Am I the only one who feels like this?

Question

I feel that if a guy I know follows me on Instagram and likes my pictures and try’s to get my attention I automatically assume I’m a joke to him especially if he’s popular or very attractive. I’m average looking. But a guy who does that makes me think he’s not serious and I’m just play.

Answer 1

pajamasam | 378 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Explorer

I've never met anyone who feels that way. I always assumed it was a sign that they liked you.

Asker

8 mo

Yeah but it’s like when you’re popular and not shy he can tell me. But I feel like any other girl and not special
pajamasam

8 mo
Being popular doesn't mean he's confident I do see where your coming from that he isn't a shy person so why wouldn't he just tell you, it does make him liking all your photos seem kind of weird.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah but he has signaled some interest in person but I just don’t feel he’s mature enough. (Dating) he has had girlfriend that looks like models and I’m very average looking not beautiful

We’re just different. He’s in the crowd and I’m not

This was a while ago but it still lingers. We were 21 now we’re 22/23
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pajamasam

8 mo
So are you saying you feel like your not in his league and he's just looking for a hook up, or he's lowering his standards?
I can see what you mean, but dont be so hard on yourself, maybe he legitimately is I terested.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah that’s what I’m saying. The situation with him trying to get my attention is doing more harm than good because I don’t want to know his intentions so I just unfollowed him let him out my life
pajamasam

8 mo
For your specific scenario that may be the best option. Just dont think of yourself as second best.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah I messaged him on fb and said “fuck you” then I blocked him on messenger. My friend said he doesn’t care because he didn’t reach out to figure out why I said it

Answer 2

Asker

Yeah but it’s like when you’re popular and not shy he can tell me. But I feel like any other girl and not special

Answer 3

pajamasam

Being popular doesn't mean he's confident I do see where your coming from that he isn't a shy person so why wouldn't he just tell you, it does make him liking all your photos seem kind of weird.

Answer 4

Asker

Yeah but he has signaled some interest in person but I just don’t feel he’s mature enough. (Dating) he has had girlfriend that looks like models and I’m very average looking not beautiful

We’re just different. He’s in the crowd and I’m not

This was a while ago but it still lingers. We were 21 now we’re 22/23

Answer 5

pajamasam

So are you saying you feel like your not in his league and he's just looking for a hook up, or he's lowering his standards?
I can see what you mean, but dont be so hard on yourself, maybe he legitimately is I terested.

Answer 6

Asker

Yeah that’s what I’m saying. The situation with him trying to get my attention is doing more harm than good because I don’t want to know his intentions so I just unfollowed him let him out my life

Answer 7

pajamasam

For your specific scenario that may be the best option. Just dont think of yourself as second best.

Answer 8

Asker

Yeah I messaged him on fb and said “fuck you” then I blocked him on messenger. My friend said he doesn’t care because he didn’t reach out to figure out why I said it

Answer 9

spartan55 | 13.7K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Master

Where did you get these ideas? Sounds to me like you just don't want relationship.

Asker

8 mo
Wow I’m surprised you commented because you’re always replying to post saying social media flirting means nothing lol

Maybe I don’t want a relationship with him I don't know
spartan55

8 mo
No, you aren't understanding my posts. My main issue with social media is that it gets treated with equal value to real life. (mostly by girls)
spartan55

8 mo
So let me ask you, if you think that guys liking your photos means they automatically devalue you as woman then you why do you put them on there? A test?
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Asker

8 mo
I don’t think it devalues me but I don’t think it shows genuine interest or I feel like a guy who likes you genuinely wouldn’t go on Instagram to let you know that he’s interested. In my opinion
spartan55

8 mo
I'm not disagreeing. So is it a test?
Asker

8 mo
What exactly do you mean by test? No I’m not testing anyone

But I am testing his interest in me by pretending not to like him
spartan55

8 mo
"I'm not testing anyone"
"but I am testing his interest in me by pretending not to like him"
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Do you girls understand how ridiculous you sound sometimes?

Your last line was what I was getting at. Why girls do what you are doing I'll never know. It NEVER works, GAMES don't work. All you're doing by ignoring him is showing that you aren't interested.
He's not just going to wake up one day and say oh wow she's really cool! she been ignoring me, but I'm going to go talk to her! That's not how it works.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah lol I have to test guys like him because he’s good with girl’s.

I recently said “fuck you” to him because he followed my friend on YouTube so I’m sure he’s never going to talk to me again.

