to be an alpha person?Depends of the situation, you must be good at your job, is true, but which are the habilities necessary to be good at it?More that run and hit, even if you are a wrestler, you need strategy, psychology for fighting...Alpha monkey is borned in most of cases.Alpha men depends just to their jobs of many things out of their control and out of their nature.So, luck, be ready, and other things are neccesary just to be good on that field.After are the people who are good at soft skills, they can be better on more variety of jobs, but when you see them on the job, it's strange he is the alpha.Usually the alpha is the person who says I leave and everything is on danger. And it doesn't come from soft skills but from a great knowledge of hard skills. Watch the people looking the monkeys again, can you say just by how they are looking the monkeys if they are really hard training on a subject and it is the hard skill necessary to make his job?You can guess if he is introvert or extrovert, if he is the leader of his group or not. But you can't guess if he is the leader of other groups. You can say if he gets fun with it or not, but you can't say if he gets fun on other environments. To summarize, I think that alpha, beta, borned things are for monkeys.
I think they can be born with traits that lend to the creation of confidence. If they're born genetically good looking, smart, less prone to depression, with great parents who aren't nasty or cruel, friends who are genuine, and (usually) women who treat them with respect//admiration/love/lust, etc... if guys get love, genuine love, and are well cared for, then it's easier to "learn" that. If they're born with whatever genes that might make them more prone to adventurousness, etc, then either their confidence is huge, or their "stupidity" and willingness to run into a possibly dangerous situation first and deal with consequences later, that can lend itself to at least APPEARING confident, if they don't actually have it. But no, I don't think confidence is a genetic thing.
Some men are born confident, some achieve confidence, and some have confidence thrust upon them. Just like some women do, repeatedly, by the confident men in their life.Some people naturally have certain personality traits like confidence. But others develop them due to life circumstances. The potential was there from the outset, but it depended on certain conditions, like influences or choices, to be made manifest. Potentially anyone who is not confident can become so, but it will be harder for some than others, because of the specifics of their situation and core personality. Incidentally everything here is as true of women as of men, but it might have a different significance in romantic interactions.
I think everyone is born Confident, we all Know what we want from the moment we come into this world Eat, Sleep, Kept, Held and Loved. It's as Life gets its Grips on Us do we Continue to Build on Our Natural Confidence or does it Start to get Torn Down? The trickiest those who have Abuse and Love by the same people it helps you keepna certain amount of Confidence but also Tears you Down at the same time, those are the hardest cases to get through because they can't see and Accept many things. I know because I was one of those cases and both my brothers are and still refuse treatment.
Some men are naturally more confident than others but as they grow up, how they are raised can have a significant influence on whether they remain very confident, tone it down, or lose their confidence altogether.I've found that even when I'm not confident in something I'm confident in other things which let me worry less about my lack of confidence in the first area.
I believe it's how a person is raised. A person that is continually berated or told they're no good will follow that path. If you encourage you child to try and do their best it will help them to do better on life. Everyone fails. Teach them to keep on trying.
Thats kinda the same question as someone else asked? Are people born alpha or beta? you're placed somewhere on the scale by genes at birth and after that nuture takes more and more over, and by the age of 20-30 its more or less all nurture and no nature that decides how confident/not confident or alpha/beta you are. Theyre aren't synonyms but, those two balances. But they are more often than not interchangeable concepts. ... is what i think
They aren't synonyms, those two balances, but more often than not interchangeable concepts*
We are all born with innate baseline confidence, which varies depending on the individual. We improve on this throughout life but our innate baseline confidence remains the same.This came apparent to me experiencing friends and family at their most highs and lows.
Some men are born confident, others are born not as confident. Men can have body and self image issues just as much as girls can. Girls can also be born confident. It really just depends on your personality to be honest
I'm sure some babies have popped out of their mother womb and hit on the nurse right away!Yes, some men have better genetics and having a confident brain is one of them.
Like Joey from Friends... How you doin? lol
No. Sometimes you are confidently stupid! People that is, not you or the male gender in particular! If they haven't been through shit in their lives and have "white priviledge" or whatever kind of priviledge there is that can exsist, then they are more likely to feel good about showing that off!
I can’t stand the fact that women love confidence in men. I hate it. So guys many fake it! They are losers who act a certain way and get laid. Pisses me off because these guys are undeserving. And yes, I have always had a girlfriend before I married and I have been hit on hard by women since being married. So this isn’t me being sensitive. I know how hard it is to really make it as I am a self-made 1%er. People fighting their way up are the stereotypical “confident” guy. I span the range of unconfident confident and outright arrogant. Two of the three are unfavorable attributes with women but yet here I am at the top of the heap and many guys who were perceived as “confident” in my teens and twenties are fucking losers. Women file most of the divorces, their ability then to suss out who is superior then truly sucks. women know shit about true confidence, they fall for the act.
People fighting their way up are NOT the stereotypical “confident” guy I meant to say.
