Why would you wanted to see more often a girl you think she is in love with you?

- Normally when he asks you if you love him you respond quickly “no”. Today you answer “ I don’t know”.
it is interesting in your entire saga you never mention anything else about your relationship other than sex and his persistent question “Do you love me”.
Your audience never hears about going out on dates, quiet walks anywhere, long deep conversations about who you really are. These other parts of a relationship are the cement that holds it together. It sounds like you are the one who has not been able to let him into your personal space. That private arena of emotions and yes painful events that have happened in your life. You have built up walls that nobody has ever been able to climb over.
Today you have a man who wants to be inside your soul and you inside his. Your answers to his question are defensive in nature and an effort to keep him outside of your personal fears.
Either he is worth letting in or he is not. You need to decide. Remaining where you are in this relationship is not healthy for either one of you.Is this still revelant?- Show All Show Less
You have your reasons. So you are the one who does not want the relationship out for public knowledge. Your reasons are just that "your reasons". No need to share them with the public here in gag. You are just going to have except the fact then that this is a relationship that can go no where other than secretly into bed. That is not a bad thing either. Sometimes that is what you need.
I would go back to an older opinion of mine where I told you to just show up together, seductively remove your clothes while smiling at him and telling him not to worry, I not in love with you, just your cock!
- You only find that out over time. He probably doesn't know why, at the core, he decided to start loving you. Could be how you brush your hair away from your face, cup his balls when you're with him, I don't know, that's between y'all.
Asking why someone who professes love for you would want to see you more? That's just silly, you may never know why they love you, but you can be sure they're going to want to spend every waking hour with you for at least a few months.
If you're still together after a couple months, then you have something a little deeper than the surface. Just roll with it if you want to, if you can't accept it, and are too nervous to "deserve love" or whatever, roll with that to, I was in a place like that for a while. I had other options, I just screwed around until I felt like I could handle another relationship.
Do what you gotta do, but sometimes it's easiest to accept what's in front of you, because only time will prove you right or wrong regardless.Is this still revelant?
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- Girl, people have already told you in other of your quuestions. He likes you, and he doesn't like any other girl like he likes you. You said you don't know and so he wants to spend more time with you to make you fall in love with him and change your mind from a "I don't know" to a "Yes, I love you".Is this still revelant?
@Snickermarstwix But she should first be clear if he likes him or not. If she realize she doesn't like him, then she should stop seeing him and reject him. But not before or she could realize she likes him and regret.
I believe she said they had friend with benefits sort of relationship and now have developed to this weird situation in which he seem to have feelings for her and she doesn't know what she feels.
- I would say what you're feeling is coming from a place of self doubt. Don't let that get to you and don't overthink it. If a person has many options and still chooses you then that makes it even more special. If you want to give him the chance, go ahead. He seems to like you.Is this still revelant?
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893- I'm confused, you basically ask the same question everyday about him asking you if you love him, and you saying that you either don't love him, or you don't know if you love him. What exactly is it that you are asking, or what is it that you want everyone here to tell you?
It sounds like you really don't love him, but are somewhat comfortable and don't want to leave him. That may be fine for you, but since he seems to ask you everyday about whether you love him or not, all you are doing in reality is stringing him along and playing with his emotions.
I recommend that you stop seeing him. If you don't love him, it will be better for the both of you in the long run.ReactLike
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- You must realize and know that he is following his heart you are the one his heart choose and you are who he desires, now you know this guy is he a good man responsible if you had kids will be be able to provide if you don't feel anything for him tell him gently and walk away never looking back it's not about you getting him you don't love him you feel something you 2 need to sit and talk openly seriously if walk away ending it good bye stranger who are you what do you want leave me alone ok take careReact
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- He seems to be really interested in you. Want's to know you more and more. May be on different levels.
`you are not sure`
You in a way assured that there is a *possibility* that he can be with you. Now he wants increase that possibility. And he thinks being with you might increase that.
I personally think you should give him a chance, find out what he is like. Another way would be, tell him you can't be with him (think of a good reason thou, may be some of his bad habits).
If he still continues, and maybe change the bad habit. I don't know what you are looking for. You just got a gem. Otherwise we it's okay he understands that you can't be together. And you both move on with your life.ReactLike
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- I don't understand the issue here? It's like :-
Girl - "Guys are so confusing why can't they just say what they're feeling?"
Guy - "I love you"
Girl - "see so cryptic!"
Guy - "well do you love me"
Girl - "maybe"
This all hinges on the "maybe". It feels like that's actually a no and you are looking for answers that say he is just saying that to get something out of it so that you don't feel like the bad guy here.
