I reached out twice... and last time we talked was 10 days ago. I'm not the shy type so I didn't mind reaching out and asking if all was well. Thank you for your help !
well then... sadly, you were ghosted honey... move on.
Maybe... We've been good friends, we get along well although he doesn't speak much English we manage to have long deep conversations all the time. It has been 10 days. Thank you so much!!
you girls GOTTA stop using that tired dumb old excuse..."they just want sex"... most men dont just want sex... and should something happen after you have had sex... do your research first or even better, ask questions. chances are he will tell you WHY he left after sex. But no... women LOVE playing victim... so he just wanted sex... its HIS fault.. always.
@Tdieseler If you want sex, it doesn't matter when you want. You can want other things, but when you want sex with us and we're not married to you, we are not OBLIGATED to have sex or even want it if we choose too. That should NOT have to be an excuse to disrespect women or even men just because your vagina or penis is not getting serviced.
Premarital sex is a sin. I am pretty sure you and I already have had this discussion more than 20x. Women, girls, and females overall are now becoming scared of SEX. As is with some men now too. Because you people lie, abuse, use and mistreat what sex is about. God designed sex to be within marriage for a REASON. If those who don't believe in God, care about his morals, laws, and standards choose to do it, and they get upset like the Asker, then their hypocrites and can't complain. But not everybody whether they believe in God or not, religious, spiritual, or not is obligated to just do, just because you men say 'But we don't just want sex'. If you want sex period, and we say no way, never You walk. THAT's the problem. That your response to our no, no matter how logical, moral, thoughtful it can be depending on one's reasons, you give us your ASS to KISS. And often dump other women your screwing with at our faces, and you want to know WHY so many are now saying no and are even commitment-phobic or whore to no end without loyalty let alone cheat. You know VERY well what I am saying and talking about because you do the same. Doesn't matter why the person left after sex. If you know you're not going to be serious don't ask, and reject sexual advances from us so you can be made blameLESS. If you touch us, yes your just as guilty. Nobody is exempt. Period.
Asking sounds logical, but even if you ASK, the person can still LIE. Words should not be trusted without actions nor patterns. As a guy said which is facts, fact, fact! "Don't trust his words. Don't even trust actions, TRUST PATTERNS!" If you got a pattern, you got a PROBLEM.
Sex can be beautiful when done right in God's eyes, or deadly enough to kill and destroy as it did my mother. Many are now either have Philophobia like myself or even Gemaphobia which is fear of sexual relations and intercourse. Maybe your the one who needs to do research and open your eyes to the damage being done by people like yourself and take responsibility. I would have no doubt you yourself may have helped send 1 or 2 women to get psychological therapy or on meds from your mentality and destructive sexual choices.
"we are not obligated to have sex..."... lol... even married women still dont feel "obligated" after marriage... ESPECIALLY after marriage. and wow... what a long response for such a little comment lolUmm.. dont bring God into this first off... secondly, my whoring days ended in '12 and all the people that i made my "destructive sexual choices"... want to come back and make more "destructive sexual choices"... so say what you want.Im just making a simple point.. women should stop playing victim and using that tired old line... its stupid.When i once called all women prostitutes... i got shat on for that... but when women say all guys want is sex... that should totally be allowed.. and the fun fact is THAT IS NOT EVEN TRUE!!! but all women being prostitutes is...
@Tdieseler Married women don't want to be seen as prostitutes for their husbands to begin with. That is common sense and it's valid. BUT, if they had tons of unmarried sex, then their just as guilty too. Nobody is disputing that. And God does have everything to do with it because he created it and you're telling him what he can and cannot do. They come back because they're minds have been rewired and they have studies to prove that. The brain is also a computer. Malfunction is a real thing. Sorry, you act like you lack a college education. Again, God called you men to lead. So if you lead with sex in mind, don't complain about women prostituting themselves even for you. Because you blame us who don't do it anyway.
I have more respect for guys who don't have sex because they know the harm it will bring, as well as guys who admit they just love using people for sex because. Not people who pretend like they want better but refuse to do better. People make mistakes. But YOU since you claim you know so much should be more understanding and compassionate to people who truly do want to live life right and have a healthy sex life. Stop assuming all women wanted to be hoes because I guarantee you many of us don't and didn't. I know I didn't. I know my friends didn't. My parents didn't. The world and society lied. And we're paying for the lies they told.
im starting to think we are talking about 2 different things here. i wasn't talking about married women, AND my education has nothing to do with this... but if you want to go the education route... dont say i didn't warn you.Again... my main topic... was i just want women to stop saying guys just want sex... and i will stick with my theory that most if not all women ARE prostitutes and truthfully i have more respect for the regular prostitute. at least they do what they are supposed to.So called regular women just want the money but no sex... have you read my 90/10 theory? you want a link?
