I have been married 3 times. My first two wives were women who literally put professional models to shame, they were that beautiful. My first wife held a doctorate in linguistics and my second was a medical doctor. They both cheated on me and the second went to lengths that I dare not describe here to tear my heart asunder. Objectively, they were (I guess are) intelligent and beautiful, but their black hearts actually make them look ugly to me. Luckily I walked away without any kids in both those marriages.
My third wife is not objectively a picture of beauty, she is years younger than I am and has not studied in a professional field, yet her radiant heart makes her the prettiest woman on earth to me. I love her dearly and we have two wonderful daughters, albeit that their father is now old enough to have easily been their grandfather.
I interpreted this question to mean that you want to know if subjective rather than objective beauty can lead to love. The answer is yes and when that happens, it is the best kind of love.
I hope I interpreted and answered the question correctly.
GoodManDave | 454 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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Not fall in love JUST based on looks, no. I think to truly fall in love, there has to be some connection (or feelings based on connection) for it to work and feel like love.
I can be attracted to a gorgeous woman, and fall in love eventually, partly because of looks, I can have an infatuation at first, I can maybe "lust" over a woman's looks... that would certainly be a start to a reason I'd want to get to know her better, but for me, I wouldn't be able to ask her out based on JUST looks alone, so I don't see a successful relationship lasting just because she's gorgeous. If she's gorgeous, but a ditz, and we have nothing in common, then it won't last. If she's gorgeous, and then I find out we like a lot of the same things, cool.
As they say - beauty is only skin deep but ugly cuts straight to the bone.
I've encountered many attractive people over the years (being good looking myself, no need for makeup, etc.) whose looks don't make up for their all in all vile personalities. My boss was one such woman. Sure she could have modeled with ease. And she was such a narcissistic controlling self-centered woman nobody liked her not even herself.
You can't fall in love with looks only. That is just attraction. Love, at first sight, sure, but that isn't just about looks either. That is more a prominent feeling this is a person you know you are suited to be with rather than the physical appearance.
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John_Doesnt | 3.9K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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Sure, I could totally marry Seulgi from Red Velvet. I don't know anything about her personality though.
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DonCachondo | 93 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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In the beginning at least, oh hell yes. The fairly rare woman who is upon sight capable of triggering an INSTABONER, as I call it, is enough to make me more certain than I was ever certain about anything that I NEED THAT WOMAN FOREVER!!! But it fades away pretty quickly EVERY. SINGLE. TIME!! And then I'm forcefully ejected back into the tragically mundane default state of being... hahaha
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JimmyQ | 67 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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Men are deeper than you can possibly know. We can spot a fake from a 100 miles away.
Beauty is in the heart, it is not contrived or projected. A fake woman cast a dark shadow that only foolish men follow.
Jjpayne | 1.2K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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At first sight yes but and probably affectionately in the moment yes but shortly after its about who they are and what they like because that will impact our whole life together
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KrakenAttackin | 1.6K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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Guys are stupid this way and we have all fallen for beauty at some point in our lives. Once you realize super-beautiful women almost always have fatally flawed souls, you realize the average looking woman is the way to go.
No definitely not. There is so much more to being in love.
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YHL6965 | 1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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No, looks are a very minor factor when it comes to falling in love. I fall in love with a person, not with a body.
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anton_dee | 86 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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Age old thing of men go for physical characteristics while women go for psychological or emotional characteristics.. At least thats for me.
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Gamillions | 61 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
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I did fall in love with a woman who could easily be a miss america. Little did I know she had a medical condition called "triccotillamania". 4 months later she tried to kill me with a knife and a gun.
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