Don't even have to post my opinion cuz this about sums it all up. Good job 👍
@Chazt3r wow meaning it's true? Cause I just wrote what I have observed in this shy guy who tends to be around me. He did all the above around me. Still I'm not sure if he's interested cause he would never talk to me first whenever he's around :(
That literally describes me when I'm around her. . Like to a t lmao. Try saying hi or getting a little flirty and see if he returns the favor?
I don't know about walking in front of somebody to get their attention. I'd feel like I was putting myself on the spot. The rest is probably accurate enough.
@ColHathi because there were many other pathways he could walk through but I saw that he slid through people instead just to walk in front of me. But I may be wrong too...
@Chazt3r how much do you actually like her if she makes you acted that way?
Being awkward and shy is not a choice :/As an example, I once dodge around and under a cute girl that I liked when she tried to give me a hug, because I didn't want to assume that that's what she was trying to do xD
@ColHathi aww you're so shy. What do you think the girl can do to help you if you're shy?
Hmm, well if he's into you, then approaching him and initiating your conversations definitely helps. Make him comfortable around you and encourage him to be more open and more himself around you in any way you can. One way to do that would be to show your appreciation when he does open up, or at the very least don't judge him too harshly.Be careful with making jokes about him. He may laugh it off, but if he's like me... I don't dare to dance anymore, let's put it like that. That's not to say that you need to walk on eggshells around him, but make sure he knows you're not laughing -at- him and that you would love to see him grow in areas that he's weak in.
@ColHathi would smiling help?
Smiling always helps :p
@ColHathi would you feel weird out if she suddenly smiles at you?
@5thforyou I mean xD I remember an episode of Bob's Burgers where one of the more socially awkward daughters gets themselves into detention because there's a boy there that they like, and during detention she turns around, trying to connect with him through eye contact, and she just sits there staring at him creepily.So yeah, maybe don't do what I just described ^^ Unless they're into it ofc. Uhm... but yeah, no, even if I did get weirded out, I think I'd still be happy that a girl smiled at me. Even if the timing might be a bit off :p Cuz you gotta take into consideration that shy guys or girls might not have that many people chasing them, unlike say for instance the popular guy/girl. So positive attention like that - even if it happens to be weird - is probably way more likely to... make them happy.Plus, if you're interacting with a shy person, it's gonna get at least a bit weird initially :p
@ColHathi What about if the guy always chuckles/ laughs at things you say? Stares at you from a distance? Looks at you but then when you catch them, he looks away quickly but always smiling? His voice becomes softer around you? His behaviour changes from a more chatty person with everyone to being a bit more quiet around you? Has sent you a wink SMS?
is that a shy guy attracted basically? or a guy that may not know how to proceed with asking out? or these aren't signe even
I'm not sure, tbh. It's been ages since I've had a crush on someone, and it sounds like the guy you're describing has at least some guts, unlike me at the time.If he's always chuckling or laughing at the stuff you say, he's no doubt interested, but I'm wondering if he's worried about you losing interest if he doesn't laugh at everything.If he's always looking away smiling when he sees that you've caught him looking at you, that sounds like confidence, which doesn't really match the first thing.His voice or attitude changing could be because he thinks he needs to be a different person with you than the person he is with everyone else. I have a bad habit of trying to appease someone I like by coming off as someone with a more compatible personality instead of just being myself. It's a struggle ^^
@ColHathi I do agree with what you're saying i have realised that he tends to copy what I say to try and sound "on the same level"/ compatible, or even remember things I have said to him and he brings it up in later conversations. I have noticed that when I tell him I liked something, he will repeat it. As you said its not really matching, he shows signs of shyness but also more confidence. I felt shy when i got the winks and didn't even know how to respond.
like what kind of efforts will he show or do?
Interesting, can you give some general examples? :)
Reach out. Try to talk to you, despite the gnawing feeling that it will be awkward. Usually through text or online because face-to-face is just too much. But if you approach them, they're happy, instead of trying to avoid it like they normally would.
This has happened three times: what about if I am talking to him via phone and I am about to end a conversation and he tries to pick some question despite there's been a lot of "long silences"
Yeah, could be. Just to keep you around a bit longer. And maybe to end the soul-crushing awkward silence.
HAHAH. I am always the one who tries to end the soul-crushing awkward silence. By asking questions to which he talks back to me. But then once he answers the questions it goes eerily quiet. Tries to end a conversation with him, suddenly a question buzzes up
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