I’m very much in love with a man who is coming 2 years sober from MDMA/Cocaine addiction. I adore him, and when confronting him about wanting to be with him, I get told the most important thing is he needs to be selfish to and think about himself while he’s healing. We’ve nearly sexted a few times but he freaks out. He says he’s trying to tread carefully in all aspects of his life, which I do believe, but at the same time he doesn’t make an effort to message me. How has becoming sober affected you?