Ironically in doing this you are moving pretty close to gas lightning. To me he took the "maybe" as "put more effort in" when it seems to me you want out without the messy side of it all.ReactLike
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- He has options but he has put you in your back up options may be he had gut feeling that you will not leave him bcoz may be thinks you love him more than any other girl
First learn one thing don't become a back up of a guy
Be his first priority if u can't respect ur body and urself that how would you accept he will give you same respect and love
Clarify all doubts with him think twice or thrice
I didn't want to say this but cheq his phone you will get your half answers of your questions and help you making good decisionsReactLike
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- He is being selfish and also being selfless. I dont know maybe you are his peace of mind , maybe he feels like that he can be himself around you. There he is being selfish for his personal purpose. But such feelings are also called maybe love. And he have these feelings for you. But knowing that you dont have same feelings for you , he is trying to love you unconditionally , there he is being selfless.
So there is only time in every person's life , when he/she selfless feeling for someone. And when he/she find that person , he/she will give his/her everything to be with that person. I think you are that person for him.
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- Probably he also likes you or more... If he has more female friends and keeps coming back to be with you, I would say that the feelings are mutual... The best way to know more about it, is to speak openly and sincerly... Open yourselves to each other... If you won't do anything, you might not ever know what could have been... People grow and learn with their mistakes... The first time did not work, but then there is a second try and even a third if you both think it is worth it... Good luck 😉React
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- He wants to see you more often cause he's hoping he can get you to eventually have the same feelings of love for him he appears to have for you. He may have other options but he doesn't want other girls. He wants YOU. That's a good thing if you really like him too.React
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- Well if you love someone and you think that that someone loves you back of course you want to see the person more.. also about the other girls like him part what do you mean by that do you want him to like other girls or are you asking because you think that why would he love "you" if he has so many options because we both know that's very differentReact
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- He obviously likes you better than his "other options". Do you have low self esteem? Did you ask him how he feels about you? If not, ask him. There's only 2 reasons that I can think of that a guy would ask you if you love him, 1) he thinks you do and wants to know (especially if he doesn't feel the same way), or 2) has feelings for you and wants to know if you share them. In this case I'm thinking it's #2, because otherwise he'd probably be staying away from you if it was #1React
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- Because more than the fact that he thinks you love him, he himself loves you and enjoys your company. Bro with you is what he wants and craves for, so it's pretty obvious now isn't it why he wants to hang out with you more often? Also, other girls might like him yes, but he likes you. So for him the scenario is like it doesn't matter who wants him if it's not you. Simple as that.React
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- He is in love with you. Just because you said you dont love him right now doesn't mean that he can't win your love if he acts appropriate. His focus is you and not the other girls. My advice to him is just to hang out, have fun, hookup. If he keeps doing that over and over again without asking you about love.. then you will fall in love with him in a matter of 2 months.React
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- Other girls liking him is not very relevant. You find him attractive, why wouldn't others?
He says he wants to spend more time with you. Given that you have previously said he is getting sex then why would he do that? Possibly he finds you good, stimulating company, and wants to build a relationship beyond just sex.
You need to decide if you want to expand your relationship, or move on, because keeping him hanging us inconsiderate.
It doesn't sound like he deserves to be messed around.ReactLike
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- Honestly there is little point in giving my opinion here if you can't work out that somebody who has options still chooses you over others then nothing I can add is going to clear this up for you.
My best advice then is to not worry about being a brain surgeon it's not your strongest skillsetReactLike
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- He might like you, and also, at the same time, it is an ego boost for him to have a girl around who likes him. It can be very difficult to know which one it is (and it may be both) so I am sorry. This is very tough, I know. I've had the same situation with girls - not knowing whether they kinda like me or whether I'm just giving them an ego boost. Again, it could be both.React
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- You seem kibda dow
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Questions and answers but you seem super nice to me and its obvious that other guys and people like you too. So the question is why dontbyou like yourself or why is it so hard for you to believe that others care about you?ReactLike
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- He's particularly interested in you specifically. He likes you, not the other girls. Just try asking him and he'll probably say the same thing. If you like him back keep going on dates, and tell me how it goes!React
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- This guy is in love with you, he asks that a lot because he's hoping that he has changed your mind but it doesn't look like that's happening so talk to the guy, tell him how you feel about it all and listen to his replyReact
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- Sounds like he wants to spend more time with you so you van decide if you want to be with him or not. Do you want him to see other people? If you think he's attractive why wouldn't others?React
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- Clearly he likes you. Why else would he be dedicating so much time to you over anywhere else? Perhaps he thinks spending more time with you will convince you that you like him too.React
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