Nobody is born with more confidence than another. But I think men grow up to hide their insecurities and make it seem like they are alright and jolly, when inside theyre hurting.
Considering that people are born as introverted, extroverted or somewhere in between then yes, it would make sense if a man was born with traits consistent with confidence
No. True confidence is built through experience. It's not something that we can accurately flaunt. It just exists as part of our overall being, like a "vibe".
Not entirely, but I do suspect there are genetic components that influence confidence like how conventionally attractive you are, hormone levels, and maybe other traits related to brain structure.
Nobody's born anything. If you want to be confident, learn to be confident. Or, you know, just convince yourself that the rest of us were born confident and you weren't, that way you could keep being a lazy ass quitter.
men or women, I think its more directly related to their upbringing.
Born, no. But they can have natural confidence which would make it easier to be confident earlier, whereas others develop confidence oveetime
I guess so. I'm surrounded by several confident men.
No. It's imprinted in them by society. The code words, traditions, even the language, etc.
Many just lack the intelligence to predict possible negative outcomes or see the limits of their own abilities.
I think a lot of men are insecure and act confident as socially its how they feel they should behave.
A person’s attributes are determined by 2 factors: nature and nurture. Some men are born with more testosterone and other hormones that boost confidence while others are raised in a way that makes them confident. So yea.
Behavior is partly genetic, so the answer is yes, to some degree at least.
Some kids are naturally very shy. I think it's mostly environmental.
It goes back to the being if memory for everyone the infants that excells at everything has more confidence as an adult
I think so. Sure the environment you grow up in and how you are raised fits in that, but I think some genetics is at play there.
I think genetics have a lot to do with it. I had severe acne which means zero confidence ofcourse if my body did not give me that i would have been way more confident.This is only a small example
I think the "confidence" is more they simply don't care lolI think there are very few people that actually have true "confidence".
Yeah it’s probably true, my stepson has been around me since 4 years old and is 27 now and gets any woman he wants so it’s not from being around me and his Dad was no better at it then the average guy so it’s something else and not his surroundings
For about 1-2 years everybody cries like a bitch and shits themselves constantly... No confidence there.
It may seem that way, but I think I it's primarily environmental and can be learned.
No, we're all born the same way, kicking and screening with our head crammed up our mom's snatch.
Usually the stupider they are the more confident they are
We all have a destiny and a potential. Some people are born with a confident spirit.
that's why it bothers me when people call it a learned skill or learned behavior, because it reminds me, do women need to learn certain behaviors, skills? it doesn't look like, well if they do, they sure need far less than men do
I'm tired of so much of the crap of "confidence", everyone is the way they are. If you want confidence that is for and for yourself, not to please anyone.
Some men are better at FAKING confidence, thats for sure
Yes. GAG is a sight that certainly highlights that.
Does it really matter? I am so done with this subject. And anyone who would determine your value based on this you don't need in your life.
So done with the subject but here you are? lol Thanks for the comments!
I'm here because i got sent a notification. I'm just saying i'm so sick people (women) who take a look at you and make this judgement about whether you're confident or not as though they're rejecting you or not. A lot of women have this mean streak maybe it's from to many failed relationships or whatever but they deliberately try to break guys. They'll deliberately bait guys then drop them. They're are a lot of really toxic women these days anymore. And then they play it off as he lacked confidence. Lol no you deliberately set him up... and what the f@@k is wrong with you anyhow that you'd do that to another human being.
a notification? Not from me you didn't but hey if GAG sent you to me... then I say "Thank you GAG" I hear ya dude.. I do hope it gets better!
No. Confidence is built and maintained through strength.
Naturally born? Nah, its not necessarily a genetic trait you can inherit. I guess it just depends on the environment and their mental well being
Sometimes its also how we're raised. Some parents don't really teach their kids when it comes to relationship things
Confidence is built, its not a born trait in humans.
Yes, but that's doesn't mean one can't learn to be confident too
Nah. I got rid of my insecurities the years following high school.
No, confidence is a gift that good parents give to their child.
Also, men aren't born. Babies are born.
I was born a confident man not a baby! I get some men are born babies!
All men are born babies. Check your facts.
Don't be a baby!
Have you ever seen a live childbirth? Newborn babies are literally the neediest creatures imaginable; confidence comes later (or not).
Yes. Everybody is different. And some men are more confident than others
I believe part of it has to do with your "soul's experience" so to speak, and part of it is learned.
Meant to pick, I think some people are born confident
No, confidence grows with time or after some situation
It can be nurtured, but yes; some guys are born more confident.
No. It's more about a person's abilities and their own feedback.
*Laughs in low self esteem*
No, it's a learned trait.
Nah, it's something everyone has to learn to be.
No, we all are born dumb and helpless.
Well some are for sure!
Every one of us is.
It's Nature + Nurture, so sure in a way
No, I think it starts at home with the parents.
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