You're called to LOVE, which is God's commandment in our lives. Not use and abused. A husband shouldn't abuse his wife and his wife shouldn't abuse him. People shouldn't abuse each other. Sex should be pure, mutual, loving, and most of all SAFE. Having godly sex glorifies God and makes him happy. What makes him unhappy is when you people use and abuse it. Then asks "What's up with women?" , "How come they hate sex?". You make these assumptions about us but lack the self-awareness of what you do. But complain about what we say about how you just want sex? It's true. You can barely go a minute without thinking anything sexual or turn it sexual. If not by hormones, by choice. That's how God made you men. We understand that. And act like we DON'T. We really DO! But we're tired of being 'forced' into sex and not cared for, loved, or even romanced. There is always intent with sex with you and you refuse to see that. No self-control, no discipline. No real care. Always wanting something. That's like going to volunteer for charity just to put something to look good or your resume or college application but you lack true compassion and humility to pay it forward without seeking anything in return. That's not love. God designed US that way to know the difference and shut it down when it doesn't comply with godly design if not just by her choice. Even if your married, you still have to respect her as well as she should for you. That's love. It's not "Oh come on, baby, honey... this" or "Just a quickie, honey..", "But I just want to kiss or do this..." or "Why can't I/we do that..." That's love? And you want to know why we say that? So blind.
@btbc92 he honestly never asked for sex, I am a virgin by choice and he actually respected that because he's a virgin as well: maybe you're right ! Thank you so much
@btbc92 @Tdieseler I'm sorry I didn't weigh in your debate, I haven't read all the comments (I"m taking a break but should get back to work soon) thank you guys so much for your help !
Go work Asker.@btbc92 you know what i like about you... all this "should" nonsense... you still live in the "should" age... do you think that I dont know what "should" happen? I deal in what ACTUALLY happens... women are fucking greedy and men want sex... period.
Nobody cares about your theories and no. We are NOT talking about 2 different things. We are talking about men wanting sex, women wanting love. Men are being accused of just wanting sex and women are accused of not being sexually invested. It doesn't matter if your married or single, virgin or nonvirgin. A man is a man and a woman is a woman. As long as one or the other is male or female, if even 1 has sexual desires the other wants, there will be CONFLICT. Pretty self-explanatory. I'm telling you whether you as a person and man agree with me or not as a person and woman, WOMEN period as gender and Human sexual identity HATE THAT CRAP. We hate it. Just like most men hate emotional stuff, we hate it when you make everything physical and sexual. Most men are physically aggressive, most females are emotionally aggressive. We're different. That's the point. And when there is lack of respect on both ends, nobody is HAPPY. That's my argument. No need for theories. It's just reality. Some will get it, most will not, others don't care.
All I am saying is this. God made a standard and his standards are THIS according to 1 Corinthians 7 (paraphrased for your ability to understand in laymen's terms):1. Do you want sex? Good. Do you desire it? Good. Desire it for godly reasons? Good. Find a partner, GET MARRIED. Have sex as MUCH as you please. BUT, you only get to choose 1 and you must only KEEP that 1. No trade-ins, no DO OVERS. 2. When you ARE married, remember that marriage is not about HAPPINESS. It is a sexual UNION. That is the point of consummating the marriage. Because sex is marriage and marriage is all about having sex. Don't defraud each other of sex or else you will be TEMPTING your spouse or even yourself to cheat. And it would be a logical reason for the breakdown of your MARRIAGE. [Sadly, the courts nowadays don't care about this either]. BUT refrain from sex if mutual, if seriously ill, and unable to no longer perform. Otherwise, unless there is a good reason for it listed, there isn't an excuse for not having sex. [I would also add signs of abuse be a good reason to refrain]3. If you as a virgin or virgins find yourself going too far where sex will take place, better to marry than to burn and be in sin further. If you marry and want to marry then you haven't sinned. You're free to MARRY. Nobody can stop you from getting married.
4. If one freely cheated (have sex with other people), and you didn't and held your spousal duties, you are FREE to remarry. The other cannot. If both of you cheat, both of you cannot remarry other people and have sex. You either stay single or return to your spouse. 5. If the unbeliever divorces you, let them divorce you. You can't control them. You are free to remarry BUT THIS TIME, they must also be a believer. But if they desire to stay with you, don't divorce them just because they don't believe because their under God's grace and protect just by being and wanting to be with you.6. Widows don't have to remarry if they don't want to. Singles don't have to marry if they don't want to. But if neither can contain their passions, best to get married than be in sin. This is not religious. This isn't made up. This is just flat out common SENSE. If people REALLY wanted something good in their lives how can one reject and at least take this with them? THEY DON'T CARE. Just proven my point.
@Tdieseler Say what you want. But how you live your life is a testament to why nobody should believe you until you walk the walk, not talk the talk. @Asker, don't worry. What I have to say it's not assumptions but speculation. It could be either of those things. But either way, no matter what the reason, that was rude, disrespectful, and unacceptable of him to do. Unless you're a crazy person, you didn't deserve to be ghosted. It says a lot about him.
10 days... Thank you!
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I'm not sure, he caught me off guard sure, but I reassured him afterwards and we had a really good talk, where I made it perfectly clear that I'm interested and happy about what he said.
Maybe.. Thank you!