I had unfollowed him 2 years ago
spartan55

8 mo
Gee do you blame him? You don't have to test anyone. You aren't getting it, at all.
You told him to fuck off for following your friend on YouTube? Wow, you are very immature, even for your age. You've done everything you can do to show him that you don't like him, yet you don't understand why he doesn't like you.
What you're doing isn't working and it won't work. You should consider a more mature approach not centered on social media. But I know you won't.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah I deserve it and I agree that it was very immature and I regret it very much. I was also jealous of my “so called “ friend because she was fake but I also said something to her. I’m kind of in a rut because I couldn’t handle my insecurities and felt like he played me or something. I just now feel that I’m going to be an enemy. I regret it , I learned from it but I still feel stupid that I did it
Asker

8 mo
He didn’t care that I sent it ig I blocked him from saying something. I’m literally just goofy and honestly I don't know why he would care because I’m not all that ( looks wise)
spartan55

8 mo
Your last sentence shows you really need to work on your insecurities before you get into a relationship. Guys don't like insecurity, just as girls don't care for it in guys.
Try to start by not valuing yourself through social media. I get it, I know that's what you young people do, that's that's how you communicate and all that, but it's a false reality, it's not real.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah I’m working on it and doing better after the situation but now I feel bad. She’s trying to fight me and she insulted me called me bitch etc and said that I was invisible/ a nobody. Which she’s right. And he didn’t say anything because I blocked him from replying back but he didn’t reach out in which he shouldn’t have. I don't know how to fix the situation without making it worse
spartan55

8 mo
This is probably one you will need to walk away from. At least for a while.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah I agree

Answer 10

Asker

Wow I’m surprised you commented because you’re always replying to post saying social media flirting means nothing lol

Maybe I don’t want a relationship with him I don't know

Answer 11

spartan55

No, you aren't understanding my posts. My main issue with social media is that it gets treated with equal value to real life. (mostly by girls)

Answer 12

spartan55

So let me ask you, if you think that guys liking your photos means they automatically devalue you as woman then you why do you put them on there? A test?

Answer 13

Asker

I don’t think it devalues me but I don’t think it shows genuine interest or I feel like a guy who likes you genuinely wouldn’t go on Instagram to let you know that he’s interested. In my opinion

Answer 14

spartan55

I'm not disagreeing. So is it a test?

Answer 15

Asker

What exactly do you mean by test? No I’m not testing anyone

But I am testing his interest in me by pretending not to like him

Answer 16

spartan55

"I'm not testing anyone"
"but I am testing his interest in me by pretending not to like him"
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Do you girls understand how ridiculous you sound sometimes?

Your last line was what I was getting at. Why girls do what you are doing I'll never know. It NEVER works, GAMES don't work. All you're doing by ignoring him is showing that you aren't interested.
He's not just going to wake up one day and say oh wow she's really cool! she been ignoring me, but I'm going to go talk to her! That's not how it works.

Answer 17

Asker

Yeah lol I have to test guys like him because he’s good with girl’s.

I recently said “fuck you” to him because he followed my friend on YouTube so I’m sure he’s never going to talk to me again.

I had unfollowed him 2 years ago

Answer 18

spartan55

Gee do you blame him? You don't have to test anyone. You aren't getting it, at all.
You told him to fuck off for following your friend on YouTube? Wow, you are very immature, even for your age. You've done everything you can do to show him that you don't like him, yet you don't understand why he doesn't like you.
What you're doing isn't working and it won't work. You should consider a more mature approach not centered on social media. But I know you won't.

Answer 19

Asker

Yeah I deserve it and I agree that it was very immature and I regret it very much. I was also jealous of my “so called “ friend because she was fake but I also said something to her. I’m kind of in a rut because I couldn’t handle my insecurities and felt like he played me or something. I just now feel that I’m going to be an enemy. I regret it , I learned from it but I still feel stupid that I did it

Answer 20

Asker

He didn’t care that I sent it ig I blocked him from saying something. I’m literally just goofy and honestly I don't know why he would care because I’m not all that ( looks wise)

Answer 21

spartan55

Your last sentence shows you really need to work on your insecurities before you get into a relationship. Guys don't like insecurity, just as girls don't care for it in guys.
Try to start by not valuing yourself through social media. I get it, I know that's what you young people do, that's that's how you communicate and all that, but it's a false reality, it's not real.

Answer 22

Asker

Yeah I’m working on it and doing better after the situation but now I feel bad. She’s trying to fight me and she insulted me called me bitch etc and said that I was invisible/ a nobody. Which she’s right. And he didn’t say anything because I blocked him from replying back but he didn’t reach out in which he shouldn’t have. I don't know how to fix the situation without making it worse

Answer 23

spartan55

This is probably one you will need to walk away from. At least for a while.

Answer 24

Asker

Yeah I agree

Answer 25

jei11

Xper 2

He might want you to think he's interested and see how it plays out.

Asker

8 mo
Lol he’s had plenty of girlfriends and they all look like models. I think he’s just playing with me and maybe just wants a reaction because I don’t show him attention.

It’s nice that he likes my pictures on Instagram of things that I’m proud of like my photography etc but he could just tell me

Answer 26

Asker

Lol he’s had plenty of girlfriends and they all look like models. I think he’s just playing with me and maybe just wants a reaction because I don’t show him attention.

