Disarming personality, what does that mean?
But perhaps you stoped perusing nice people too soon. Maybe you are throwing the baby out with the bath water. If you tried longer, you might find someone whos act doesn't dissipate over time.
I agree with this! There are nice guys, but sometimes you can tell when the act is fake after getting to know them.(I was wondering if you wouldn't mind if I ask you for advice? It would be cool if you could follow me so I could send u a PM)
I have a boyfriend who is awesome. He’s nice but I could also tell that he was genuine when we started dating. We are very happy
Sure! I’ll pm you
How did you know he was being genuine? Just a feeling?
Thank you! What's your username?
And @RawIronHide, I could just feel it. It’s hard to explain but he was one of the few guys I’d come across that I knew actually cared about me beyond being able to have sex with me. He also invested a lot of time on all kinds of dates. We also click and are each other’s best friends.
Cool congratulations, I'm happy for you two.
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You don't think some guys can just be genuinely nice people.
Your question is about guys who “act too nice.”
Ok but you are being too picky with vocabulary. Of course it's an act, all action is an act. That doesn't mean it doesn't reflect how the person treats all people or sees life as pleasent.
I disagree. There are guys who do “act too nice” which is all fake because they use this act to try and manipulate girls into thinking they’re one way when they’re really just overcompensating for lack of better character. And there are genuinely good guys who don’t give a fuck what girls think so they’ll be themselves and not put girls on a pedestal.
I think I see what you are saying. You think they are acting regardless of weather or not they know it because they are putting you on a pedestal, that makes sense. I think i used to put girls I like on pedestals but I got older and wiser I saw that was wrong. Now I see everyone as magnificent and I treat everyone nicely but people still question if I'm genuine, that's just something I have to live with.
I should add that I wasn't aware I was treating girls I liked nicer than I would anyone els just to get something from them. But I did do it in hopes they would like me more which was very fake of me. But I wasn't trying to be manipulative, I was just being nieve.