It’s nice that he likes my pictures on Instagram of things that I’m proud of like my photography etc but he could just tell me

Answer 27

bangyourhead

Guru

That’s the wrong way to look at the world. You’re attempting to read his mind. and you can’t read minds.

Asker

8 mo
Yeah but it’s like when you’re popular and not shy he can tell me. But I feel like any other girl and not special
bangyourhead

8 mo
So what do you have to offer other than your vagina?
Asker

8 mo
A lot thank you. I’m actually a virgin
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bangyourhead

8 mo
Like what?
Asker

8 mo
I’m not the type to prove myself to someone over the internet so unless it’s about my question and not my worth there’s nothing else to talk about
bangyourhead

8 mo
It is about your question. You claim he’s following you and you have nothing to offer, I’m asking if you have something to offer. If you had a lot to offer, then it’s not surprising that guys would be interested in you. But since you are dodging the question it sounds like you don’t think you have a lot to offer.
Asker

8 mo
No you asked the question very insultingly... “what do I have to offer besides vagina” is not how you ask.
bangyourhead

8 mo
See that’s the thing. I ask how I want to ask. You are having a hard time answering so you try to feign offense at how I asked the question.
Asker

8 mo
That’s cool. Just don’t expect a reply next time

I do have a lot going for myself. I’m in school and I have a lot of hobbies and interest but he doesn’t know any of that about me. I post a little photography , some food I like to cook but there’s more to me then that. He honestly doesn’t seem like the type of person to like stuff like that and my selfies. We’re just totally opposite and his girlfriends all look like models. I just didn’t feel him doing that was genuine interest but he did show some interest when I saw him and I remember when I saw him (he hugs everyone including me) but he gave me a hug and he pressed his head against mine and he lingered and gave a subtle smile.

Probably a player
bangyourhead

8 mo
So if you show yourself on your social media that you are a photographer, an asipiring cook, and your hobbies and interests, maybe he sees more in you because you are more than just a hole. Which is my point.
Asker

8 mo
Yeah I don't know

It’s flattering but I doubt it’s genuine
bangyourhead

8 mo
I’ll say it again. You’re not a mind reader.
Asker

8 mo
True but I just don’t want to get my feelings hurt so I unfollowed him and he unfollowed me. So it doesn’t matter now but I was curious
bangyourhead

8 mo
So you’re back where you started.

Real talk. If you’re 18-24 as your anonymous profile indicates, you are as hot as you will ever be, and have the most power in a relationship as you will ever have. So stop putting up with bullshit and start taking control while you still have the power.
Asker

8 mo
What do you mean exactly

Answer 28

Asker

Yeah but it’s like when you’re popular and not shy he can tell me. But I feel like any other girl and not special

Answer 29

bangyourhead

So what do you have to offer other than your vagina?

Answer 30

Asker

A lot thank you. I’m actually a virgin

Answer 31

bangyourhead

Like what?

Answer 32

Asker

I’m not the type to prove myself to someone over the internet so unless it’s about my question and not my worth there’s nothing else to talk about

Answer 33

bangyourhead

It is about your question. You claim he’s following you and you have nothing to offer, I’m asking if you have something to offer. If you had a lot to offer, then it’s not surprising that guys would be interested in you. But since you are dodging the question it sounds like you don’t think you have a lot to offer.

Answer 34

Asker

No you asked the question very insultingly... “what do I have to offer besides vagina” is not how you ask.

Answer 35

bangyourhead

See that’s the thing. I ask how I want to ask. You are having a hard time answering so you try to feign offense at how I asked the question.

Answer 36

Asker

That’s cool. Just don’t expect a reply next time

I do have a lot going for myself. I’m in school and I have a lot of hobbies and interest but he doesn’t know any of that about me. I post a little photography , some food I like to cook but there’s more to me then that. He honestly doesn’t seem like the type of person to like stuff like that and my selfies. We’re just totally opposite and his girlfriends all look like models. I just didn’t feel him doing that was genuine interest but he did show some interest when I saw him and I remember when I saw him (he hugs everyone including me) but he gave me a hug and he pressed his head against mine and he lingered and gave a subtle smile.

Probably a player

Answer 37

bangyourhead

So if you show yourself on your social media that you are a photographer, an asipiring cook, and your hobbies and interests, maybe he sees more in you because you are more than just a hole. Which is my point.

Answer 38

Asker

Yeah I don't know

It’s flattering but I doubt it’s genuine

Answer 39

bangyourhead

I’ll say it again. You’re not a mind reader.

Answer 40

Asker

True but I just don’t want to get my feelings hurt so I unfollowed him and he unfollowed me. So it doesn’t matter now but I was curious

Answer 41

bangyourhead

So you’re back where you started.

Real talk. If you’re 18-24 as your anonymous profile indicates, you are as hot as you will ever be, and have the most power in a relationship as you will ever have. So stop putting up with bullshit and start taking control while you still have the power.

Answer 42

Asker

What do you mean exactly

Am I the only one who feels like this?

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